Welcome and orientation

Welcome! If you’re not sure where to start, that’s OK. We’re keen to know more about you and what you’re looking for on our Forums.

FAQ

Find answers to some of the more frequently asked questions on the Forums.

Forums guidelines

Our guidelines keep the Forums a safe place for people to share and learn information.

Pinned discussions

Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
  • replies: 10

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
  • replies: 22

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

All discussions

Bonnie_B Hi I'm new to posting
  • replies: 4

Hi, I've just been looking at the posts and threads- thank you! Just writing some of my thoughts and feelings down has, I think, helped

Hi, I've just been looking at the posts and threads- thank you! Just writing some of my thoughts and feelings down has, I think, helped

Cheetoh Trouble moving on from help that wasn’t helpful
  • replies: 2

I paid a life coach $4000 I was bed ridden, couldn’t walk, urinate, eat or work and my hair was falling out. I would cry for a minimum 12 hours after an appointment. Was he right for me? Clearly not! But he said he could help “fix me” even though I s... View more

I paid a life coach $4000 I was bed ridden, couldn’t walk, urinate, eat or work and my hair was falling out. I would cry for a minimum 12 hours after an appointment. Was he right for me? Clearly not! But he said he could help “fix me” even though I said I would go elsewhere. So I paid more money by this stage I was addicted to his drama especially when I woke up to “Hey help me out on a video I posted” which was apparently of his ex wife’s flying monkeys, I was addicted to drama from my ex and he knew this! I have also been told by a professional that because he used the words “fix me” I became codependent upon him. He told me all the above health problems were leading to my destiny! Now that I’m out of the sycophant phase that he seems on needing from his followers I can see how gullible I was spending the $$$ on his “help” He had a weird and wonderful way of having you as a friend and changing to a client when it suits his mood so you have no idea where you stand. My own friends and Husband didn’t like him, yet I stood up for him time and again in true empath style. Once I even asked him if he was a Narcissist as I felt very confused and crocodile tears followed, which I fell for… And really should any “professional” ask how kinky you are? Or would it be better to ask how is your labido? Even his own mother believes he’s in a cult! In a way he was fortunate with me as I believed I psychologically transferred my ex onto him so I kept going to him for “help” only to find out he is equally delusional of his own place in life. Clearly my trouble now is moving on, I was supposed to start work at 9am and it is nearly 1pm and I still have no drive.

Mav1 Newbie...having a tough time
  • replies: 9

Hi I am new to the forum so here goes.....I am a 49-year-old father of 4 ...2 adult children and 2 under the age of 15...my story so far .... I was happily married to their mother since 1993 and our life together was normal..until she was diagnosed w... View more

Hi I am new to the forum so here goes.....I am a 49-year-old father of 4 ...2 adult children and 2 under the age of 15...my story so far .... I was happily married to their mother since 1993 and our life together was normal..until she was diagnosed with Melanoma approx. 6 years ago.....although we tried all treatments it was to no avail and on June 2015 my wife passed away. As you can imagine my concern was my children as we had already been through previous trauma with my oldest girl having a motorbike accident when she was 16 which left her a paraplegic...it was hard on all of us especially her mum. So after her death, I concerned myself with raising our kids the best I could and helping them deal with the loss as well as my wife's family. I meet someone whom I fell for and recently proposed to her. We have been together for 2.5 years now and I love her and she loves me. We recently got back from Broome we I had proposed to her and for whatever reason the last 3 days I have been all over the place. I feel flat, lost, last night she stirred and asked me to move over a bit and for whatever reason I got annoyed over it and couldn't get back to sleep...I kept thinking`Why doesn't she want me near her...does she does not want me in the room..does she not love me anymore` then I woke this morning still feeling that way ...then I tried not to bring it up but I couldn't ...we then argued as she couldn`t understand why I felt the way I did, and you know what I don`t either, it just leaves me wondering what is wrong with me, am I insecure? The thought of losing her just scares me so. I ask myself why am I sabotaging this relationship when it means so much to me.....

Jo_5 Feeling pretty overwhelmed
  • replies: 3

Hi everyone, I’ve never done this before but I’m really having a super hard time and I don’t know what to do. It’s been one thing after another for a while now and living in Vic with COVID lockdown hasnt helped the stress. Just this weekend I lost on... View more

Hi everyone, I’ve never done this before but I’m really having a super hard time and I don’t know what to do. It’s been one thing after another for a while now and living in Vic with COVID lockdown hasnt helped the stress. Just this weekend I lost one of my closet family members suddenly. I’m so shocked snd heartbroken. I couldn’t see him because of restrictions on travel. Then 48 hours later my best friend passed away and I also haven’t been able to travel to see her in Sydney. These were two of my life’s most favourite people. I feel like I’m made of lead and can’t be bothered to do anything. I can’t sleep, I don’t want to eat. I’m usually a very friendly and happy and motivated person but this has really taken it out of me. Nothing feels good anymore. I’m just so flat. Sorry to be such a downer, I hate to be like this.

