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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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Butchy2k Not so new but New
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So I re wrote this 3 times, each time I felt like someone who had no right to have any issues when I wrote it down, I honestly thought coming here and writing down my thoughts and fears would help, but the more I wrote the more I felt I had no place ... View more

So I re wrote this 3 times, each time I felt like someone who had no right to have any issues when I wrote it down, I honestly thought coming here and writing down my thoughts and fears would help, but the more I wrote the more I felt I had no place here to complain or have an issue. I have been here before, in a very dark place, I somewhat changed what I thought was the problem, and it has improved somewhat, but the underlying thoughts and fears remain. its putting strain on my life, my relationship and I find myself tearing up when I think of the man I have become. I am 55 yet feel my life has no meaning, no fulfilment or Joy and yet I should be happy with who I am and where my life is compared to millions of others in worse situations. Not here to ask questions, more here to write publicly some of my thoughts and fears and somewhat bare my soul. I cant kick the darkness inside, I know its there, I suppress it but I cant seem to remove it. I know many feel this way, many have worse situations and at times feel I have no right to feel this way, but its something I cant hide from, I just dont know how to treat it.

Msdolphin Hi feeling lost
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Hi recently I had what I guess was a nervous breakdown due to a work incident. I have had a lot going on,coping with grief and chronic pain. Anyway with pressures of work this incident was the last straw. I'm usually very resilient and just push thro... View more

Hi recently I had what I guess was a nervous breakdown due to a work incident. I have had a lot going on,coping with grief and chronic pain. Anyway with pressures of work this incident was the last straw. I'm usually very resilient and just push through but this incident was like the last straw. I have suffered anxiety and depression most of my life but I usually manage to work through episodes eventually. This time I really am having trouble. I have been trying to speak with GPs but feel they don't seem to listen or understand. Despite getting an MRI that had given a reason for my pain and having had new symptoms that were very worrying one doctor said it was all in my head. That triggered me and I had another emotional meltdown. Thankfully I regained my composure the following day and asked to see another doctor who sent another referral to a specialist to which I'm grateful. Yet I find myself with a supposed care team that is not communicating with each other effectively. I asked my psychologist if she had written a report to my doctor to find that she hadn't. She has been advising not to go back to work due to my mental health and the pain and hasn't advised the GP. When I speak with my GP they say they won't make recommendations about the pain until I see a specialist whenever that is and don't seem to understand that I've been suffering extreme anxiety due to work and that is impacting on my pain and in the process my mental health is crumbling. I know what my body is telling me but I seem stuck. This has sent me into a spiral where I've got to the point I don't want to fight anymore and that I am doubting myself. I have been feeling s.o low I just can't get out of bed and just feel like giving up. I'm not enjoying anything and my thoughts have been dark. I don't know if it is the medical centre that is putting pressure on doctors so that their capacity to really listen to their patients and understand is compromised or what it is? The process of going to the doctor's is becoming a source of anxiety in itself. I feel sick everytime I make an appointment.

Camero my closest family have real struggles
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Hello I am 46 struggling at bit at the moment, well alot. My brother just went through brain surgery to remove a tumour, the surgery went well but there is some permanent damage. My mother pass away a about 3 years ago and my father live with us, he ... View more

Hello I am 46 struggling at bit at the moment, well alot. My brother just went through brain surgery to remove a tumour, the surgery went well but there is some permanent damage. My mother pass away a about 3 years ago and my father live with us, he has dementia and keeps getting lost. My My has Brest cancer and all the problems that go with that. Our relationship is very difficult at the moment, she told me she can no longer have sex. I feel overwhelmed and sinking I have no one to talk to because my closest family have real struggles

That Other Guy Autism
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So I notice there are no specific forums for neuro diverse people? Where are my aspies at? I feel like it would be great to talk about the struggles with being non neurotypical in a dedicated forum?

So I notice there are no specific forums for neuro diverse people? Where are my aspies at? I feel like it would be great to talk about the struggles with being non neurotypical in a dedicated forum?

Sophie_M Oppurtunity to join a Research Project!
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Hi everyone, Beyond Blue are joining forces with researchers from Swinburne University, the University of Tasmania and James Cook University who are keen to learn about your experiences using the online forums. So, who can take part? They are looking... View more

Hi everyone, Beyond Blue are joining forces with researchers from Swinburne University, the University of Tasmania and James Cook University who are keen to learn about your experiences using the online forums. So, who can take part? They are looking for people to take part in a research interview who are over 18 years old, live in rural or remote areas, so places outside of the major cities like Sydney, Melbourne, Canberra, Adelaide, and all other major cities. By taking part, you’ll be helping us to get a better understanding of how the online forums work for people in rural areas. What’s involved? The university researchers would like to chat for about 40 minutes by a phone call or Zoom call, whichever you prefer! Once you’ve spoken to them, you will also receive a Giftpay e-voucher of $50 as a thank you for your time. All responses will be confidential and they won’t use your real name when reporting their findings. If you’re keen to help out and share your experience using the online forums, click HERE Then, they’ll work with you to set up a convenient date and time for a conversation. Thank you!

barok Hi from a new member
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Hi Just want to talk to someone that I can be open. Being anonymous might allow me to be open more compared to talking to family and friends.

