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Hi Mary Ploppins,
Sorry to read you are stuck in a hard place right now. I don't have any solutions for you, but do have a listening ear.
I'm not sure how you get someone to move out if they don't want to go. It sounds like yo have made it clear in some respects that you don't want to be hassled by his behaviour.
Could you organise a counselling session for you and your husband together to openly discuss the issues with someone acting as a mediator?
If you don't mind me asking, do you have your finances sorted out? That might be something to consider if you have joint accounts.
Try talking to your Psychiatrist about what is bothering you the most right now. Write down these issues on a piece of paper and take it to your next session and tell her that is what you need to talk about right now.
Are there some things you can do with your children to help you feel better about life? Are there activities that you enjoy doing together?
Hope you manage to come up with some ideas on how to deal with your issues.
Cheers for now from Dools
I'm sorry for the situation you are in and also for having OCD, that's something I've had for a very long time, but from what you've told us, this marriage is now two people living under the one roof.
Finances have been questionable, he's not being honest with you, and understand how you feel.
I wonder how long is left on the lease, but if he has only signed the lease then there is no problem you can leave and there are ways for you to get your own flat, as there are emergency flats/houses you can move in to, which are furnished, depending on which state you live in, I know in Vic this happens.
Secondly, if you are on a DSP then Centrelink will help you and provide the bond money, also you can contact Anglicare for advice and they too will be able to help you, but it would be great to hear back from you, I'm here till about 6.30 am and back later on.
Hi Mary Ploppins,
It is horrid feeling like you are stuck somewhere you don't want to be. I understand that wanting to leave is not always that easy!
From what Geoff wrote, sounds like you might have some options for help.
My husband didn't want to attend counselling either. I managed to talk him into attending once. He sat there the whole session mentioning everything that was wrong about me, basically told me I now knew what I had to fix and that was that.
So yer, I get the fact that you might not be able to get any answers out of him nor be able to drag him off to counselling.
Hope you manage to find some answers.
Cheers from Dools
There are 'emergency accommodations housing in QLD' so you can type what I've put in inverted comma's or go to your council.
This housing is for a short time, so it's temporary, but may help you move out, but please talk to Anglicare.