Hi Martins and welcome.
All of the posts so far have been solid and I agree with them.
But I wanted to raise another issue that for me is very important. Obtaining an annulment through the church and through the government. This is not the same as divorce.
An anullment says the marriage was invalid in the eyes of God and never existed. It also says by law you were never married.
One accepted reason to ask for an annulment is fraud and deceit. This man lied to you to get you to marry him. He hid issues from you that he knew you would not accept. If you had known you would not have married him.
This is a good website that explains it...
www.gotocourt.com.au/family-law/annulment-of-marriage/
Obviously I don't know if you share my beliefs and it is ok if you don't. But if in the future you wanted to marry someone and they wished to marry in church you will require an annulment.
Another reason this might help you is for closure. Marriage is important and incredibly special. You loved this man enough to commit to him in front of your family and friends (and God if you feel as I do) and he deceived and hurt you. I can understand why you would want to run. I would too. The reality is you do not know this man except to know he is untrustworthy and selfish.
I'm sorry if this post sounds silly to you or offensive. I just wanted you to know even within the law what he has done is not permitted.
Nat
