I don't like where I am in life anymore.
Hi BecH, I have also been where you are now. It is true we do grow and we do change. Part of my depression i battle with was because of this reason. It is okay to feel lost and to feel sad, we don't always know the direction we are going. after spending many years trying to get into the police service it didn't eventuate. I was lost as i didn't have anything else that i wanted to do.
It is normal to feel this way many people do at different times in their lives. It's also okay not have all the answers. At some stage we re-evaluate our lives. My advice is never be scared of change and in the short term while you feel this was set your self some goals no matter how small they are they can provide purose until we work out where we are going.
If you change your appearance this will mean that you will meet a new group of friends who may be able to associate with you on a different level something you could be wanting.
What I am doing now is completely different to what I was 20 years ago, simply because my tastes, my ability and capability have definitely changed and so has my desire, I suppose it has to change.
Friends are scarce but a true friend will stick with you through thick and thin and are definitely had to find, but as time progress's your lifestyle will change and whether these friends stay with you will depend on how well they can change with you.
Just a thought, people decide they want to move o/s or to another part of the country because when they have been there for a visit they have enjoyed themselves, however to live there, all aspects maybe totally different. Geoff.
Welcome to Beyond Blue and the forum. It's great to hear from you.
Geoff and Atomik has raised valid points. We do all change and often in that change we lose touch with some people and find new friends. I can honestly say now i don't know if i actually like any of the people i call 'friends' anymore. I suspect you don't actually dislike them, you have grown apart and are finding new directions in your life. You have not grown away from your partner which is great.
Think about your life and friends you have had. School friends who listened to your greatest secrets, work colleagues you interact with on a different level, your sports people. When my children were small and went to kindergarten I made friends with some of the other moms. I have moved away and do not see them anymore. I think you get the picture.
Your hobbies and activities are also changing. I have always sewn but it has been in spasms. I no longer play squash and now my children have grown up I do not help in the school tuck shop etc.
If you decide on a new direction in life then go for it. It's all quite normal. Will you be able to find work in Japan? That would be my only reservation. Go for it and enjoy your life.
Everything you have all said is exactly how I feel. I too am going through a cleansing/purging period in my life. Life is meant to be enjoyed, for the most part. If situations/people aren't enjoyable for you anymore, let them go. I have become quite harsh the last couple of months. I have a few "friends" who if I didn't contact them we would never speak. I stopped contacting them and guess what? We haven't spoken in months. So stuff them I say.
I am a dark clothing and piercings girl too ! LOL.
Adventures are good.
Oh man can I waffle !
Hi Velvet, yes i feel like i am being harsh too. A couple years ago i decided i needed to get out and do more so i took on the 'YES MAN' idea to life. say yes to (almost) anything your invited too. It was great i got out there and did so much!! I went on some awesome adventures. But now i'm starting to take on a new idea to life and that is 'YES do stuff but only if YOU want to' and im finding i want to do less and less with my so called 'friends'. they still contact me but its me. Its me that doesn't want to do stuff with them. Take today for instance. I got invited to drinks after work. 3 people are going. I would be 4. I said no because.. well of the people that are going...i would rather go for a walk by myself. Is that wierd?
No Bec, Not weird at all. I completely understand where you are coming from.
I am sick of being the "yes" person too because you end up cutting off your nose to spite your face so to speak.
I went for a walk yesterday and it was the best.
What sport do you play? I am rather active too but no longer on a sports team. Getting too old HAHAHAH.