Can't get over anything

[Dark_skies]

Hi guys, I'm new to this so forgive me for any mistakes.

so, I have depression and I have major issues at school, home and with other people. My mums an alcoholic and says really horrible stuff to me when she's drunk, my dad constantly says horrible stuff to me and thinks my depression is just some common cold type of a disease and that I will get over it. Schools getting to become really stressful for me as the work just likes up and my anxiety goes through the roof, I just broke up with my boyfriend and I feel like everything's caving in. I see a psychologist and take medication for my depression but I've been on it for 7 weeks and it doesn't help. I feel terrible constantly and I never get sleep. I feel as if there is no escape for me, and to be honest I'm done with everything. This is the last resort. Please help 😞

[Neil_1]

Hi Dark Skies  

Firstly, welcome to Beyond Blue ‘well done’ to you for seeking this site and providing your post.   I do really hope that between a few of us we might be able to provide you with some suggestions to help you out.  

This sounds like things are just piling up for you – one on top of the other and when things get like that, well, as you’re experiencing, it can become just so overwhelming.  

Ok, so I do see some positives within your post – that you’ve been to address this on a professional basis  - in that, I’m assuming you’ve been to a GP in order to get the medication that you’re on, and am I correct in assuming that it was through the GP where you were referred to for the psychologist that you’re seeing?  With regard to the meds, 7 weeks that you’ve been taking them – they really should have ‘kicked’ in my now.  

DS, when was the last time you went back to perhaps even get a check up on how you’re getting on (just in general, but also to discuss how you are feeling regarding the meds?).  Do you see your psychologist on a reasonably regular basis, and with that do you feel things are ok with this psyche that you’re seeing? 

May I also just ask at what time of day do you take your medication?  I only ask this because if you take it of a night time, this ‘could’ be a reason for your bad sleeping patterns?  Just a thought.  

 I’m sorry that I seem to have asked quite a number of questions – but it’ll help us be better informed so we can possibly help you better .  

Kind regards  

Neil

[Dark_skies]

Hi Neil, yeah I see my osychologist regularly and we have frequent chats about everything, but I feel as if she isn't working for me and is just making things worse. I take my medication in the morning and I rarely feel happy. My parents just make everything worse for me and they just put so much pressure on me to do well at school. My mum told me yesterday that severe depression runs through the family and that I may likely have it. I have insomnia because all I do is stay up all night crying and thinking about really annoying things. It just seems like it's just one thing on top of another. Even my friends who I have told everything to said that things are going really bad for me at the moment. For once I just wanna smile. Thanks Neil. 

[Neil_1]

Hi Dark Skies

Thanx so much for getting back to us with your reply.

You know it’s so difficult to find a psychologist – in that, one that suits you?  I know that’s probably not what you wanted to hear, but it is good that you have thought this through enough for you to possibly realise that your psych might not be helping you as much as you would hope for.  Maybe you could get back to your GP – perhaps to let them know about your medication and that you feel it’s not doing much or anything for you – even if for them to say give it another few weeks – as they are the professionals in this instance.  Also maybe they could source out another psychologist for you to see??

 It’s not good when parents put pressure on for you to do well at school – or in any thing in life.  As long as you give it a go - just give it a shot and do your best. 

That’s the hard part with my son, who’s 16yo – yes, he goes to school and from all reports (from parent/teacher interviews) he’s going about his schooling very well and productively.  But once he’s home, we barely see him and he snookers himself away in his room.  He also suffers very badly from insomnia – something he may have picked up from me – and has always been a bad sleeper – but it’s really bad at the moment, but what can you do about it??  I mean as a parent, you can’t force them to do anything – and if he falls asleep before 6pm because he’s just over-tired, you can’t very well wake him up – we’ve tried that once before and it really was a bad idea.

 I also get the feeling – hang on, I’m sorry, I’ve digressed so much that I’m overtaking your thread.  Bad of me, and sorry about that DS – I guess I was just trying to relate to you some things that “might’ overlap with you.

Hey DS – are you a music fan?   What are some of your favourite bands/singers that you enjoy??

Kind regards

Neil