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[Cuzzies21]

I'm lost and not sure what to do, I've tryed two different psychologists and was told I was too depressed for psychology to work, six months ago I then started on meditation which has kind of numbed all my feelings and calmed me down some what, but now I'm in a calmer state I can see more clearly there's no way out of my situation. Been to ED twice (high blood pressure and chest pain) both times put down to anxiety, constant sweating and shortness of breath since late 2019.

I know what's causing my problems but they can't be fixed.

Just wanting to end my pain

[Petal22]

Hi Cuzzies21,

Im so sorry to hear what happened to your wife that must have been devastating for you both.. I understand now where your pain lays because seeing your beloved partner go through something like that would have been devastating.

Im sorry that the surgeons made a judgment error……. where you able to hold the hospital accountable for their errors?

I understand that your wife has visual impairment but I also understand that underneath that impairment there is still that lovely person that you have always known. She is still in there……

How is your wife coping with everything? She has been through so much.

You are such a loving husband I can see how much you love your wife.

Have you been able to open up to a psychologist about what has happened to your wife?

It’s ok to feel sad, angry and every emotion that comes through you for what your self and your wife have been through.

Im here to chat to you … please come back to us anytime.

[Cuzzies21]

My wife is in pretty good mentally, she's just happy to still be alive.

I'm angry over what has happened and how it happened and the way we were treated throughout this whole journey, Medicare has now refused dental care because technically she has finished cancer treatment, she can barely open her mouth to eat because of all the surgery and only has a few teeth left, top specialist in QLD can't do anything to replace her teeth or fix her speach because of the limited opening. She was on tude feeding for a few months, so I guess lucky to be able to eat at all.

My attitude towards life is my main problem, because things can't be fixed I don't see much point, cancer did start this but it shouldn't have ended like this.

Have tryed psychology, but my attitude is talking doesn't fix anything.

[Petal22]

Hi Cuzzies21,

Your wife has an amazing attitude one that can be admired…… she has been through so much in her life and she is happy to be “alive”…..that’s a true blessing in itself….

Life is the one thing we all have and it’s up to us to make it good or bad within our own minds….

Ones attitude towards one life will make it as we see it…

We can either choose to feed the hate and anger with our attitude and thoughts.

Or we can choose to feed LOVE and compassion with our attitude and thoughts.

The one we feed the most brings out the person in us.

Enjoy your life with your wife…….. focus on the good you have in it….. you have each other and each other’s LOVE and that’s all one really needs.

Im sure you are both a beautiful couple a reignited force….. ❤️

I’m always here if you want to chat