Day 5 of dry January-quitting marijuana & alcohol

[Emm78]

Hi,

I’m on day 5 of my new life! Been struggling heaps with the emotional tears, insomnia, headaches, nausea, restlessness & frustration of resisting the temptation (as my husband is still smoking, but not in my presence & friends still drinking in front of me).

atm I am unemployed after 2sacking, (1 not my fault)for last 13wks. With no govt help it’s becoming very hard to survive financially & then I have been rejected for every job applied for, I’m struggling to accept my medically 🤬 up body & brain & because I’m trying to be a better human decided to go cold 🦃!

I found night times are the worst as for the past 5yrs my routine was to have a drink and a bong from apx 6pm. Longest I’ve gone is 8 days without a drink and about 2 without dope. Found marijuana.org had some good info & then remembered my friend recommended BB.

The forum helped me survive another night I’m now in bed with a 📖 having cuddles from the 🐕 🐶

Have counselling on Tuesday, so I’ll probably be back on here tomz. Thanks for the vent.

Here’s to clean living!!!! Once all the yukkyness has gone 🥵🤯🤮🤢😄😁😍😂

[geoff]

Hi Emm, oh I know it's so tough giving up the alcohol, like all addictions they are wired into our brain so this circuit needs to be broken.

The big question I have always wondered is why are you OK 4 hours before it's time to drink, but when the time comes, you feel different and need to drink, maybe we have trained our mind to be like this.

You need to have a large tonic water, if you like it, half an hour before the time and something to eat, so once your tummy feels full the idea of drinking subsides, then half an hour later, that's when you feel better.

The time to drink is what you have to overcome.

Emm don't worry about the crying, although it's always very sad to know this happens, but this will gradually subside over time.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

[Burdy]

You are doing really well Emm, stopping at just one is great. I unfortunately found once I had one I got the taste. But it's ok and I will just try again.

Thanks Geoff, I know I don't need to be hard on myself and if I make it a big issue I'm going to fail (bit like when others keep at you to quit smoking, the more they go on about it the less likely you are to stop).

I dont blame hubby at all - I should have clarified that I haven't really told him that I planned to stop. Funnily this is the first time in ever he has thought to get me a drink, he is usually quite thoughtless and only worries about himself when we are out. Also I have an issue with his alcohol consumption which I made a thread about. I have discussed this with him on numerous occasions and he will abstain for a few days but then falls into old habits again quite quickly. So I thought enough talk and I need to lead by example and just stop drinking myself. So far he hadn't really noticed that I wasn't drinking.

Pleased to say I didn't drink yesterday but did struggle with some huge cravings in the evening. Distracted myself with a game of cards with the kids.

Thanks guys

Burdy 🐦

[geoff]

Hi Burdy, thanks for letting us know, you're still doing a great job and please understand I'm with you and Emm all the way.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

[Burdy]

Thanks Geoff and can I say you have been a huge support here, it is always nice to read your words of wisdom and encouragement, so thank you!

Every day that I dont drink is a bonus and the more days in a row the better but I'm not to beat myself up if I slip up.

I did it years ago, just stopped drinking one day and didn't look back for 10 months. So I know I can do it, just got to keep reminding myself.

🐦

[Emm78]

Hi Burdy,

totally understand the taste for it! I got that Friday but thankfully sat at a car show it was premixed and I used Geoffs drink a soft drink so having that when I don’t like it made me so gasses I was burping constantly 🤪I didn’t want another drink until we got home to mates house but I after an hr I left so I didn’t have any more

thankfully they are a little bit supportive so didn’t push the issue.

Have a great week! Keep up the good work 😘

[geoff]

Hi Emm, drinking the soft drink is to make you feel full and if it makes you gassy that's actually good because you don't want any alcohol.

Take care.

Geoff.

[Emm78]

Hi Burdy & Geoff

hows things? I had a really bad night with no sleep again!

I’m so over not sleeping or sleeping from 6am onwards, I think I’m gonna have to go back to doctors....

I’m doing my sleep routine, no phones hr before, cuppa tea with a bickie, a shower then a reading to escape reality!

Today I was a makeup model for my friend So being all dressed up and no where to go we went for lunch at 12 they had pizza and cider for $15 ( which was delicious 😋 Then at 4, I caught up with a friend that I hadn’t seen for about a year we had 2 Prosecco’s 🥂 and then I came home and poured a vodka & lemonade, but I can say it’s taking a very long time to drink it and I not sure if I’ll finish it just so I can have a good night sleep or if I’ll tip it out but either way. It was a good day with mates but a bad day for saying no!!!!

Good news still no Marijuana 🙌👏🏽😁🥳

[Tess2]

Hi Emm78

you are doing great. Just don’t use having a drink to do it again. I had some bubbly and wine over last weekend but am not drinking now.

Tess

[geoff]

Hi Tess and Emm, it's been hot, I know that's always a problem especially when you're trying to stop the alcohol, so it ain't easy.

Still no Marijuana and that's great, but please have a look at these sites to cure your sleeping

-https://greatist.com/health/cant-sleep-advice-and-tips

-https://alcoholmastery.com/quit-alcohol-sleep-5-tips-how-to-sleep-when-you-stop-alc...

just copy and paste these individual sites, I'm sorry don't know how to put a blue link so all you have to do is press it, but will find out how to do it.

Don't be too hard on yourself it takes time.

Speak to you both soon.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

[geoff]

Hi Emm and Tess or vice -versa, I have replied back to you but have provided a couple of links so it will be held back until the moderators come in.

Thanks.

Geoff.