A warm welcome as you face so many different challenges all rolled into one. I truly feel for you.
In think when outgoing energy starts to feel greater than incoming energy, it can definitely tip the balance. As the scales tip in tiny little increments, we don't necessarily feel it but eventually we reach a tipping point that can be felt. Whether that tipping point is felt as complete exhaustion, felt as depressing, felt as stressful or anxiety inducing, felt as angering and or all of those things combined, this introduces a whole new challenge - How to manage what's become undeniably exhausting, depressing, stressful etc.
I've found the best question to be, for a start, 'Can I manage this alone?'. If the answer is 'No', the next question becomes 'Who do I need to help me manage this?'. It could actually involve a whole circle of people, depending on the areas of life that need some reforming. For example
- A guidance counselor could help provide a much needed sense of direction, while shedding some light on things that aren't always easy to recognise in the dark (depression)
- While the chemical energy going into our bodies (in the way of food etc) may have basically been okay up to a certain point in life, is it enough in the ways of quality and quantity now that the energy demands are greater? Could there be someone who could help reform this side of things, while offering an education? Maybe a dietician
- Still on a chemical energy note, could medication offer some way forward, especially if there's some imbalance being faced (something a GP could possibly help address, for a start)
- With talk of chemistry aside, I've found one thing that tends to keep me down is a depressing lack of inspiration. I'm not talking about basic inspiration here, it's more so the kind you can seriously feel. Is there anyone in your life who truly blows your mind and gets you excited about things? Is everyone simply demanding in some way or they're inside the square thinkers who lack the kind of inspiration you'd thrive on?
- Working for someone who's accommodating when it comes to our needs can also make some difference. For example, if we have 4 weeks leave owing to us each year, is it possible to split that up into quarters or thirds, instead of taking 2 chunks of time off from work a year? In other words, does our boss accommodate how we wish or need to establish our free time in life? Also, could one of those thirds or quarters be deemed as 'solely being my much needed free time' and not about meeting the needs of others (including family)?
The list of examples and the people involved in our circle, when it comes to helping balance things out, goes on.
As a mum to a 22yo and a 19yo, a wife, a part time worker, a mental/emotional/physical help for my 2 aging parents and more, I've found (to some degree) an unbalanced life can also sometimes come down to a lack of structure. How I structure or don't structure my life can influence my mental and physical health. At the moment, things are a little all over the place and unbalanced and I can feel it in a number of ways. Btw, I think the most important thing, above all else, can involve how we speak to ourself through trying times. While some part of us may insist 'You're letting everyone down', tapping into our inner sage can help shed light through the words 'How are these people raising or supporting you at you're deeply challenging time, where life just feels so out of balance and exhausting?'. While it may be easy for a partner to say (in a somewhat dismissive way) 'I have an exhausting life too', the ideal response would more so be 'We need to work out, together, how we can both manage what's become so demanding in our lives'. Our partner can be a part of our circle too.