JimmyC My Situation, work and stuff
  • replies: 1

Hello everyone, I'm currently experiencing symptoms of anxiety and depression on my work situation. I have gone through so many jobs and nothing has stuck for me or appealed long term. I have either been let off or resigned. I'm confused about what I... View more

Hello everyone, I'm currently experiencing symptoms of anxiety and depression on my work situation. I have gone through so many jobs and nothing has stuck for me or appealed long term. I have either been let off or resigned. I'm confused about what I want to do and am currently unemployed with no income. I had a couple of jobs in the past which have lasted for over 10 and 3 years, I however grew sick of these roles and felt like I never had the opportunity to progress anywhere. My passion has been in printing and design but have never been able to pursue this as I have made wrong career choices in the past that have steered me in a direction that I don't want to go down (blue collar labouring). I wanted a job in digital design or IT which is what I studied in the past but whenever I apply for these roles I'm considered to be inexperienced, which has frustrated me to the point of wanting to give up. I don't want to give up but am finding it hard to stay positive and optimistic on my future endeavors given whats happened to me in the past. I feel completely lost and this has been negatively effecting my personal life, unable to get a girlfriend, move out of my parents house, save enough money for a place of my own etc. It's pushing me to engage in destructive behaviour. I realise that this will get me nowhere but I believe that I need an outlet for my frustration. I play sport and exercise frequently so that helps. I'm currently 29 years old nearly 30 in January. I have friends but most I never hang out with on the weekends and only chat online once every so often. Have my own car so thats handy for getting to places. I have three job prospects on the horizon yet to hear back on. I really want to change my life around and experience what I've missed out on. Any tips and advice would be greatly appreciated.

Gettingthroughthis Hi everyone!
  • replies: 3

Hi everyone. I'm new here and thought I should introduce myself. I'm Georgia, and in my twenties. I've been dealing with severe anxiety, depression and OCD for ten years now. The last five years have been horrible. I've been unable to work because of... View more

Hi everyone. I'm new here and thought I should introduce myself. I'm Georgia, and in my twenties. I've been dealing with severe anxiety, depression and OCD for ten years now. The last five years have been horrible. I've been unable to work because of it, unable to go out and socialise and really had a hard time making friends. There were many times I didn't want to keep living as well. I couldn't answer phone calls or make them. I couldn't even answer the door or even walk down the road. It had gotten so bad that my family had their eyes on me round the clock. I started going to therapy last year after finally being fed up with my life and decided to try medication as well. It's changed me for the better. I managed to start studying this year which was a huge step for me, I've made my first phone calls and I can now answer the door. I'm taking my next big step and decided to make a claim for the jobseeker payment. I'm incredibly nervous about this. I really want to work, but as we all know with depression, stepping into the unknown is terrifying. I know that I'm going to be placed with a disability job provider and that they will be conscious of my condition when finding me work. I was just hoping to know if anyone else had experience with finding work and what the whole process looks like. I'm trying not to get worked up, but my thoughts are racing.

Sophie_M Monthly Forums Update: Reflecting Back on September & October
  • replies: 0

Hi Everyone We acknowledge as communities across Australia experience an easing of lockdown restrictions this can bring about overwhelming feeling and emotions for some. Please know there is support available to work through any difficult moments. It... View more

