Meditation, Manifesting, Gratitude & The Law of Attraction

[CMF]

Hi everyone,

Not sure where to start so hope I can express myself clearly and maybe with others' input we can expand on this. I'm interested in people's thoughts/ experience with meditation, manifesting, gratitude & the law of attraction. I've recently started using the Smiling Mind app to meditate when going to sleep and sometimes when feeling a little anxious, like tonight. It is something i thought i could never do as my mind rarely stops, however, with persistence, I find I enjoy it. I guess i tend to have a negative mindset which I am determined to change.I always felt uneasy about thinking positive things as i thought i would jinx myself, and that whenever I made a positive comment or felt happy it would go wrong or something negative would happen. So i refrained from allowing myself to be too happy, I guess to 'protect' myself. Recently i have been feeling happier, stronger, expressing gratitude and taking note of when things have come to me when i needed them. Coincidence, or answers to what i put out to the Universe? I like to think the latter. A work colleague one day told me to manifest something i wanted, put it out to the universe , so I'm trying. Example, recently we needed to measure the floor space at reception so we could calculate how many people we could have in at one time. I needed a tape measure, which i did not have. At that moment our handyman walked into the office. Guess what he had? I am getting into the habit of practising positive thinking instead of thinking/expecting negatives. If something 'negative' does crop up, it can be dealt with, it's not the end of the world. I look for the positive in every negative situation. I am becoming more aware of being grateful for little things, things like getting a good car park at work, a warn cosy bed, a tidy house. I feel when i am expressing gratitude I am putting positive thoughts out into the universe and I notice more positives instead of focusing on negatives. Late last week we had internet issues at work and a colleague i found a little annoying. I've been feeling very drained, agitated, negative for a few days. This morning things were not running smoothly for me. A result of my negative mind perhaps? Little things became a big deal, my morning was crap. If i look back, it wasn't really an issue, i just did things in a different order which gave me more relax time this evening. The Law of Attraction, positive thoughts, positive experiences.

What are your thoughts?

cmf x

[CMF]

Thank you therising, 

We didn't message yesterday & i wanted to give it some breathing space,but I was thinking of him this morning and "ping" I got a message asking how my weekend was so far.  We messaged ALL morning.  We have so much in common & think the same way. We chatted alot about tennis as we both love it. We have the same views on players,  his son is a coach, he was surprised how much I know. I was out shopping while we were messaging & was grinning/laughing the whole time.  It is quite refreshing. This will be slow building to whatever it's meant to be. No pressure, no expectation.

[CMF]

I think I know why I had to be in the other relationship so long. So I coukd learn, make more mistakes & learn again & so this one, whatever it is, was ready to start.

[CMF]

One of my daughter's tennis coaches has the same name as his son whi is also a tennis coach. My goodness so many similarities.  We even dislike the same show 😲

[therising]

Hi CMF

I'm so glad to hear that he brings you a sense of joy and, I imagine, some degree of excitement.

Definitely some learning experiences to be had in relationships, especially the ones that deeply challenge us. I think they can teach us a lot about our self, such as with pointing to areas where self development is needed, areas where greater consciousness is required, areas where more self respect is must and so on. They can also teach us what it is we find exciting, joyful, peaceful or stressful, depressing and disappointing. They help us come to better know our self in so many different ways.

[CMF]

Yes, no idea if we will even catch up or not. I feel a bit uneasy about my feelings as I dont know what my feelings are.  We've been messaging today while both at work. He always responds,  maybe out of politeness.  I don't kniw. He did send me a pic last week so I know what he looks like & messaged me yesterday morning to see how my weekend was going. We messaged all morning too. I know I'm overthinking.  I need to just go with the flow & enjoy getting to reconnect with a friend. I guess I'm nervous cos M & I started like this  but he jumped straight in. This guy is a bit more relaxed.  We've both said we need tine to be on our own & not looking for relationships but I'm still nervous.

[CMF]

I think of my last relationship & how it started then ended. We are 2 people who have both said we don't want relationships. I'd love a friendship though. He's so different to my ex who was happy to jump in, then jump out, then cone back but want options. He made my head spin.this guy seems more...calm. not rushing to catch up for coffee, he's seems sincere & encouraging. He's not full of ego like my ex. It's refreshing.  I need to sit back & leave it with the Universe but can't stop thinking about him.

[CMF]

I realise I'm also scared of rejection 😔

[therising]

I think a sense of rejection can trigger so much. With so many challenging emotions and so many challenging questions, it can generate what feels like a never ending list of emotions and questions. A sense of rejection can even take us back in time, recalling all the times we felt this feeling. The thing is it can also lead to revelations, eventually. So, rejection takes us up into higher states of consciousness, down into deeply challenging emotions, sideways and in every other direction you can think of. It's offers a wild and challenging ride and it can feel so incredibly tormenting. It can even be stomach churning or anxiety inducing.

At the end of the day, people don't reject us, they reject aspects of us and that's their choice based on the way they think and feel. We do the same, based on our own reasons. Still, it all remains one heck of a challenge at times, that's for sure.

[CMF]

I'm completely overthinking.  We started talking last friday & I'm already thinking he doesn't wanna have coffee & is just being polite etc. He sent me a pic so I know what he looks like. I gave it space Saturday & he messaged me Sunday so must have been thinking of me.  We messaged yesterday but stopped at lunchtime, we are both working after all. Haven't messaged today as I want to leave it with him now. So because we've not messaged for 24 hours I feel nervous. What is wrong with me lol?

[therising]

I think sometimes it pays to see our self as being wonderful, full of so much wonder. 'I wonder when he'll text next. I wonder what he's thinking. I wonder when we'll actually catch up in person' and on and on the list of wonder goes. If not strategically managed, I find my sense of wonder can get completely out of control at times. It can become time consuming and distracting, shifting my focus away from actively living life. We could wonder all day about what it would be like to holiday in Fiji or we could go there and find out. We could wonder what it would be like to join a new group of people interested in the same thing as us or we could join and find out. Of course sometimes it pays not to wonder, 'I wonder what it would be like to buy that car I'm dreamed of buying, the one that's going to put me into a debt I can't afford to pay off'. 

Sometimes we can be little kids at heart. The more exciting something comes to be, the more we wonder about it and all the possibilities that relate to it 🙂