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My husband is addicted to online tarot sites

Tigermoth
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Does anyone have any experience of addiction to online tatrot sites. My husband was daignosed with PTSD in 2014. He wont make a decsion until he consults one of these oneline tarot sites and uses what it says to guide his actions. He is using up the entire household data alloawance sometimes on the site for 4-5 hours a day.
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pipsy
Community Member

Hi Tigermoth. Can I inquire what has triggered the PTSD? Tarot readings seem to sometimes almost be about whoever is reading them. If he consults online Tarot and they seem to answer him, breaking his addiction is not going to be easy. I suggest one thing you could try, allow him x amount of time per month. Once he's used the time allowed, that's all he has for that month. No matter what the readings suggest, stick to the allotted time. With the PTSD, it's possible the readings, to him, allow him to get some peace from what has caused the PTSD. Addictions are hard to break, often breaking them almost means de-briefing. You could try suggesting he consult a specialist about his PTSD, he would need to see his Dr for a referral. Maybe suggest seeing a specialist to try something different.

Lynda

Tigermoth
Community Member
His PTSD was caused by being bullied by a group of students in his university class. He already has a Diploma of Chinese Medicine (Remedial Massage). He was doing a Bachelor of Health Science (Musculoskeletal Therapy) and a group of students who had recently graduated high school decided they wanted to get rid of him from the class as they felt they shouldnt have to work with mature age students. His psychologist blamed the college for breaching its duty of care to him and he was allowed to change to naturopathy. But the slightest thing triggers it, he is constantly angry and depressed and now he has to consult the tarot about everything. Hes on it now and has been since 2pm. I have tried everything from threatening to block him using the site with a net nanny, to trying to reason with him... nothing works. We even had to increase the amount of date on our plan and use some of the food budget to pay for it. He said he doesnt care.

pipsy
Community Member

Hi Tigermoth. I agree with his psych where the college failed to support him. Is he still seeing his psychologist? Unfortunately, with Tarot cards, the reader tends to interpret everything he reads around how he's feeling. Breaking his addiction is next to impossible as some people I've heard of will refuse to work or attend anything if they believe the message from the cards tell them not to. Have you spoken to anyone about this? His depression/anger too is being 'fed' by what he thinks he's learning. Perhaps seeing your Dr and asking about getting some professional guidance to 'wean' him away from the addiction. With depression, the mind often closes to logic and being told something other than traditional medicines will benefit more, can cause more problems for everyone, except the depressive person. A Dr could arrange for hospital treatment as a way of 'detox' if he feels the addiction has taken over, which, from what you say, it has. I suggest a talk with your Dr, explain what happened as far as your hubby's uni experience. Ask if he definitely has PTSD and ask about help to 'wean' him away from the Tarot readings. A psych possibly does not have the power to arrange hospitalization, where a Dr will if he deems it necessary.

Lynda

Hi and welcome Tigermoth to our caring community here on BB;

Your courage in coming forward with your situation is commendable..so kudos! It's difficult to face addictive behaviour in a spouse or partner when nothing seems to work. I hear your frustration.

I know this doesn't sound too great, but at least it's not porn! Just trying to find some semblance of positive outlook in my distorted way.

To address the money issue surrounding your husbands infatuation, you could purchase him a set of positive tarot cards for Xmas. This will alleviate the need for online contact. Hopefully it will also give him a better sense of control which seems to be the underlying factor in his behaviour.

Being bullied, and then made to leave his chosen course, was a horrible way to be treated as well as the Uni allowing the bullying to begin with. It's as if he's been punished for the actions of others...not on! He's in the midst of not having any control or choice re his future. Is this resonating with you?

Addressing addiction is a step by step process. Self insight is the most powerful tool when trying to sort thru the fallout of trauma. Lack of control and helplessness causes people to act out their insecurities when confronted with situations they feel they can't 'fight'.

Bullied individuals are usually intimidated when they speak up to defend themselves and this becomes habitual and hard to escape from, especially when it's a group. This must've been so belittling for him to face.

Buying tarot cards is a first step in his recovery. If he's helped by you to deviate from 'future' readings, to 'psychological' readings looking at 'his' accountability re his life, this might bring him around.

I'd also suggest he approach the Uni to be reinstated to his original 'choice' for the above reasons. (please don't do this for him ok? It needs to be done by him to instil some control back into his life) The group should be severely reprimanded and given fair warning re any more stupid behaviour.

I wish you luck in supporting your husband. Have a Merry Xmas full of laughter and joy Tigermoth! I hope I've helped.

Sara (Hugs)

enzo_enzo
Community Member

Good day to all. my wife is also into tarot and I don’t think that’s a bad thing, it seems to me that in many cases she manages to use them quite accurately.