Three self-care things you did today!

[ecomama]

We can do it BBers, we can do self-care.

Sleepy21 pointed out research that shows self-care REALLY helps!

Please share what you do for self-care so we can get inspiration, ideas and motivation to do it too.

Best wishes
EM

[Guest_1055]

Self care for today

1. Got dressed

2. Focused on beauty...A beautiful scent of freshly washed teatowels

3. Listened to a sermon, which started of by explaining "the 2 wolves" and which one I will feed today.

[Clues_Of_Blue]

Hi all,

Seeing good things happening, as usual. Good work, chums. A few self care things for me:

- Got a tall container to fill with water, sit next to the sink and stick the dirty cutlery in. Doesn't sound exciting, but to anyone that's had to hunt for a fork in a full sink when you're just not on top of doing dishes, you know what a nuisance that is! Simple trick, but it's making my life way easier.

- Have implemented my idea of meditating in the car before forest walks. It's going well. Sometimes I end up having a nap instead of a walk, but hey, there's a peaceful time out and it still counts.

- Negotiating a drop in work hours, relative to tweaks in the budget to make it financially manageable. Holy hell I need to work less.

Blue.

[ecomama]

ypla, that's REALLY impressive self-care there young man!!

WOW.
Even being AWARE of other's potential influence over our own behaviours is a HUGE thing.
Letting go of our attachment to the views of others is doing life like a CHAMPION in my books!
Congratulations!

I lived a similar way, dancing to the beat of my OWN drum and am so glad I did!
Dancing is awesome. So glad you had a great time lol.

We SHINE when we are living life true to our own values.

Hey missep, Sleepy, Blue's your self-care is WONDERFUL.
Thankyou for all your posts!!!

My SC recently:

~ eating well, cutting out things that upset my digestion AGAIN lol

~ made a beautiful slow cooking soup in the crock pot

~ had a REALLY important deep and meaningful conversation with my children about them knowing I'm proud of them regardless of their educational decisions. They do NOT have to follow in my footsteps!! NO! True fact is that I don't want them to.
I had no idea that me completing 3 degrees would put so much pressure on my children!
I only did that for ME and my future to provide for my family. My career was what I was in love with, if they can discover a career direction that flicks their switches as mine does still, then I'll be ridiculously happy lol.

~ had Counselling - all good.

Onwards and UPwards lovely people.

EMxxxx

[CalmCat]

Hi Guys,

1) About to go for a walk with a friend

2) Planned to make a nice cake for mothers day

3) Planned to go into the office

[Guest_1643]

well done all!!!

beautiful conversation EM which acknwoldges and makes space for the way we all want to emulate our parents...

Love ur work, Calm Cat, making cakes is so relaxing.

today i -

did the crossword puzzle seated outdoors, surrounded by nature

rested

went to the dentist and spent time asking questions to get the best care

[ecomama]

Hey Calm Cat and Sleepy, I like those self-care things you wrote about... makes me think about things for us here too.

Thankyou!

I've had quite a bit of stress this week, my self-care reflects this I think!
I've....

~ made sure to eat well this week, I cooked alot and ate more fruit and veg.

~ prioritised & scheduled calls and enquiries I need to make, to get through this challenging time

~ reminded myself that it's okay and I've dealt with worse, so I can deal with this too! We are gonna be OKAY, maybe even great! I'll take doing great all the way through. 😉😆🌈🌴

I want to add another one, just because lol...
~ even though there are enormous pressures atm, I'm USING the times when I can't do much about those pressures ie feeding the chickens or being at work, to really ENJOY my moments where I am present.
I can smile, love being where I am in that moment in ALL ways, and feel so much better for the respite lol.

Love EMxxxx

[Croix]

I have a regular appointment with my psychiatrist, and of recent months they have been by tele-health, which is pretty convenient, however facing extra hassles at the moment I decided to drive over and see them in person, it was worth the extra effort. Normally tele-health does the job well, but sometimes personal contact works a bit better.

I listened to a webinar on Safety Plans, specifically BeyondNow, and came away with some fresh ideas to use it better.

Said no to doing more this evening as I was pushed already and will simply read a book.

[ecomama]

Hey Croix!

Yes I think an in person appt is better when we choose that.
In my case I'm staying with the phone calls for now, it's more convenient for me.
But I do think my Counsellor gets a bit distracted when it's over the phone some times, to be honest I do too!

I LOVE being able to make cups of tea when I want to lol.

My self-care today:

~ bought lots of different berries to make a mixed berry and banana fruit salad for tomorrow's family gathering

~ ate my yummy home made soup for lunch (even though I had a late lunch)

~ spent some time listening to my fave YouTube channel whilst being with our new chickens and gardening! Omg I love gardening hahaha, I need it like oxygen I swear.

Hope everyone has a wonderful night.

Love EMxxxx

[Guest_1643]

great stuff guys!!

ur all amazing and giving tonnes of self-care ideas to us all

lifting us all up

[golden82]

Hello everyone,

I hope all of you are doing okay 🙂 Only read a bit on here -

Sleepy, a crossword puzzle outside in nature sounds amazing... I must remember that idea for if/when I am a bit okay.

EMs, a mixed berry and banana fruit salad - YUM!

For my self care - well, I am not sure this stuff counts, but I will put it here anyway, for putting it in writing and seeing it for real...

I have just met with a community support worker who works with ppl for a short time. I have never had one before and so no idea whatsoever, but she has a good vibe and seems kind. I talked to her about my ongoing stress of my GP not helping and in fact I feel doing more harm than good. The community support worker listened, really listened and then said I deserve better than this GP and to find a new one. This was so good, to be heard and supported - I can't explain it, but I think with the cPTSD and other things I doubt myself of everything and put up with whatever, just going round and round in circles. The community support worker helped me to stop doubting myself on this. And so I have made some online apts with another GP 🙂

Then also, today I went to my psychologist - who I have seen approx 6mo? It has never really felt 'right'. Turns out she has misrepresented herself as a trauma psych when in fact a business lecturer and organizational psych. I still keep trying with her, but she doesn't 'get it' or 'get me'. It feels very much a time/job/transactional thing and at $195 a session is hard to justify. Then getting judged on returning to abusers, sort of victim blamed. Rather than seeing how NC with family is hard. I have walked away from her last 3 sessions in a dissociated state, feeling worse about myself than when I went in to the apt. And each time when home having to ring a lifeline to help ground me. Again, the doubt I have has kept me going to her. However, after today - 3rd time on a helpline due to her... the man on the line also gave me the confidence to quit her, not doubt myself and find another, and in the meantime call their line as often as needed. The difference between caring workers and just a job/transactional workers. I think I get it in my gut - just gotta stop the doubt and go with my gut. But it is exhausting trying.

Anyway, so they are my self cares - taking a bit of power back in finding the right team around me.