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Struggling.
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Hi all
My partner went overseas to spend time with his family as hes not from here and it wasnt anything out of the norm for that to happen. He visited there every 18 months or so. I stayed here because financially we cant do that trip as a family - we have two children - every 18 months.
He went for 4 weeks. Its now been 10 months and still not home. The intial months passed as a blur. He told us he was staying overseas and not returning...our world collapsed.
Didnt see that coming at all.
To say we're still struggling here is an understatement. Im going to see a therapist as this anxiety and feelings of rejection and the anger are still there.
I feel I am overloading my loved ones for advise and what to do and thought Id be in a much better place by now.
Hes returning back here in a few weeks. He misses his kids too much. I dont have a clue how Im going to handle it when it happens.
Thanks
Leonie.
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Hello Leonie, you must have so many unanswered questions. It's no surprise that you are still feeling the anxiety of uncertainty, the rejection at being left adrift and the anger at being left to raise the family by yourself, because there has been no resolution to this. And with your partner now returning, the feelings will be all coming to the surface again.
With a few weeks to go, there's still time for you to make a plan of how to handle things when he arrives. There must be a lot going through your mind. What would you like to happen next?
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Hi
Speaking as a mum i would be taking steps to make sure he can not take the kids out of the country. We see it time after time. That would be my biggest fear. Do you want him staying with you? If not prepare and set boundaries
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Thanks, Bethie for your reply.
The children are far to big now to coax out of the country. But I have taken steps re their passports etc not being anywhere in the home.
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