Mr and Mrs Panic and Manic. 14 yrs. The high and lows

[Anroca78]

Hi,
So I met my man 14yrs ago. I was 27,he was 47. Many thought our age gap would be challenging. They were wrong. First 4 months of relationship, he was hospitalised for Severe Anxiety. He was suc6a great guy but the illness robbed him of many enjoyable moments for a few months. I was told many times by him that I can leave. I loved him more. The next few months was getting him back and I got to finally see the guy I knew exsisted. Our sense of humour was awesome when were together. MI is unpredictable so when things are stable you have to make the most of the time. Many people saw me as young and having to look after him. My mum was worried that I would have a carer relationship only with him. It had been 7yrs since I lived with mum. She wasn't aware that I had problems too.

[PamelaR]

Hi Anroca and welcome to our forum

I'm sorry it's taken so long fo you to get a response to your thread. Nothing to do with you, just how things happen.

Thank you so much for sharing your good story. It is very pleasing to hear that people with mental health conditions are able to live fulfilling lives, live with the highs and lows. You sound a lovely caring person who is lucky to have such a wonderful relationship - no matter the age difference. Obviously you both care for one another very much and help each other through the low times.

I understand what you mean about having a sense of humour and making the most of the good times. That's a bit like me and my hubby. Always necessary. Sometimes it can be a little shaky especially when I'm up and he's down. It's very easy to turn my table upside down. But the good thing is - we talk and I let him know about how I am affected when his anxiety is running rampant. He also lets me know how he is affected by when I mine is on the loose too.

Not sure about you, but for us it's communication - open communication, keeping the channels open.

Kind regards

PamelaR