Alone..Depressed..Sad..

Ggrand
Community Champion
Hi..I'm new here..just need to put my feeling down..no one to talk to makes depression and anxiety so hard...the last 4 days I have either been in bed crying or on the lounge crying..I can't seem to get out of this...I am becoming a prisioner in my own home as its getting progressively difficult to go out.. I have to go out Tuesdays so I do everthing on that day but it's like I'm holding my breathe all day until I get back to the safety of my home then I can let go and that starts the cycle again of spending the next 6 days at home either in bed or on the lounge sad and depressed...I really feel like just giving up.. My husband passed away 4 years on This coming Thursday. My children live 6 hours drive away and have small children so I don't see them that much.Bad mum and grandmum I am on there last visit i was pleased to see them but I just wanted them to go home. I feel so aweful and numb atm..
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HeyJude
Community Member

Hello again Grandy - thank you for making me feel so welcome, especially when you are struggling yourself. That is so special. We have so much in common...I too don't like being in a vulnerable situation due probably to childhood abuse and others abuses that followed off and on throughout my life. I don't know much about exposure therapy but will follow your experience there with great interest. When it gets tough you have a soft pillow to fall on here at the end of it....so many love and care for you here.

I also relate to not feeling much joy in anything now.....but I do find some reprieve and relaxation with cross stitch and beading.

My husband who is all I have, is very sick. He has cancer and other ills. It's hard to watch his suffering and to lose the only person who ever really loved me. My daughter abused me today and left.....I just cried and cried. I would of laid down my life for her and she doesn't give a hoot about me. I feel so alone. I still do my volunteer work, I love to help others, but not sure how long I can keep it up if I go down any further. I will try and be more selfless.

Your posts and others on here does give me hope. I am so grateful for that. Thank you everyone.

Your fur babies sound so cute, the love they give unconditionally is one of the good things in life to treasure.

Hi Peppermintbach - it's so nice to meet you also. Your username is a breath of fresh air, I can smell the mint - so refreshing. Do you like the beach?

I liked the advice and how you let everything out to your pillow - when alone in the house I talk out loud conversation style hoping someone up there hears me. It's a bit sad I know, but it does help release tension. No one else would listen lol.

Such a wonderful thread with beautiful people. Thank you for your kindness Grandy

Jude 💖🤗🌹

demonblaster
Blue Voices Member

Hey darl/s 🤗

Caught up lovey. The chest pains are back, not liking them but theres a lot of stress and probs more to come to get outta this. Hope it is stress/fags think so too but appointment gp thurs.

Catch up with you later darlin.

We'll get there Grandy hold on sweet heart

Love you 🤗💜💑

Hi lovely Grandy (and a wave to all),

Hopefully your MH nurse gets back to you soon. She’s kind if I remember correctly...

Yes, I agree exposure therapy can be very tough. So I’m rather concerned when you say will have to “do them on your own.” I feel that’s very worrying...is there not going to be any support?

This is just my personal opinion so it may or may not apply to you personally but generally speaking, I feel before a person even contemplates exposure therapy (ET), there needs to be very strong trust and rapport between the patient and the clinician (psychologist usually). I feel if there isn’t that rapport and trust, it’s off to a rocky start with ET. Those are just my thoughts but perhaps it’s something to think about....

Please give your fur babies extra cuddles from me 🙂

Love and care,

Peppy xoxo

Hello Peppy,

Thank you very much for your concern, I tried it earlier this year..it was to hard, bringing down to much...This is my psychologist suggestions...I don’t trust her, she lied to me and about me to others , my trust has gone...people have hurt me too many times, even my psychologist who is in a position of trust....If I can’t trust them, who am I supposed to trust?

demonblaster
Blue Voices Member

Grandy everyone heyJude 😁 love your name it makes me start singing beatles song. Welcome to bb darl. Sorry to hear of your pain too. Listening hun.

Grandy precious 👂🏻to you and everyone for that matter 👍. Some days it's easier to and others the mashed potato isnt it treasure.

Sweetheart I'm with you, you know how much I love and care about you 💑💜 and that will never change.

Bbl hun 🤗

Ggrand
Community Champion

Hello Deebi, and all.

Im okay....really......Deebi, I need to accept that my psychologist is causing me stress and I need to move away from her. My mhn rang me yesterday and I was 😢 when she rang so she is calling in to see me on her way to visit the lady in the other town....

I just read you post..must have 🛬 after my last post....

Please be okay...I’m so pleased your seeing your gp on Thursday, but if they get worse at all, even the tiniest bit please call the ambulance 🚑 ...don’t talk any chances at all.....

.Will visit yours later today...I have some fish 🐠 treats for D&E..and some freshly squeezed orange 🍊 juice for you I want to bring over to yours..

Please be okay..I know tonight will be stressful for you..re:- card signing....always here for you special friend...if you need to talk after....

Thank you very much for your love and care..💜🦄🤗...

Love you as well Deebi...💜🦄 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩 Goes deep inside me..

Grandy..👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩🦄👼...

demonblaster
Blue Voices Member

Hey sweet Grandy thank you 🤗

Been thinking a lot on your psych situation.

If they're like that maybe they could hook you up with a better one and one day you might feel you can clear the air when you're feeling stronger, your call hun.

Like someone said you see the nice mhn shes new , isnt she?

I find it hard when they know you and a lot of info, for that reason for me it's also hard to move on, maybe try to put your trust in the good parts of your MH team and do what they thinks better for you do you think

Soz have to go

Thanks so much always

Love you 🤗

Hi demonblaster - I love your name too. I would dearly love to blast my inner ones that keeps this black dog looming. Thank you for your care and warm welcome, means a lot. You brightened my day 😊

Grandy - Sorry to read that your psychologist hasn't been honest with you - that is so hard when we feel we can't confide in those we should be able to depend on. Trust is so important in these type of professional relationships in order to heal. Is it possible to try someone else? Some good advice from demonblaster - putting your trust in the good ones. Trust is such an issue for us whom have been badly hurt. I do understand. Sitting with you in care and understanding 💜🌹

Sending a warm hello to all who passed through here. I hope that are some peaceful and uplifting moments in your day x

Lee lee 73
Blue Voices Member

Hello dear Grandy,

Just wanted to say a BIG warm hello to you. HELLLLOOOOOOOOOOOOO 🙂 🙂

Thank you for being you. Take each day as it comes......small steps are the best steps.
Lots of love and care beautiful lady - warmhugs, kisses, smileys, puppy dogs and kitty cats emojis

Lee xxoo

Hey beautiful/s

Grandy hope you're doing ok lovey, I didnt get a chance today to finish my post to you but it's sitting in notes nearly finished re veranda. Hoping tomoz or soon after.

Duh forgot I said we'd be back Sunday for card signing, well I remembered but forgot todays Saturday kind of 🙃 lucky (like bloke) rang. Thought I had tomoz to sleep in but can. Just have to plug at it. Can't do anymore than that.

Glad you're having more rain. Lonng time coming.

You be ok dear friend. Love you ☺🤗💜💑

HeyJude ☺ nice to hear and thanks. Don't give up lovey there's more they're learning and we do have the strength hun and here there's so much experience and people talking which is what we need to be doing. Great support. Magic place bb.

Hey Leelee here's a lend ☺🐶🐕🦊🐺 cats are a bit average but love most of the others

Best everyone 🍃

Nigh nite Grandy, when I'm better I'll cook you a yummy meal and look after you little Angel, you deserve extra special love and care. 😚💑