gender fluid person

[iwanttoconnect28]

i there im a 28 male person and i feel trapped into being masculine and straight when actually i want to explore the world of lgbt non sexually of course i want to dress up fem and look pretty and have girl talk and drop my masculintiy at the door for at least a few hours and just relax into that space but after trying to do it and coming out as trans fem ive lost my job and been told that being trans is wrong  by my mum and now i feel very depressed and alone, please im just desperate to connect 

[Bob_22]

Hi iwanttoconnect28,

Welcome to the forums and thank you for reaching out here. Qlife would be a great website to check out in terms of connecting and finding support. Their website is here: https://qlife.org.au/ 

Let me know if this helps at all.

Bob

[Mark Z.]

Hi iwanttoconnect28,

I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this. It must be very difficult, especially with the lack of support from your family and workplace.

Remember, it's perfectly okay to explore your gender identity and express yourself in ways that make you comfortable. The key is to find safe spaces and supportive people to share your experiences and journey with. It's also important to remember that there's no right or wrong way to explore your identity. Everyone's journey is unique and valid.

If you're feeling depressed and alone, it would be a good idea to seek help from a mental health professional. If possible, find someone who specialises in gender identity issues through your GP. They can provide you with the emotional support and resources you need during this challenging time.

There are also online communities and organisations that can offer support and advice. Except Qlife that Bob mentioned, Minus18 (www.minus18.org.au) is another organisation that aims to improve the health and wellbeing of, and provide a safe environment for, same-sex attracted and gender diverse young people in Australia. Remember, you're not alone. There are many people out there who are going through, or have gone through, similar experiences.

It's also worth to try to educate your mother about what it means to be transgender (depends on your family's cultural background). Resources like PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, link: www.pflag.org) have a lot of information that can help her understand your feelings and experiences.

If you've lost your job due to discrimination, it's against the law, you could to seek legal advice. In Australia, the Sex Discrimination Act makes it unlawful to treat a person less favourably than another person in a similar situation because of their gender identity.

You mentioned that you want to dress up and have "girl talk". Try to find safe spaces where you can do this, whether that's at home, in supportive social groups, or online communities. This will protect you.

Remember that it's okay to take things slowly and at your own pace. Exploring your identity is a personal journey. You are deserving of love, acceptance, and respect, no matter your gender identity.

Mark

[Community_Pryde]

You are not alone and you are valid.

I just read your post as I have been trying to find a safe space myself.

I'm in my late 30s and I understand the struggle of wanting to not appear masculine or feel that I "have" to just to please other people. I'm genderqueer and it has been a long journey for me. I've been laughed at as well as mocked and my family once thought it was a phase. Dropping in on "girl talk" sounds lovely! I have a lot of respect for those in our community that can totally be themselves.

The two posts that followed gave some good advice and great links I have used most of them myself and continue to do so.

Sorry to hear that you're going through all this. Take time and be yourself, be brave if you want to.

Thank you for sharing as I thought I was the only one feeling this way.

[Serenity22]

Hi bud, you sound like my dream guy. I’ve always been attracted to men who are experimental. I think it’s so exciting. To be that person to hold that safe, fun, new space for my partner is thrilling to me. I’m not the only woman out there like this. Or the only person, for that matter. I’m sorry your family haven’t accepted you. They could just be people who don’t want to discuss sexuality. I know my parents don’t want to hear about my sexual diversity or feelings in general, and I don’t really want them to know, so I can’t relate in that way, but I’m definitely down to chat more, if that’s something you’d want to do.

Xx Serenity 

[Community_Pryde]

Wait, someone replied?

Thank you for taking the time out to reply. I'm definitely experimental in almost everything I do. I'm keeping my parents out of the equation now that I'm trying to go for what I really want.

I'm very expressive and passionate too, I'm trying to learn guitar and I also write a lot of poetry which bugs me when some people said it's dead or a lost art.

I've been finding myself time and again lately with coming out but also just not giving a f and being my true self.

I don't know what else to say but thanks serenity you made me feel less alone

[Serenity22]

You are so welcome. Thanks for being raw and sharing who you are. You’re spot on ho gives a toss what other people think of poetry, or anything you do for that matter. It’s liberating to please yourself. 

[Community_Pryde]

You're welcome. I'm glad I've found a platform where I can share my story and a little bit more of who I am.

I've been oppressed and repressed my whole life not to mention bouts of anxiety and depression. I was initially diagnosed with schizophrenia but now under closer examination I have bipolar.

It doesnt stop me though I keep going through any battle ahead of me. I care about myself, my life and I have care to those who want to share my life with me.

Thank you for being so understanding. It feels like someone other than medical professionals are listening.

Take care and have a great night!