Meditation, Manifesting, Gratitude & The Law of Attraction

[CMF]

Hi everyone,

Not sure where to start so hope I can express myself clearly and maybe with others' input we can expand on this. I'm interested in people's thoughts/ experience with meditation, manifesting, gratitude & the law of attraction. I've recently started using the Smiling Mind app to meditate when going to sleep and sometimes when feeling a little anxious, like tonight. It is something i thought i could never do as my mind rarely stops, however, with persistence, I find I enjoy it. I guess i tend to have a negative mindset which I am determined to change.I always felt uneasy about thinking positive things as i thought i would jinx myself, and that whenever I made a positive comment or felt happy it would go wrong or something negative would happen. So i refrained from allowing myself to be too happy, I guess to 'protect' myself. Recently i have been feeling happier, stronger, expressing gratitude and taking note of when things have come to me when i needed them. Coincidence, or answers to what i put out to the Universe? I like to think the latter. A work colleague one day told me to manifest something i wanted, put it out to the universe , so I'm trying. Example, recently we needed to measure the floor space at reception so we could calculate how many people we could have in at one time. I needed a tape measure, which i did not have. At that moment our handyman walked into the office. Guess what he had? I am getting into the habit of practising positive thinking instead of thinking/expecting negatives. If something 'negative' does crop up, it can be dealt with, it's not the end of the world. I look for the positive in every negative situation. I am becoming more aware of being grateful for little things, things like getting a good car park at work, a warn cosy bed, a tidy house. I feel when i am expressing gratitude I am putting positive thoughts out into the universe and I notice more positives instead of focusing on negatives. Late last week we had internet issues at work and a colleague i found a little annoying. I've been feeling very drained, agitated, negative for a few days. This morning things were not running smoothly for me. A result of my negative mind perhaps? Little things became a big deal, my morning was crap. If i look back, it wasn't really an issue, i just did things in a different order which gave me more relax time this evening. The Law of Attraction, positive thoughts, positive experiences.

What are your thoughts?

cmf x

[WaterFront]

Hi Everyone,

I've been trying to shift my focus for the last five years from a lost relationship and have done everything that's suggested to move forward with my life. Like, really dedicated myself to get over it. The 'there's more work to be done' is a fresh reminder for me and I thank you for it, though it does make me wonder how much more work as it is exhausting and I really want to be passed this, and not be thinking about it and feeling it anymore. I think it is the rejection, which was brutal tbh, and the feelings of rejection that keep me stuck. I would love to hear your thoughts on that.

WF

[therising]

Hi WaterFront

I think how the other person rejects efforts to make a relationship work is definitely challenging. We can tend to begin questioning the value in ourself. 'Am I not worth the effort? What's wrong with me?'.

In my own marriage, I've found it's more about my husband's nature than it is about me or the relationship we share. It took me way too long to finally work that one out. While I've felt a great sense of rejection at times over the past couple of decades or so, one of the key phrases I've often heard him use is 'That's just not me'. My biggest problem was I accepted that for a long time, 'That's just not him', so I never asked him to do too much that challenged him. The fact is relationships are meant to be challenging in so many different ways. They're not always meant to be easy or comfortable. They're meant to reform us and lead us to evolve beyond who we think we are, leading us to discover the best in ourself (aspects of ourself we never new existed). If the person who rejected your relationship much preferred what was easy, comfortable and enjoyable for them and rejected everything else, that says more about them than it does about you. If they weren't prepared to raise themself or you, when it came to meeting the challenges in the relationship, were they really only interested in what was easiest? Were they rejecting the opportunity for self development, through challenge? Did they want to develop greater communication skills? Did they want to develop the ability to feel more for others, including you? Did they want to develop the ability to go outside of their comfort zone occasionally? ❤️

[CMF]

