Hi again Nat
Guilt has a role to play here. Automatically we the srnsitive turn the focus onto ourselves instead of looking at the ligic of the other person.
Beyondblue Topic the labyrinth of friendships
Beyondblue Topic I'm tagged a nutter, what about them?
Essentially we hold others on a platform well above ourselves, when we dont consider they could be- not compatible with us, selfish, narcissistic, personal issues...I mean once I was keen on a girl and could understand why she held me at bay until I found out she was gay!
So, step outside your spinning mind on such occasions to consider-
"It might not be ME"!
I also think relaxation could be beneficial to you.
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Beyondblue Topic Maharaji he helped me for 25 years
Ideally Nat, let it go but I want to acknowledge that it is easier said than done.
Moving onto new friendships is often better on yourself. Friendships can be complex or reasons they dont work out might not be us but could be them.
My motto is to keep meeting people and discarding ones on a regular basis that dont treat me as I treat them, but I try not to judge why because I'd tend to blame myself and that isnt fair to me.