When you are lead on while their partner is pregnant
I am there with you... that is a recent pain I have felt and still feel, and realising more every day that I fell for him more than he ever considered me....
I will say it is his loss. That you are clearly an amazing, trusting and caring person and he doesn't deserve you. I know it doesn't take the pain away, but I'm hoping the support helps.
You are not an idiot, you are human, and humans have feelings, that's just the way we are. It is natural to feel something for someone that shows you that attention.
Trust that it does get easier... though it will take time... and you are not alone.
Hello Lily, and a warm welcome to the site.
I agree with Becca,'it will be his loss', it's not your fault to know his partner had a baby, that's what he didn't tell you, simply because he was out to be more than someone who was messaging you and you weren't to know of his current situation and whether or not the baby was actually his or the pregnancy was caused by him.
A true friend who talks with you for 8 months by messaging you and grooming you into believing they're single, but in fact have a partner with a developing family is certainly not a person you can trust, but please don't blame yourself at all, you weren't to know.
If you had a 3 year relationship and messaging between the two of you started and lasted for almost a year, you would imagine having a coffee together would have been organised.
We develop strength in one way or another in many ways we had never known from different situations that confront us and fortunately, this was an occasion you were able to pull through.