Hi Waterfront & therising, Waterfront I'm sorry to hear you're struggling to move forward. Always remember to know your worth & what you deserve. I Was in a 5 year relationship which he endef after going overseas with his kids & sister.he had so much fun  1 of those weeks he realised he didn't miss me. No doubts before he left. All normal first 2 weeks but 1 week changed everything.  I told my ex I felt I was never enough for him. He agreed but the truth is, he wasn't enough for me. Therising shared words of wisdom. My ex wasn't enough for me as he too didn't want to lift himself. He just wanted to do what he wanted, what suited him. The challenge was too much hard work for him as it meant he had to face reality & he didn't want to. It was easier to say I was overreacting. He always had & has someone to handle the challenges for him & carry  him if he fell. When he had to be honest with himself it was too uncomfortable. He needs someone whi will just accept & fit in with his world so he doesn't have to make adjustments. It hurts. Yes. I found the rejection hard also. He did the same to me when we were teenagers.  I wasn't enough but I now realise it was about him not me. He was married for 20 years but she cheated for about 7 or more years. Everyone sees her as the villain but now I know what he's like I have to wonder if he was the great husband he thinks he was. Was he supportive of her needs? I think not. He told me when they had kids she was a great mum & he didn't really have to change his lifestyle...really? I have to wonder if he didn't have to or didn't want to so she found solace elsewhere.  Not saying it's ok, but the reason seems clearer. He felt my young daughter was a handbrake our relationship.  That hurt alot. I told him he was the handbrake as he wasn't prepared to change anything in his ways. You deserve happiness Waterfront. I'm sorry the rejection was brutal but there is someone who will appreciate what some else didn't. Please don't allow the rejection to determine your self worth. Perhaps he couldn't handle the challenges & didn't want to lift himself & grow.  That says more about him than you. You continue to shine & the right people will be drawn to your light. I freed myself when I told my ex exactly what I thought. I showed him his flaws, where he wasn't enough & could have been a better partner.  I told him I'd continue to be the beautiful, loving,  caring person that he said I am & I would be that person for myself.

Take care

Cmf

[WaterFront]

Thanks therising and CMF for your encouraging words. It helps me to feel supported.

I'm not curled up in a ball anymore though I carry it with me and am constantly reminded by words and sights. I try to control my environment so as not to be reminded - which is impossible of course. Even so, I laugh, connect, have joy, experience new things, and have moved forward in that respect. I'm not interested in future relationships.

As awful an experience as it was (and the memory still is), it absolutely provided me with an opportunity to evolve and grow as a person. Which I continue to embrace.

I needed some words of wisdom and am grateful to you.

WF

[CMF]

So my ex has been on my mind again & last night I had a dream. I must have been with him & somehow gad his phone. I was looking through his phone but didn't really see anything in the dream. Last night my little one had her yr 7 band night & 1 of the pictures on display was his son's girlfriend, the son & girlfriend I bumped into a few weeks ago. I have a weird feeling my ex wants to message me as I kerp thinking how I'll respond. Will I ignore or tell him to go away or tell him where to go. I want nothing to do with him but every now & then I get these feelings he's thinking of me or wants to connect . He always told me he can't stand the thought of someone not liking him & I made it pretty clear what I thought of him. Me, the one he thought would always love him now despises him. I wonder if he thinks of that or just couldn't care less?

[CMF]

Funny how things align with the right people. S & I are very similar. A few weeks back I was wearing earrings that I  bought in an op shop & loved. S saw them but said nothing.  The other day one broke. I was sad as I didn't know where to find them again in a store. I found them & bought them yesterday. Tonight S & I are going out. He asked yesterday if I was going to wear those earrings as he really liked them on me. I couldn't believe he asked as I had just found them again & bought them with a plan to wear them tonight. Also I keep a toothpick on a coaster on my coffee table. Last weekend S asked " you have a toothpick too". He does exactly the same thing.

I just smile to myself ☺️

[CMF]

It happened again. A thought of M popped into my mind earlier this week. I saw a car like his one way to work Thursday & I got a strong feeling but I'm sure it wasnt him in the car. I got to work & the task picked up was for a house in his street then tonight while out shopping I bumped into his good friend. My goodness,  signs all week then see his friend.  We chatted for a bit. I can't believe things/people keep popping up. I can understand bumping into people but the work task for a house in his street right after seeing a car like his & getting a feeling about it. It's weird.