Izzy12345,
I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this, just know that we are here for you on the forums. I've also pretty much just come out of a similar situation, except I was in a relationship with this person prior to the situationship arrangement.
Just to clarify what Grandy is asking, from my reading of your post, you're referring to the fact that you haven't hung out with this person one-on-one without having sex, correct?
Does this person know that you have feelings for them? That could be an important factor, because then the question of whether or not they are using you becomes a little clearer - if they know you have a crush on them and they are hooking up with you regardless, it sounds like they may be using you, as tough as it may be to hear.
In my experience, this kind of arrangement doesn't work if one person has feelings. I've just experienced it, and trust me, the downfall after it ends is not worth the pain of staying in it for the gratification or validation of feeling like they want you. I know, it feels exciting that they're into you, even if it's not a reciprocation of the way that you like them. He sounds like he's only interested in a rebound for the time being, as much as it can be difficult to hear.
If you want some advice from somebody who's just been through it, try to be strong, or stronger than I was. I let myself be emotionally hurt by my ex out of fear that I'd lose him and the attention I was getting from him. I knew I needed to experience what that was like so that I won't put myself in that situation in the future - I needed to experience that kind of heartbreak to move on fully. At the end of the day, it's better to cut yourself off from that situation and focus on building yourself up in other ways (hobbies, passions, seeing friends and family), and wait for somebody better to come along. Subconsciously, not necessarily going looking for somebody if you don't feel like you're ready.
You deserve to be valued and respected, especially in an intimate setting like that. It's honestly not worth the heartache if he's not ultimately respecting you and your emotional needs.
Hopefully this helps. I know how much it sucks. It really does. But your happiness and emotional needs should take priority.
Take care, and know that you are so loved and supported.
SB
