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Help got myself in a little pickle

Guest5643
Community Member

Hi

Theres an add on gumtree for someone wanting a dog to stop them from suicide. I replied just saying i understand what its like your not alone, and now im recieving full on messages. I mentioned bbforums to help to no avail. This person said im the first person theyve felt comfortable talking about this and wants to know my age. This person mentioned there on parole i dont know what for. Im now starting to feel extremely uncomfortable about this. Is is wrong of me to completely ignore this persons messages now to look after my mental health.

cheers lynne

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Guest5643
Community Member
Now this persons given me there phone no. Cause i havnt replied to last message. This is getting to full on for me.

monkey_magic
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

Hi Lynne,

Nice to meet you. I'd be wary too bcas you don't know what this person is on perole for or who they really are.It sounds as though your alarm bells are going off and you need to find a way to let them down gently.

Do you have any idea of how to do that or are you just going to stop contact altogether. If you're feeling uncomfortable you have every right to withdraw the contact.

Hopefully they don't keep on contacting you but that's also a possibility .

In that case, assuming this person is male you could always say that your husband ( whether u have one or not) is feeling uncomfortable and has asked you go stop the contact.

Hopefully you'll be able to think of what to say to this person.

Goodluck and let us know how u go.

Hi monkeymagic

Yep this persons male. I ended up deleting the conversations. The parole thing realy scared me. I feel for him in that i know what its like being alive only for a dog. And hes got no friends has trust issues ect. Hes had countless messages of support from people giving help numbers but he seemed to take to me. I would hate him to do something stupid cause i blocked him. Hes crying out for help with an add like that. Its sad when you realy want to help someone but you have to protect your own mental illness also.

Cheers lynne