Hi Goldie,
I'm so sorry to hear that you've been dealing with this, my heart breaks for you and your daughter. Thank you for sharing your story so openly and honestly, and welcome to the forums.
It sounds to me like your husband is not giving your son the discipline that his disrespectful behaviour may warrant, given that from what you've said, it appears that your son would most likely listen to your husband's
It sounds to me like your husband, out of the two of you, has more power to influence your son's behaviour, but perhaps doesn't know how to, understand the severity of your son's behaviour, or have the confrontational instinct to be able to discipline him effectively.
It may be worth having another really open, honest conversation with your husband about your son's behaviour, the effect that it's having on you and your family, and to discuss what the best way of dealing with it would be. It's important that you're both on the same page about what disrespect looks like, how it affects you all, and what you both consider to be reasonable discipline/consequences. I'm not sure how old your son is (and you definitely don't have to disclose that here), but the level of consequences will vary depending on his age.
Have you had a chat to a GP, therapist, or psychologist about this situation at all? It may be helpful to have some professional insight and support, and they may be able to give you some really good tips for managing your son's disrespectful behaviour, particularly how to respond in an appropriate way, whilst also taking care of your own mental health.
Do you have any other loved ones who you could confide in about how you're feeling? It can also help to have some insight from people you know, or even people who have been through similar situations. This is why support groups can be really impactful.
I hope this helps in some way, please feel free to keep chatting with us if you'd like, we're here to help you and listen to you.
Take care, SB
