In pain

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We have just lost our dog of 10 years. My husband is 82 and not well. He was the thread which kept us going. A help to my husband when he wasn't well. My help when I needed it. We have lost our best friend. It hurts just as much as when I lost my son. I have been to the dr. And a psychologist..but I don't really want to do this anymore. I am not suicidal.,,,but it is now too hard. No....I don't want another dog..Eddie was one of a kind...almost human. Our day and night was devoted to Eddie. Just don't know what to do. Everywhere we went Eddie was there too. Am so so lost.

[concused]

Hello Amanda

Thank you for your note. So pleased that your Dad is making progress. It is always such a problem when younare separated by distance. My husband's children live interstate and it has always been hard for him. We do see them as much as we can, but with my hubby getting older and frailer it is now more difficult.

Yes...we are getting there. My husband breaks down quite often bringing on his depression.

I am trying to look after myself. I am still very sad.....but knowing our little man is in a better place gives me peace.

i have been busy in our little garden. We only li.ve in a unit..but it is a big unit and has a great garden out the back. Have put in my veges etc and friends have given me extra things out of their gardens.

So..all in all ...we are doing as well as we can.

now...how are you? And how is your hubby.? I hope that things are looking up for you.

life is so darn hard......and it not fair when extra obstacles are placed in our way....

So.....know that you are in my thoughts and I thank you for having me jn yours......

Cheers Irene

[concused]

Hello Dools

Just a little note to say hello.... Yes....I used to play with Eddies ears all the time...he used to like it too......

We are doing ok...ish...my husband is having a harder time. I am coping most of time......keeping myself busy. Working in our little garden....

I am also trying to learn another language as I have found family who do not speak english! So that takes my mind off things.

I will eventually join in some of the other groups......but at the moment I don't feel that I an in the right frame of mind to be any sort of support to anyone.....I will though.....as I feel that I might ..in the future...give someone else an open "ear" ....just as you and Amanda have done for me. And I thank you both....

anyway...Hope you are having a good weekend.

Cheers Irene

[Guest8901]

Hello Irene, how lovely to hear from you. And thank you for your care and concern for others as well.

I think thats a very important consideration, that you know your little man Eddie is now free of pain and in a far better place than he was. It is so terribly upsetting to see our animals suffering, and not knowing the extent of their suffering is perhaps even worse. He really is in a far better place, so please continue to take comfort in knowing that.

I'm glad to hear that you have a unit with a good garden area. Gardening is so therapeutic, getting our hands dirty and seeing things grow is so good. Veges are particularly rewarding, although flowers and ornamentals are also great. Just to see the fruit of our labour and care is very beneficial and provides a sense of achievement.

I'm really struggling Irene, I just cannot seem to pull myself out of this trough I find myself in. Hubby remains very unwell and all the different specialists seem to be passing him on to the next. At the end of the day, none of them know what to do. The treatment he has been on is still trial stages, and they know so little about it or the side effects from it. Its so frustrating and downright depressing. My Dad is having a few additional issues in the hospital and is likely to remain in the city for perhaps another week before he is transferred back to his local town hospital. He has had further xrays as well, the results of which I have not yet been told.

Hey Irene, I totally admire you for learning another language. If you are happy to divulge the language, I would be interested to know. Learning new skills is very important to keep our minds active, for all sorts of benefits.

Please do not feel obligated to rush into joining in other threads on BB until you feel ready. As you say, lending an ear to others in need is a wonderful thing to offer, but there really is no obligation here Irene. Any time you feel ready, and want to give something back, I am very confident that you will be a great asset to have around. But please take your time. I know you will be well received when you do venture out into other threads. You are clearly a very caring, intelligent and empathetic person who's heart is in the right place. And anybody who is the beneficiary of your words of wisdom and comfort in future will be lucky indeed.

I hope you enjoy the remainder of your weekend.

Love and care to you Irene.

Amanda 💜🌹

[concused]

Hello Amanda

how are you? Thank you for your lovely message. Sorry I have taken a few days to get back. My hubby has been quite unwell and we have been back and forth to doctors....

How are things going with you? You said you were really struggling.....I am so sorry....How is your Dad.

Thank you for your kind words......when things settle here I will certainly join in some of the conversations.

Thinking of you and wishing I could make you feel better......

Cheers Irene

[Guest8901]

Dear Irene,

My apologies its taken me so long to get back to you. Its been a difficult and hectic couple of weeks for me.

Last we spoke, your hubby had been unwell. I hope he is okay again now? Its so tiring going from one Dr to another and to and fro various specialists isnt it?

And yourself? How are you getting along? I hope you've managed to find time for those walks you continue to enjoy and to feed the ducks in the process.

My Dad remains in hospital. He made some initial progress post the series of strokes he suffered. But its 3 weeks today since those strokes and he seems to have plateau'd now. Unfortunately the Drs and nurses all say he is not well enough to cope at home. Especially when my Mum is also not at all well .. with cancer, rheumatoid arthritis, heart issues and mental deterioration fast catching up with her. I did get to visit last week, and spent a few days down there catching up with all my family. So that was wonderful, but very tiring with an all day train trip there and then back again several days later. But it was ever so nice to see family after about 15 months since I have been able to get away due to my husbands ill health and numerous long hospital stays. As of Saturday, he has also been diagnosed with parkinsons disease, so it looks like things are not going to get any easier in the foreseeable future.

I havent seen you around since your last post here a couple of weeks ago. So I guess you havent yet felt able or ready to join in on any other thread conversations as yet. Thats okay, you know where to go when you do feel ready. But in the meantime, you dont need to go anywhere other than here if you're more comfortable.

I have been thinking of you too lately, and wondering how you and your hubby were doing. I really hope you are both doing well. Just remember that Beyond blue are here to support you any time you need some support.

Please be well.

Amanda 💜🌹