Is there any type of help that will get me out of the situation I'm in?

[SleepyRain]

Hello everyone,

I don't know if this is the right thread to post this is but here we go. I'm in my 30s and currently living at home with my family right now (not married, no kids or anything like that). I don't have a job and its honestly hard for me to get one right now because of my social anxiety, depression and of how limited options there are in the small town I'm in. I contribute to the house with bills, chores, etc so I'm no freeloading even tho most days I feel like I could stay in bed forever. I do have some savings tho from when I was working and I am trying to look for options to work remotely/from home in any industry.

My issue is I need to leave that current home I'm in but I don't know how. The environment I'm in has been toxic for around the past 6 months because of one of my family members. They are selfish and I don't see them changing, because of them there are constant arguments between everyone due to their behavior and actions. It is not my home, it is my mothers and she won't get rid of them "because they are family" despite all the trouble they are causing for everyone else. It's honestly been messing me up mentally and if feel like I'm on edge nearly everyday. I have told my family this and it's well, whatever to them I guess? It's not taken seriously or brushed off, unfortunately that's how my family has always been, not open with feelings/emotions and brushing off everyone else's issues. So I pretty much have to suck it up and get over it.

I need to be away from this and I feel like I'm gonna completely lose it if I stay much longer. So, I'm wondering are there any services/help that can get me some sort of rental/accommodation despite having no job.

Hope everyone has a good day/night.

SleepyRain

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

My answer won't be a common one but to me it would be ideal. A caravan or small mobile home.

I've built caravans and my wife and I and two dogs go on holidays a lot in our van. So the benefits are-

• You can chase work at many locations them move close to that employment 
• No bond, no furniture no moving costs
• Cheap holidays

Must haves-

• Ensuite
• Security measures eg secure door, smoke and co2 alarms
• Wikicamps- one $10 cost for the app that lists all free camps

As for employment I often advise members to seek part time work not full time, even 2 part time jobs. 8 hour days in the one location with the same people isn't so good.

I hope that helps. 

TonyWK 

[SleepyRain]

@whiteknight

Thanks for the suggestions. Even tho having a caravan and going on an road trips sounds like fun, I don't know if I can find a decent one at a good price in my situation right now. Might save that caravan for retirement, which is a long way away and hopefully I have gotten my head together by then.

I totally agree about the work thing tho, I don't want to stress myself out even more by going straight into full time. Definitely need to ease myself into it with part time and hopefully not so many people around.

Have a good one.

[Eagle Ray]

Hello SleepyRain,

There is something called the National Rental Affordability Scheme (NRAS). I’ve recently learned about it and certain properties are available for rent at below market price. It’s still much more expensive than it ever used to be, even with this scheme, but it may help. If you are looking at the realestate.com.au site they will identify these properties in the description. I’ve now just googled the scheme and found more details on the Department of Social Serivces website which explains how to apply for an NRAS property. You should be able to find this just by googling National Rental Affordability Scheme.

Another option is share housing but I know that can be challenging with social anxiety. If you felt up to it you could go to a few places just to meet the people without any obligation and just sense if they may be people similar to yourself. Some people indicate if they are a quiet household and may be looking for someone just like you. I have social anxiety and spent many years in shared housing. Some experiences were really good and some not so good, but I learned something from every experience including gaining new interpersonal skills and getting to know a range of people.

Those are just some thoughts. Actually, I’ve just re-read that you are in a small town so there will probably be very limited rental options that are affordable. Would you even consider moving to a larger town or regional centre, one that you like? Again, those are just ideas which may or may not suit you.

All the best,

Eagle Ray

[SleepyRain]

@Eagle Ray

Thanks for the reply, I'll definitely look into the options you mentioned. Even tho my options are limited in the small town I'm in, I do like it because it easy going and I grew up here so I know more people here. Being the introvert that I am, It's all about my comfort and not liking much change but that is no surprise there. However, having said that there is a bigger city/town less than an hour from where I am which I do travel to often because there are more options for shopping, services, etc. I do know some people there too, so if I can't find want I'm looking for closer to home that will be the most ideal option.

Thank you and have a good day/night.