Hi . I dont know where to start. but i am messed up and need help. I have been a compulsive liar since i dont know when. I have low self esteem and feel like i am failing. the reason i am here is because i have also not been honest with my wife since we have been together which is 16 years. I lie to protect myself and others , in doing so i am pushing people away that love me the most. Lately over the last 3 years i have tried to change and will stop and think before i say something so i dont fall back into lying but i always seem to do it. I also have a tendency to play the victim and make it look like she is the problem when i know now it is really me all along. I love her so much and i understand how i have hurt her and dont want to anymore. I have booked an appointment to get help. I just dont know what else i can do . i would like her to trust me again, is that even possible. She has told me she loves me and that alls she wants is for me not to lie . I believe that she does love me otherwise she would have left me awhile ago. i just hope i havent done too much damage so it can be fixed. This is just the start of me owning up to my mistakes, lying being the biggest. any advice would be great. Thanks for reading
