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[Hoodinny]

How much more dose someone have to take b4 they break???, I've had 2 back operation an in that time my beta half has had 2 lots of mini strokes, told she has mums disease has gotten frozen shoulders (both of them) an last week we where told she has the onset of parkinsons.

I've had to deal with being the black sheep in my family my hole life, like I'm a criminal or drugo this im not, but having to deal with my backnis one thing but what em i going to do when the misses getting bad an needs me to do more for her how em I going to help, like I can't even dress myself sometime with the back pain I get.

Sorry for complaining guys but it's this I'm sick of being dealt the shit hand everytime with everything, I know life isn't eazy but with do I get a break I can't deal with it its all getting way to much 4 me 2 deal with to be honest I over it I don't know how much more I can take, I just wanna leave this earth an go else where but how do I do that!!!

[Katyonthehamsterwheel]

Hi there

That's really a lot. No wonder you're feeling like it's all too much. Life can be very unfair and I'm sorry that you're going through all of this. It sounds like you also don't have the support from your family that you would like.

From a practical perspective I'm wondering whether you would be able to access some assistance to support you to meet your wife's needs. It would be worth having a conversation with your/her GP, or even ringing the BeyondBlue helpline to have a chat with them and see if they can refer you to someone. What do you think?

Katy

[james1]

Hey Hoodinny

I'm so sad to hear about the health troubles you and your wife are having. You're right - it's really not fair sometimes and I absolutely understand that you feel just ready to break. The father of one of my good friends has parkinsons and it's a really scary disease to think about, especially when the practicalities of taking care of each other become really tricky.

The best thing we can do is see if we can get help from others, whether it's making sure you've got good doctors to help or getting friends and family to help out when times are tough. It sounds like your family perhaps isn't as understanding as you need them to be - do you or your wife have anybody else close who you can count on to give you a hand when either of you need some help?

In my friend's case, they've moved to be closer to family just so there's some more practical help, but also just general emotional support for getting by each day. It doesn't make the situation any more fair, but at least they get to enjoy the company of loved ones.

James