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Very close friend attempted
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I think it feels right to post this here. Yesterday (9th May 2025, Friday), at school, one of my closest friends tried to commit suicide. Keep in mind that he opens up to me and I open up to him, neither of us open up to anyone else. Since Wednesday, he had been cold to us, then on Thursday, texting in the group chat during period 4, he was being quite rude as well. I had told the rest of my friends that last time he had stopped responding to messages, afterwards he had told me he was trying to ruin his life so he could die in peace. We were worried this was what this time was. Friday, start of period 2, he messaged the group chat and simply said “I’m sorry…”. We didn’t connect the dots until later. We had thought it was just an apology for how he acted. Halfway through period 2 my friend turned to me and was like “wait… he has PE. This would be a good time to go to the bathroom and just…”. We looked at each other for a few moments, both of us connecting everything. Then she said “I’m gonna ask to go to the bathroom.” When she came back, she asked me if anyone had told me, because another friend had walked in who knew. I shook my head. “(Friend) tried to kill himself.” We couldn’t focus for the rest of the lesson. After the period ended we went up to the quiet room. We were in there all day. One of us, there were 4 altogether, had a partner assessment and couldn’t leave their partner, so she went to class. One of us left during period 5. My last friend, the one who had connected the dots, left during period 6, and I went back to class for the last 15 minutes. We had spent the time during the day chatting, about the incident and other things, trying to distract each other and ourselves, and talking to one of the counsellors a few times, as well as me calling my auntie for some advice and just because I needed to tell someone aside from my friends. It hadn’t felt real. Like this should only happen in movies. “It feels like somebody is going to pop out of nowhere with a camera and say ‘scene’”, one of my friends said, “and then we have to move on with our lives like this never happened”. Keep in mind we’re only in year 8 right now. It was a lot. We got a message at around lunchtime from the friend who had attempted, saying he was safe and in the hospital and he just wanted to let us know. Later, around 4pm, he said he was discharged but didn’t know when he’d be back at school. I don’t know what to do with myself now. What are you supposed to do when this happens?
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Thank you for sharing with us here. We can hear you’ve been through some really difficult stuff yesterday and are feeling really worried about your friend. We’re really glad you could come and share this here, it’s not an easy thing to do and we really admire you doing so.
It sounds like you're an incredibly supportive person, and we can hear how much you care for your friend. At the same time, it’s important to remember that you need support too through this. Our lovely friends at Kids Helpline available 24/7 via 1800 55 1800 or webchat https://kidshelpline.com.au/about/contact-us. They offer confidential counselling support, free of charge, to young individuals such as yourself. Alternative, Suicide callback service is a free nationwide service providing 24/7 phone and online counselling to people affected by suicide. Their number is 1300 659 467 and they offer a chat channel too https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au/phone-and-online-counselling/
Please also know that the lovely counsellors at our Beyond Blue Support Service are always available to talk through these feelings on 1300 22 4636 or get in touch with us on Webchat https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/talk-to-a-counsellor/chat
We hope that you find some comfort here from our wonderful community, and please feel free to keep us updated on how you're going, whenever you feel ready. This community is here for you, any time.
Kind regards,
Sophie M
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Hi Artemis
I’m very sorry that you are faced with such a serious situation at such a young age.
Unfortunately, too many other people have walked in your shoes. You are not alone with this weight.
Talking to the counselling services, as Sophie suggested, is a good idea. They will understand what you are going through and share well proven advice.
From my perspective, feeling confused about what to do next is to be expected. I’m sure that you are experiencing a range of emotions (again to be expected), which can make it hard to think clearly. Please try some self care for yourself.
I have lost a family member and a friend through suicide and have always wished they hadn’t left, and that I could have had the chance to tell them how much they meant to me. Your friend would likely appreciate hearing that now.
If your friend feels like talking another great thing you can do is just listen. Literally just be there, sharing time without judgement.
I think you being there and showing care will provide great comfort.
Reminding your friend how great a person they really are is a way to provide hope for better days ahead.
You take care and post any time if you want to talk.
Kind thoughts to you
