Hi Kurtis
Do you have any extended family, besides your Grandma, who you get along okay with? The reason I ask based on my son more so relying on his uncle (my brother) for forms of inspiration and guidance when it comes to the way forward. While my husband is basically a caring father, he's more old school. As far as our kids go, he's financially supportive and reliable and cares enough to ask our 2 kids how they are yet leaves it up to them to raise themselves. It's other people who step in, when they desperately need a difference. While my husband wasn't at all thrilled about the idea, I've actually taken a year off work to make a difference to my son who's struggling in a number of ways this year. No one should be left alone to struggle. You're mum's lucky to have your grandma as that person for her, in her time of need.
While it sounds like your mum doesn't have the ability to step in a lot (perhaps while having to work as a single parent), would she know of someone who could step in to help? While it may be incredibly hard to do, is it possible to say to her something along the lines of 'I'm really starting to struggle. Do you know someone who could help make a difference to me?'. Maybe she knows of someone who has the time and ability.