Hi Everyone We acknowledge as communities across Australia experience an easing of lockdown restrictions this can bring about overwhelming feeling and emotions for some. Please know there is support available to work through any difficult moments. It’s likely that others here may be going through something similar, so feel free to join in and connect across the different forum sections. Community Voices: What are people talking about? Family Conflict/Breakdown Hi everyone, has anyone else had a difficult time connecting with their spouse's family? Or any advice appreciated. I have been with my partner for almost 2 years and its great but I don't feel loved by their family. They are never intentionally rude to me nor have they said anything directly to me to upset me, but I get the feeling they just don't care or want to make an effort to get to know me. - w1nn1e (Read more here) The last week has been rough for me. I've been constantly thinking about the future for myself and my family. I'm just an average 18 year old and my life cycle repeats itself everyday - attending online lectures for Uni, chatting with friends and doing what I enjoy. Recently I woke up to my parents having a massive argument in the backyard, I could overhear some of the things they were saying, including my mum telling my dad to move out. My parents argue a lot, but most of the time it's only over small things... so I guess that day was just overbearing for the both of them. - Xenoviah (Read more here) Health Anxiety I thought I had my health anxiety under control, but over the past month I've gone into the doctors maybe 10 or so times for various reasons, and honestly, if I could go in everyday, I would. – 44Max44 (Read more here) I have been suffering health anxiety on and off for over 30 years. Currently going through a rough patch again and waiting to have an ultrasound. My anxiety is very high at the moment and my mind will not slow down thinking all negative thoughts. - Tugboat (Read more here) Coping During the Coronavirus Pandemic: Vaccines I'm getting my 1st Covid Vaccination today and its causing major anxiety, I'm actually not as worried about myself but I'm seriously having anxiety about my 17 year old daughter, I left the decision up to her if she wanted to take it as she is 6 months off 18 and figured it should be a decision she makes, and now I wish she had decided not to have it, recently the Dr put me on medication to help with the anxiety but these feelings Im having about my daughter are so overwhelming I can't stop worrying about her having it. - Rainbowpolly (Read more here) I’ve recently begun having panic attacks I’m slowly learning to de escalate myself from them. I’d love some insight on fearing the fear or living in a state of apprehension as this is how I can best describe my anxiety at the moment. I think subconsciously as I’m not always aware what I was thinking when it happens that I may be sort of stuck in this state of anticipation of something happening. My anxiety was centred mostly around the vaccine oddly it peaked after having it and I started fixating on the physical symptoms of what I assume is the anxiety… - Moonchild 11:11 (Read more here) Meet Beyond Blue’s Newest Community Champions! Mk2692 Stui Mark Z. chadicha Adalaide Baljit Ric65 Read more about the Community Champion's team HERE Valued Contributor Award Our Valued Contributors for the months of September and October are ‘mmMekitty’ and ‘On The Road’! mmMekitty has been nominated for creating a friendly space across the forums for others to join in and share their journey. mmMekitty also makes sure that others feel validated as well as appreciated for their contributions on the forums. On The Road has been nominated for always checking in on other community members and approaching conversations with a high level of empathy, while offering honest insights about how they coped with their own mental health challenges. Thank you mmMekitty and On The Road ! To read more about what a Valued Contributor is and how you can nominate a fellow community member, please refer to our thread Nominate a Valued Contributor here: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support BB News/Resources Join Coastrek 2022! Coastrek is a fitness team trekking challenge with the aim to get more women moving in nature with Wild Women On Top. Register for events in Sydney, Melbourne, Brisbane and Adelaide online today! How to support a healthcare worker during the coronavirus Australia’s healthcare workers are playing a vital role in slowing the coronavirus but many are reporting increased levels of stress and anxiety. How to check in with someone during the coronavirus pandemic We’re all currently facing unprecedented challenges due to the coronavirus pandemic, and one of the most important things we can do is check in with each other. Strategies for transitioning back into the workplace after coronavirus As we move towards COVID normal, it’s important to have strategies that will help you manage your mental health as you transition back into the physical workplace. Managing social anxiety after lockdown If you experience social anxiety, adapting back to normal life may feel hard. Here are some tips on how to manage social anxiety in the moment. Apple Podcasts: My inner critic: Nobody is harder on me than me Beyond Blue's podcast, Not Alone, aims to connect people across Australia by sharing relatable mental health stories.

Annalee Need to talk
  • replies: 7

I’ve never talked about stuff it’s been really hard first time I spoke up to my sister last night and told her I’ve been like this but hid it. For years I’ve struggled over past things I’ve done that I can’t change I just have to try to live with it ... View more

I’ve never talked about stuff it’s been really hard first time I spoke up to my sister last night and told her I’ve been like this but hid it. For years I’ve struggled over past things I’ve done that I can’t change I just have to try to live with it myself.

mint_s0da Introducing........MINT! (me)
  • replies: 3

Name(s): Mint/fresh Pronouns: xe/xim/xet/xets/neo/neos Age: 13 Nationality: australia Triggers: feminine compliments/puberty Interests: music (lemon demon, will wood, korn, red hot chilli peppers, lovejoy, wilbur soot, video game soundtracks)

Name(s): Mint/fresh Pronouns: xe/xim/xet/xets/neo/neos Age: 13 Nationality: australia Triggers: feminine compliments/puberty Interests: music (lemon demon, will wood, korn, red hot chilli peppers, lovejoy, wilbur soot, video game soundtracks)

DoIThough_ I'm not sure if I have depression, and I can't get it diagnosed either.
  • replies: 5

Halfway through lockdown began, I've started to notice signs of depression. I've always kind of ridiculed people who reach out, as I originally thought they were only looking for attention, but I guess I'm also doing this now. Everything has become a... View more

Halfway through lockdown began, I've started to notice signs of depression. I've always kind of ridiculed people who reach out, as I originally thought they were only looking for attention, but I guess I'm also doing this now. Everything has become a massive effort to do, I feel like I have 1% of the energy I used to have, I am always in "depression", I don't feel worth very much, I find myself comparing myself with everyone better than me. I took the Beyond Blue test, and it says there could be a high chance I could have depression. I cannot get diagnosed as my parents don't believe that I have any sort of depression, and they just credit it to me being lazy. Is there any way to talk to a GP without needing my parents permission? I think I am old enough to realise that I could have depression, but I cannot get diagnosed as I am not the age yet. What can I do?