I can't find the right place for me to post

[Moonstruck]

I don't know any more where to put a new thread if I make one, or which ones to join in. I always used Anxiety because that is my major condition but that has been relatively under control lately - I feel Depressed today - but I don't qualify for the topics there either. I'm depressed mainly because there doesn't seem a place for me. I love some of the threads and personal thoughts for example in Staying Well, but I can't join in there, because I don't have any tips for Staying Well.

I tend to have almost paranoid thoughts through over-thinking "problems" that I would like to talk over but don't know where to talk them over before they reach the paranoid stage...I want to avoid that. I join in the Social threads saying light hearted jokey things because thats the only place I seem to belong.

I dwell on any problems my adult sons have in various aspects of their life and want to "fix things for them" - our relationship is very loving and close though - they are wonderful to me - so there is no real "problem" with my relationship with them....so I don't seem to belong in the "relationships, family" section either do I?

I worry about them all the time - when I tried to express this on forum I think it was misconstrued that I had "empty nest syndrome" - trying to adapt to my sons' leaving home....No, that's not it...they've been gone for years and years...I am a grandmother.

I liked the Getting to Know You, or is it Me? thread very much - but have been given suggestions how to start my own thread and what section to use etc and get the feeling I'm being steered away from there too.

So I am still confused. I don't feel particularly anxious today, so this shouldn't even be in Anxiety! Do you see my dilemma?

In fact the more I write the more I feel like crying - I don't know where to go next.

[mmMekitty]

Hi Moon,

Having a heart, loving your son as you do, & his troubles seem to impact you just as much as they impact him, is certainly understandable, but I can't speak from experience about any of this. I can see how you are torn between wanting to get in there & be mum, like when he was little, & the need you recognise to look after yourself &, therefore not get so much involved that it makes you mentally & emotionally unwell. It must be like walking a balance beam, a very stressful thing to do.

One idea I have, though I admit I haven't looked into it, is to take some time to see if there are services which can help your son with the practical & emotional aspects of divorce. Going through divorce is thought to be one of the most stressful things people may do in their lives, so, if he needs help, he has every right to seek help. All you can do is show him there are places where he can go for such help.

Believe it or not, Moon, your mind is probably thinking clearer than his right now. Do you think you can help iby doing some reasearch on his behalf?

If you find some options, be careful how you offer them to him. No 'should' about it. You could say, "Son, these are just some places I found that might be of use to you. I'll leave the list with you, okay?"  You could incluse BB's counselling service on the list, too.

He might be thinking talking about what he is feeling is too much to put on you. He might even prefer to talk to someone else & not 'burden' you.

& I'm happy to read OW quotes, anytime.

Hugzies

mmMekitty  

[mmMekitty]

I like that quote from OW, Croix. It's wonderful.

Hugzies to you, Moon & everyone

[Croix]

Dear MK~

Then you'll love his opinion on cats:

"Cats are put on earth to remind us that not everything has a purpose."

Hmm - decoration? Give walruses a hard time?

Also T.S.Eliot:

"For (s)he will do

As (s)he do do

And there’s no doing anything about it!”

Croix (who heartily agrees wiht Mr Eliot)

[Croix]

Dear Moon~

I'm just popping in to see how you are going, I hope all is well

Croix

[Moonstruck]

Fetch me a Shrubbery!!   Been busy hoping that helps me. Soon as Game finished started some work for boss. Son has rental.

Nothing finalised 're property.

Still terrified he will get nothing. Young son loves being with him.

Wants stay there ..not go home to mother. Daughter the opposite . Won't return Dad's messages

.nor mine or phone calls. Feel I have lost my grand daughter. How I handle that? What does my son do when his boy rings crying.

Saying Dad please come and get me??     Why so many man haters among groups of women these days?    Has anyone noticed?  

[Moonstruck]

Thanks for asking..i just replied but heres more.  "Its just a flesh wound".  I get overwhelmed..thats the word. Carrying huge loads..don't know how to...detach..step away..can't explain. Can't 100% enjoy..be relaxed..plan, work out things, give anything else my full attention

Sad...scared..on verge of tears ALL the time. Get confused.

[quirkywords]

Moon

so sorry you are going through this with your son. 
I think there are just as many women hater groups a. S man hater groups when it comes to custody. It is sad when children get caught in the middle. Your son is fortunate he has your support. 
take care 

[Moonstruck]

Hey folks....guess what now?  It's just gets better & better doesn't it?  Rushing in unfamiliar shoes along a gravelled/cement path.....yep...tripped and fell, right down. No one around to help me up. Felt so silly lying there groaning, in pain.   Left knee swollen up to six times its size and area all around and down my grazed leg...is black!  not just bruised.....black and dark blue tones....rather startling.  The pain all along that side of my body is  like nothing else.....think I probably bruised ribs, feel like been kicked in the chest by a horse....or just come out of a boxing ring!     Life is just full of surprises isn't it folks?   as Forrest Gump said "Life is like a box of choc'lits....you never know what you gonna git".......

[CMF]

Oh dear Moon,

Wish I was with you to give you a hug.  I'm so sad to hear of your fall. You are such a dear friend Moon, i don't want you to be suffering.

Gentle hugs to you dear Moon

Cmf

[quirkywords]

Moon

that is fear of mine falling as I walk a lot.

Have you seen a doctor.?

please take care and rest, sending hugs.