Three self-care things you did today!

[ecomama]

We can do it BBers, we can do self-care.

Sleepy21 pointed out research that shows self-care REALLY helps!

Please share what you do for self-care so we can get inspiration, ideas and motivation to do it too.

Best wishes
EM

[smallwolf]

1. first cup of coffee in morning

2, watched funny youtube video (with son)

3. listen to adventure zone podcast (cause it is fun!)

One bit of homework I was given from my psychologist was to write down 3 things to look forward to each day. these things might become something to show gratitude for, or self care at the end of the day. It was a way of finding something good each day. worth trying....? Well it worked for me mostly.

[blondguy]

I like this thread..its peaceful...Thankyou EM...(The Bionic Woman)

• Waking up and seeing the ceiling in the morning
• First cup of Nerada Tea in the morning....(looking forward to my coffee afterwards
• Not being involved in senior corporate anymore....I think we are all 'moving forward'

[ecomama]

Hey golden, now YOU are being the Energizer Bunny on the forums! lol.

Yeah the 'ABC Chart for behaviour' can also be modified & used for our thoughts.
It's in your "Backpack of Strategies" now. It could be useful, see what you think.

Today I had to speak with BF about my Baseline Mental HEALTH go to list.
These are:
- eat well
- sleep well
- move more
- cleanse ie shower, bath, hose in the garden lol, whatever it is.

Today he said "I need to work on my depression", I replied "OH don't work on your depression! Do things for your Mental HEALTH!" lol. It took him a while to process what I said.

My self-care today:

* cried when I needed to. The loss of our darling chicken is tangible. I realised my hands felt numb tonight (NOT a good sign... depression / anxiety creeping in and possible dissociation, my psych friend is visiting for a short time in the morning so I'll ask her lol).

* had a wonderful long bath, doing the works and listening to Brene all the while lol. She's great company ANY WHERE for me.

* had a long nap. 6h broken sleep over 2 days was not enough!

* bought a beautiful pink fluffy succulent I'd never seen before in the Nursery today with Yvette. It's in memory of our darling chicken for the front garden. It's ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL and looks sweet in a pot atm. Hopefully I can divide it up into 2 other very large pots over time. A really sweet entrance into our garden.

Thankyou smallwolf, I entirely agree with your '3 things to look forward to'... that really helped me MOVE forward from the horrible traumas I'd experienced. I put events, no matter how small, into my phone Diary with a Hibiscus (ofcourse lol) at the front of the Entry. Then I knew I had that to look forward to.

So my 'thing to look forward to' this week is, believe it or not, going back to work lol!
I miss the atmosphere of a mostly rational space.
I'm going from leave to full time work, from part time for most of last year.
I'm looking forward to sinking my teeth into my work in that capacity.
Maybe all my renovation bumps can heal lol and I can pay someone else to do stuff at home at times; my gardener, a tree lopper, my Uncle taking over renos (omg lol), etc.
It'll be GREAT!

Love EM

[Rynn]

Thank you everyone for all your warm welcomes and so many kind words.
there are so many great self care points listed it’s given me some ideas for myself (it’s so easy to get lost with keeping the household running and what everyone needs you forget to give yourself a bit of time throughout the day).

my three things today,

going to the pool

had an extra long relaxing shower

working on my crochet project

[Not_Batman]

Thanks golden82 (re 22 january post).

[ecomama]

Hello beautiful self-carers,

I've been snowed under with the loss of our darling chicken and then surgery for my daughter's dog which we're still all recovering from tbh. It was very traumatic.

SO here's some self-care I've been doing:

* acknowledging my loss & grief.

* talking with my Counsellor and psych friend.

* doing easy dinners to give myself a break.

Thinking of you all.

Life can be REALLY tough some times and don't we all know it.

I treasure you all, take good care.

Love EM

[Guest_4643]

I'm so sorry EM, thinking of you

[golden82]

Anytime NB. I read you are still having a rough time - are you still self-caring? I hope so - it can only help I think 🙂 I should take my own advice lol

[golden82]

We treasure you too EM. I think your self care is perfectly fitting for your needs right now - take your time. I haven't been doing any self-care whatsoever. But lots of brain cogs working in the background I think thanks to you, J*, Blue posts. This is a positive thing, difficult yes, but positive 🙂

[Clues_Of_Blue]

Hi all,

As usual, struggling a bit to keep up, so apologies if I miss anyone. EM, glad you're taking care of you around all that's happening at the moment, it is especially important now.

J* & Tayla, re bullying - yes, I'm afraid being too nice doesn't get respect. Bullies look at it as either a weakness to exploit or cause harm from, or as something to be suspicious of (because they think in terms of what they can get from it, if they are nice). Just walk away, they're not worth the energy.

Golden, glad my posts help and are a good reference point for you. Cogs turning is fine, you're working in the right direction for self care.

Mine for yesterday/today:

- Beach walk with my partner. Weather turned from crazy hot to rain, we went anyway, and it was lovely. Saw a small flock of pacific gulls, which I have never seen locally before. That was a treat.

- Acquiesced when my partner wanted to get take-away after the beach. Was nice not to have to worry about making dinner when we got home.

- Went for a nice long drive after aforementioned, still felt like driving so just ran with it.

- Had a good talk with my partner in the car, told him about something he was doing that was (unintentionally) triggering me, and he was really good about it, acting to rectify it straight away. Very grateful we have that level of communication/respect between us.

Blue.