Feeling numb

[Ch3r]

Hello, I am new to this forum. My anme is Cher and I buried my 52 year old husband 2 days ago after he died on the way home from work and sufferred a fatal heart attack. I am feeling like crap, I dont know what to do, or say , I just keep crying and living in a constant dream. 😞

[Neil_1]

Dear Cher

Please accept my deepest condolences for the terribly sad loss of your husband.

The emotions that you are experiencing now would be flooding through every part of your body.

It is great that you’ve been able to reach out here – you will receive a lot of support and posts back to you;  it is a wonderful community on this site and we take everyone in and provide as much guidance, help and above all, support.   And this is what you will be needing now and in large doses – support.

Are you able to share at all, what mechanisms of support that you have at the moment?   Other family members;  friends;  perhaps your GP??

And if you haven’t been able to yet, it might be a very good thing to go and see your own doctor – this situation is just so raw for you right now and you will need as much help and support as possible.

On the top of each page within this website, Beyond Blue have a crisis number that can be called (1300 22 4636) – and answering will be trained counselors – this could be another valuable option for you.

Thank you so much for sharing your post Cher and please please, if you’re able too, it would be wonderful to hear back from you soon.

Kind regards

Neil

[white knight]

Hi Cher,  welcome here also.

My sympathy to you and your family. Tonight I've written a thread called "making sense of grief" please feel free to use search on top of the page to find it or look under new posts.

But above all you have to go through the process of grief. There isnt much anyone can do but as that kind man Neil said - we are here to listen and support. We've been there to.

Finally, if you want to listen to someone talk sense and place your mind in a comfortable place then google "maharaji sunset". He also has many other youtube sites that helped me

Take much care.    Tony WK

[geoff]

dear Cher, I would also like to wish you my most sincere condolences, as Neil and Tony have said as well.

How can we really tell you that it will alright, well we can't, because it's a grieving process that you will only have to settle within your own mind, and even so it's a memory that you will never forget about, all those good times, the love shared between the both of you, the hard times which the both of you needed support from each other, so it's a time in our life that no one can ever begin to accept.

The passing away of someone who we really love can never be a time that ever comes easy, it leaves a hole in our heart, which can never be replaced, but what we can do is try to lower the grief that you are suffering by being able to talk, console and understand your grief.

Please have our trust because this is a site to help people with any sort of problem, so when you feel like it I hope that you reply to us.

Take care. L Geoff. x

[Neil_1]

Hello Cher

I just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you - and please know that on this site, there would be SO many more thinking of you and hoping that you are going as well as you possibly can in such a terrible time for you.

Kind regards

Neil

[Ch3r]

Thank you all for your kind words of support. I find I am having my good days and my bad days at the moment, I have followed up with a doctors visit and also will start some grief counselling next week. I have read a lot of forum and such and It has helped me I believe. I now just take it day by day. Cher 

[geoff]

dear Cher, thanks for getting back to us, you know some days can feel so muchlonger than other days and these long days will mean that you need the most support you can get.

It's good that by reading other posts can be a way of being able to understand the fear of losing someone you love, because it doesn't happen directly but indirectly.

Please stay in touch with us, because we have taken you under our wing. L Geoff. x