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What does this mean , wth is wrong with me, is anyone else like this ? l need so much space.

Guest_1584
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Hi bb .

Really hoping for some insight and feedback here because l can't afford to see someone.

My partner is down again from her city , been down a few wks now and can stay indefinitely right now as she's had legal business up home but it looks like that could be done for at least this yr now.

We've always lived really well together she's easy to be around , does nothing to make me the way l am no one ever has really although my ex w def' use to get a bit much which also made me head for solitude but at least there was a reason . Thing is , with my partner bow , friends or people around , even my daughter , l just become in desperate need alone time after awhile. lt doresn't matter who it is or how much l enjoy them around , l can only take so much of it but then l just have to get away for some time to myself.

My partner doesn't understand how l'm like this or why and she does nothing to bring it on , being around anyone after a certain amount of time just does and if l don go off and hide out alone for awhile l just gt exhausted and in filthy moods.. l'm talking daily. Even her or say my daughter who is the easiest person you'd get to be around , and she likes her space too , yet even with her.

l mean l'm a fun person and do love some fun and social time , but then ok , l've had enough now l have to go. With my partner if we're both around all day night which l work at home and she only works pt so that's quite often. l'll need a few hours to myself before she gets up , then a few more later in the afternoon and even after that l like if l can get it an hour or so before l go to bed , just alone time. Because although we do sleep beautifully together , l just don't feel like being ion bed bside someone all night without another bit of a break first.

l'm bloody weird , l've always been like this but it is a bit worse now as l'm older and since divorce l've either lived alone or spent a lot of time alone, Wth can't l cope and just enjoy relationships and being with special people like everyone else. My gf can be around me 24 7 , so could my ex w , so can my daughter , wth is wrong with me,

Any feed back appreciated . rx

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Hey em.

Well thankya for that . But isn't it bizarre that l was actually abused in another forum and basically told all about what a shyt dad l was and had people assuming and jumping to all sorts of crazy crap. The internet eh, and they wonder why our kids have so much trouble with life these days.

rx

Hi Rx you're a great dad

i think i'm going the wya you mentioned of entering break mode.... not much work at the moment available .
i wanted to go away but with such poor sleep I didn't feel so confident driving a long distance

so i'm hanging around but taking a break from a lot of pressuring things for a bit. Making my own headspace of a holiday

Sometimes i just like to hang out in different area, like you - mine is a bit... well... not me.

I have been doing a bit of research on other areas... one spcae I considered moving to but have found it it's likely quite similar to where i live now... hopefully will get it just right

Hoping this year goes well for u and ur daughter. U never know what good things are round the corner

Hiya sleep and thanks for thee nice words.

But oh man , l do wish of course for my daughter but it's another lifetime away right now, we're just prayin she can get through this first of all.

as for me yeah l love the end of a yr and a new yr myself , yaknow , it's like a restart isn't it and a chance for one.

But yeah that's the go if you can't get away you've gotta make yourself at least switch off for awhile and make a holiday out of it haven't ya. l won't be going anywhere now either but l don't really mind l couldn't even think straight enough to anyway and it's better l stick around too right now so.

hope ya manage to make a nice time out if eh.

rx

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ecomama
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randomx said:

Hey em.

Well thankya for that . But isn't it bizarre that l was actually abused in another forum and basically told all about what a shyt dad l was and had people assuming and jumping to all sorts of crazy crap. The internet eh, and they wonder why our kids have so much trouble with life these days.

rx

Hey rx

I'm hearing you. You know yourself better than anyone and feel empowered by that knowledge and eff the rest.

I've been through THE worst accusations and allegations printed in official Court documents up there on a big screen in Courts.
All pure unadulterated lies.
I KNOW that.

Even my children's minds were twisted in ways only psychopaths know how.

BUT the advice I got from my angelic Counsellor through all that was "be persistently and consistently YOURSELF". Minus the unbridled fury ofcourse lol!!

Finding that peaceful randomx deep inside and bringing that out to people who deserve to see him.

Let HIM SHINE out.

Everyone MUST ignore what the naysayers say and do.
The 180 is the only way to go with these kinds of people.

To do all this takes some pretty radical self-care rx, so I hope you endeavour to do this.
You are SO important to your daughter and family, partner and YOURSELF.

You've been a sacrificial parent and that's how parenting goes some times.
It's an altruistic past time that's for sure!
It's esp this way when we're doing it right / doing it tough.

Praying that your daughter can overcome this troubled time.
Praying that you all go from strength to strength.

You have GOOD on your side!
Remember that.

Love EM and YES! HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Hey em . It's always been very obvious of the type of mother you've tried your best to be and against so much bs nit yeah , the people out there .

Thankingya kindly though and yeah l know what l am and have tried my best to be too , haven't got it all right but eh. So things like that are mostly water of a ducks back to me and no surprise. l mean they've been in world forums and your well aware of the smartarses , the blind, assumptions , twists and conclusions of some of the people in those places and the garbage they're gonna jump at, sooooo predictable , l just shake my head tbh. But what is upsetting sometimes is that it's not an easy thing putting it on the line about things going on or that you might be going through or trying to figure out, yet the shear callousness and such lack off , well just about everything really, from some of them is just mind boggling.

Anyway , a big ho ho ho to em and the family . rx

ecomama
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Hey rx

No one gets parenting right 100% of the time, no matter how they like to portray themselves lol!

NO ONE.

And you know, that's freaking LIFE, ya know? When my children echoed the demons criticisms of me 24/7, I'd always say "I've never claimed to be perfect nor tried to be, so don't expect it. I'm HUMAN".

Since the demon has been out of our lives there's a supportive vibe now. THANK GOD.

I shuddered when I read that part of others being cruel on forums... that kinda bs happens everywhere and it's SO unnecessary!

Like these ppl get their kicks out of ummm what?

It's ugly.

IDK I think we reach out to others to just simply connect, hope that someone out there may have felt the same way and maybe have answers or are just treading a similar path, know what I mean?

Our wounded and scarred psyches are begging to be soothed and calmed.
Aiming for healing seems too far out a hope at times.

Peace is a good aim.
I'd like to get rid of these mozzies for some freaking PEACE lol.

Ho ho ho to you too.
Almost Christmas, dare we hope for a miracle? I think I've had my fair share of miracles. Sending lots of miraculous energy to you rx!

EMxxxx

My gf is about THE most healing person l have ever met , we heal each other and need the same things at the same times in the same ways. lt's a beautiful thing with her like that. Of course couples should have this but l've never known anyone like her or our combo to anywhere near this degree .

Anyway . l'm mostly been sleeping again , so far , about 2wks give or take now. l used good dreams for the first wk and then started fading with nothing but also most importantly with no bads either- hope l haven't just jinxed myself there butttttt , so far so good.

rx

Hey em .

Yep , behind a keyboard and the ability to tap away to anyone and give their so called advice or so they think , for some is just too much power, goes to their head , they can't handle it . Stating the obvious l know . lt's amazing , and even amusing to sometimes if your a regular somewhere you'll actually see it develop in some posters and it all going to their head.

Anyway , Christmas is done , 10mins later and it'll be next Christmas again , ohwell. But l hope everyone got through , maybe even had a nice time , bonus . Very chill here and ate well too , that's the main thing haha.

rx