Sad

[Sammy]

After divorce from a long marriage at 40, I got out of abusive relationship where husband had bipolar disorder and alcohol issues but didn’t agree that he had problem. Left him and raised my daughter till she finished school and now she is 20! Stays with me. I have been lonely since she finished school .Met someone from Canada who is a widower. I really liked him and we had been talking every day for a year. We both have met each other and stayed at each other’s houses and now nearly getting plans to live in together . He has agreed to move in. Don’t know why but I am feeling nervous about this new stage in life. Have been single for 10 years, past trauma from abuse and fear about how new life will be etc is making me feel anxious. My mum who is very pessimistic thinks my boyfriend is too smart and it’s all from what I told her. She hasn’t even met him as she lives in different country. She has always been an overprotective woman. When I was soo sad and lonely no one supported me to allay my loneliness. Now that I have finally found a person to live my life with, everyone is coming to scare me away. 
soo annoying that I am such a scary cat. Instead of enjoying the life that I have made and be grateful for all the good things… I am brooding 

[TrueSeeker]

It is hard when our past makes us feel like that, our life can sometimes give us knocks and it affects the good things that happen to us.

I experienced a similar thing when I met my partner that I've been together for 24 years now. I even wanted to break up with him just because I thought I couldn't handle another possible heart break. I decided that I won't let my head spoil a good thing and will take it a day at a time and enjoy every moment with him. Nobody can take my past great experiences from me. In case, something does happen, I still will have the past that was great and it was all worth it. Great memories stay.

I hope that it helped a little bit, please let us know how you're going

[Sammy]

Thanks a lot that was soo helpful

to be in the moment and make great memories with him

have to be self aware that past has made me that nervous and emotional.

bless you