Hi Matty
Glad you liked the list – happy for you to strike #11, but
add a couple more for getting new job & interviews! Well done!
I know what you mean re travel – live in outer suburbs and
have to change trains and then tram – usually about 1.5 hours door to
door. Difference for me is I really
quite like my job – it would surely get me down if I didn’t look forward to
walking through the door when I got there!
Holy cow – a 2001 Statesman for $700 on the road!! Awesome!
Would at least make for a comfortable commute! One thing while you are doing all that
driving is to look into some podcasts you might be interested in. I’m on public transport and I love
documentaries & numerous podcasts – a great way to pass the time &
better than listening to radio ads!
I noticed you still have the sad face picky, then I noticed
I’m not one to offer advice when I haven’t got anything!! I’m outta line on that & will update in
next 24 hours! Maybe you can update
yours if I do mine?
Re your partner…mate, I’m sorry. For the sake of the discussion I’ll assume
she did cheat on you – you sound pretty sure & there’s no need to discuss
the evidence. However, what I would say
is that, in a weird way, she wasn’t cheating on the real you. She was cheating on who you were when your
brain chemicals got out of whack and you just weren’t being yourself! In no way am I blaming you, just that she was
probably scared, confused and looking for a white knight. Add in a jerk of a guy who paints himself to
be that knight in shining armour and it just happens. Unfortunately she would have been vulnerable
and he took advantage while you were in no position to take action. I’m not condoning what she did, but can
understand how it can happen.
I think it’s entirely normal to still be in love with
her. From what the other posters on this
thread have said, sounds like the IVO only came into effect as they were
concerned about your state of mind & moods.
Seems to me that you’ve done plenty to alleviate the need for this. Consider this – you discovered that your
partner was cheating on you, and your reaction has been that you’d like to
reconcile, would think that’s grounds in & of itself for the IVO to be
terminated.
You aren’t crazy to want to reconcile. I would want the same! Someone you care about dearly cheated, but that’s
probably because she wanted to be wanted, something you weren’t capable of doing
this at the time, as you were very sick.
I think that you should let her know that you’re aware of
these facts before the hearing, probably best via your solicitor or advocate –
may make her take a less resolute stance at the hearing & not claim the
moral high ground. For clarity, don’t
use it as a weapon – just a way of saying we all make mistakes.
Put those relaxation techniques into practice mate – you’re
doing well! Is there any family/friends
that might be able to crash over at your place for a couple of nights and help
you chill?
Keep on posting – there’s lots of amazing people on here in
your corner!!
Warm regards
Scott
PS sorry it’s so long!
(the posting, not my schlong! Ha ha
ha teenage humour!!)
