Moving for uni, feeling lonely, adult things, depression and lots of sleeping

[Toughavocado33]

Hi there! I'm kinda struggling a lot.

I moved states to attend uni to focus on my dream goal of doing art as a living. I moved into a sharehouse/boarding house almost and we live our own lives with little interaction. I sleep through the days, skipping uni classes and have racked up a heavy amount of work to catch up on. I've missed one deadline - my first assignment. I don't know what to do. I don't have any motivation to do anything. At first I did. I went to the library and got out a mass amount of books related to my units and was so keen to get started. But everything went down hill. I don't have any family here and didn't move with any friends so I have no support network. I'm sorry angry with myself. I was a pretty successful high school student that that excelled in my studies but obviously with the change everything is messed up. I don't know if I should move back home, stick it out... I've missed the time where we can say we don't wish to continue uni anymore for the semester so I've already got a small debt waiting for me anyway. Everything is just a stupid mess.

Thank you!

[Sophie_M]

Hi Toughavocado33,

We are sorry to hear that you are struggling so much at Uni and in your new home.  Moving away from family, friends and other supports can definitely make things difficult and lonely at times.  It can take some time to build up supports in a new place, although it may be worth it in the end it's hard when time is not on your side.  Have you thought about speaking with a Counsellor or Wellness Coordinator at you Uni?  They may be able to offer you some support and help you with your transition.

If you feel it may be helpful, you are always welcome to get in touch with Kids Helpline. They are a confidential and anonymous, telephone and online counselling service specifically for young people aged 25 and under.  

If you would like some help finding mental health support, we would recommend that you get in contact with the Beyond Blue Support Service. They are available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 1pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport  One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals. 

You do not have to deal with this alone, the community is here to support you.  

[Toughavocado33]

Hi there!

I do check in with the helpline and beyond blue phone service, yet I haven't in the past few weeks. I have been trying to get in touch with my uni counsellor but when they try call me I miss it or get anxious to answer it so I haven't made any appointments. I have no motivation to call them back. Even though I know it will help me. I just feel so confused and frazzled and anxious about everything.

[geoff]

Hello Toughavocado, a warm welcome to the forums.

I understand where you are coming from, and sorry for you being in this situation, however, if you can copy and paste this in your search browser and realise it may not be your uni
'Course withdrawal - Current students - University of Melbourne', may help you, but if you have lost any motivation to continue, then don't wrack up any more debt, although I'm not sure how the uni system works and if you want to move back home then you will be able to get the help you need.

I agree with Sophie_M you can contact Kids Helpline if you are aged 25 or younger, you can do this online or by phone if you can, but if your interest in going to uni has been lost and the longer you stay, maybe against your will, you won't get the help you need, whereas if you move home, then support will be there for you.

Best wishes.

Geoff.