Spending Christmas alone

[Peter56]

I am 66, and my entire life has been a story of loneliness. I have never marries, have no children, partner of family. Since I recently was able to retire from work, to keep occupied, I decided to put something back into the community and have been doing some volunteering 2 days a week that has given me a sense of belonging and feel it's given me a sense of belonging and a meaningful connection with other volunteers, staff and their members.

Since my mother passed away in 2021, I have been spending Christmas day on my own at home, which I am OK with.

However, since I’ve been volunteering, some of my colleagues will no doubt ask me how I will be spending Christmas? e (despite being popular) is alone this holiday.

Sometimes I feel like fabricating some sort of story because I feel a bit embarrassed telling them I will be spending Christmas alone thinking that I’m a bit of a loner.

My position reminds me of an episode in the TV series “Happy Days” where Richie found out Fonzie (despite being popular and saying he had plans) intends to spend Christmas day all alone.

I was wondering if anyone has been in this situation how did they manage it when other people asked? e (despite being popular)

[Eagle Ray]

Dear Peter56,

I will most likely be spending this Christmas alone too. I also spent it alone in 2021 and 2022. I do understand what you mean about being asked about it. I have answered honestly and I didn’t feel anyone judged me negatively for it. I think most people are caring and understanding. You may even find someone invites you along to lunch or dinner. I think it’s only a few people who might judge you about being alone, and if they do that’s on them and you don’t need to take on that judgement.

I have a memory of a thread here on this forum on a previous Christmas Day for people who are alone and want some company. So I might start a thread in the Social section on Christmas Day for those of us who are alone.

I feel for you Peter as I’ve really been hit by loneliness lately. I’m in a small town that I just can’t find a sense of belonging in and planning to most likely move back to the city when I’m able. I at least have some friends in the city I have a good connection with.

I think it’s wonderful you are doing volunteer work. Those meaningful connections are so important. I hope you know you are welcome here to chat anytime.

Kind regards,

Eagle Ray

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Peter56

I have a partner and children and grandchildren but I don’t have many friends since I moved to a new town a several years ago after  fires destroyed my home and shop.  I volunteer. I f eel lost at times and I don’t fit in. 

i was wondering could you volunteer on Xmas day at a lunch or go to a lunch at a community centre. 
Feel free to write here when you want to. 
Thanks for sharing your story.