Hi Just want to talk to someone that I can be open. Being anonymous might allow me to be open more compared to talking to family and friends.

C_the_hermit Introducing myself
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Hi there, I'm not really sure how to start this, or what to bring up. I know what I want to say, but can't think of an order and I don't want it all to just spill out at once. Ever since I left university 7 years ago from feeling homesick, I've gone ... View more

Hi there, I'm not really sure how to start this, or what to bring up. I know what I want to say, but can't think of an order and I don't want it all to just spill out at once. Ever since I left university 7 years ago from feeling homesick, I've gone deeper and deeper into a shell. No career, no experience, no friends to see, scared of everything even just talking. I spend most of my days in my room, feeling like a burden for my parents who look after me even though they have their jobs. What's worse is feeling guilty for all of it. The regret of not doing what I should have when younger. To be so far inside my own head that escape seems impossible. That now I'm in my 30's and have achieved absolutely nothing in life except consuming time and media. It's hard trying to contain it all, and that's what I have to do because any sort of change puts me on edge. Not being able to get the help I need because of limitations of resources is the cherry on top of the pain sundae I eat everyday. But I know I'm not the only one who feels this, so maybe that's why I'm crying while writing this. I've never been able to follow things as is, so if anyone has any tips I'd be appreciative. I don't want to give up on this, but it's getting increasingly more difficult finding my identity and worth, and not wanting to be a burden anymore.

eliza_s hi! I am new here...
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Hi, saw this website when I googled depression and tried to understand myself. I am ok most of the times, but there are just days when overwhelming emotions that I can't contain just came rushing over me and I feel crazy trying to understand while tr... View more

Hi, saw this website when I googled depression and tried to understand myself. I am ok most of the times, but there are just days when overwhelming emotions that I can't contain just came rushing over me and I feel crazy trying to understand while trying to pinpoint memories when I was a kid as a culprit, hurting over something that it's not even a big deal if I have to be logical about it. It makes me crazy trying to figure out the WHYs of how I am feeling... anger over something trivial , sadness , helplessness, or a feeling that I don't even have a word for it. Talking to family about it doesn't seem to be a good idea, the last time I attempted, I was at the peak of feeling of frustration and I was interpreted as someone who is disrespectful and ungrateful and I am still in the process of accepting that they won't be able to understand me. All the more now, I am scared to be judged on why I feel what I feel so i normally resort to suppressing these feelings over the last few years.

Cee8 Busy life not enough hours in a day
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Hi all, Reaching out due to heightened anxiety and pressures related to struggles finding a daily time balance. Anxiety and expectations are impacting my focus and sleep. Juggling a young family, children and my own extracurricular activities, househ... View more

Hi all, Reaching out due to heightened anxiety and pressures related to struggles finding a daily time balance. Anxiety and expectations are impacting my focus and sleep. Juggling a young family, children and my own extracurricular activities, household tasks, renovations and work is weighing me down and I'm finding I've got not much left in the tank to be truely present for my children and husband. Of an evening I'm looking to alcohol to take edge off anxiety and slow down but this is making me feel guilty as I know it's not healthy. Alcohol is a big social habit with my friends and family, 'lets meet up for a drink & chat etc' hard to avoid even though its often under 3 drinks it feels like a weakness that I indulge in. I believe my anxiety is feeding self doubt, lowering my motivation and impacting my ability to handle daily tasks at home or at work Any tips on how to help, reduce as anxiety and self pressures, prioritise family relationships but also complete workloads at home and at work? Not asking much lol I think I'm seeking someone to resonate with so I feel less overwhelmed.

Lila15 Life is to hard
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Hi, for over 5 years I wanted to leave my husband due to narcissism and accusations he wouldn’t constantly make if he thought I would be cheating on him. I stayed with him as we have kids together, as my oldest daughter was badly bullied, and the oth... View more

Hi, for over 5 years I wanted to leave my husband due to narcissism and accusations he wouldn’t constantly make if he thought I would be cheating on him. I stayed with him as we have kids together, as my oldest daughter was badly bullied, and the other excelled I was so exhausted, I continued to build career, keep study and managed to support myself. I’ve been struggling with anxiety and depression as my husband is demanding, it’s my youngest last year of school and I thought things were going to be ok, but my oldest attempted last week.This has shattered all of us. I’m trying to be strong for everyone, yet have no support as my dad had quadruple bypass and I am unable to tell him as his too weak. I just don’t know what todo anymore? how do we stay strong. How do I do this?