feel friends are tired of me

[iamsotired]

Who do I call when I feel as I do????

I tried last Friday night to call for help to online call.... no new ideas, just best intended suggestions that I had heard and tried before.

So, when I feel as I do where do I turn????

For over 10 years I have been calling different friends, but know I feel they are tired of my calls and don't understand why I am not feeling better.... nor do for that matter

I feel Flat.......................................................................................................................

and do not want to fall below flat

any new suggestions or ideas or magic........................ please

[Jo3]

Oh Iamsotired

I feel for you tonight, I wish there was something I could do for you or say to you to make things better.

I'm not much for words tonight, feeling low myself.

But I'm sending you a big warm hug, pls take care.

Jo

[iamsotired]

Hi Jo

Thank you for the hug

I also send a hug to you

Take care

and hopefully tomorrow we both feel a little better

[Neil_1]

Hi there iamsotired

I’m not sure when you sent this post, but it feels to me like it was at night time, yeah?? Night time and darkness – why do they seem to make things worse?  I guess it might be similar to the effects that a cloudy day can have on us – or maybe it’s an individual thing.

I feel so bad for you that I’m unable to come up with suggestions for you … for when you’re feeling flat and need advice for how to lift you up. 

I guess the helpline knows all the ‘tried and true’ options to supply to the callers in these instances but I guess their main priority (and I’m not meaning to downplay anyone here at all) would be for people who are considering doing the worst thing possible and they would be trained to help ease that person out of the situation as best they could.  I hope that made sense.

The thing is with friends is that if you asked them, is this a bother, I’m sure that 99% of the time they’d say ‘no, that’s fine’.  But I can never call my friends … only occasionally will I email someone;   and at other times, just to let him how I’m going, I’ll email my bro – not asking for support at all (though I know he’d give it readily if I asked) but just telling him how I’ve been travelling. 

Having said that, how do we know that they aren’t replying you know with, “That’s absolutely awful … etc etc”, but really deep down they’re thinking, “Holy crap, I wish he’d snap out of it”.

Iamsotired, I haven’t provided you with any magic there and for that I’m sorry.

Kind regards,

Neil

[JessF]

I guess this is why we see psychologists, some of us have to battle with these feelings all our lives and the strategies that worked in the past won't necessarily work now because our feelings and circumstances change over the years. I think Neil is right, it must be difficult for helplines to give out 'new' suggestions to people like us that often feel chronically awful, but on the occasions I have had to call them when in a suicidal state they have literally saved my life.

[iamsotired]

Dear Neil

You have replied and heard what I wrote and I feel you honestly know what I am saying and understand how I feel. For that understanding I say thank you.

Take care dear fellow traveller

and a big hug

[iamsotired]

Dear Jess

I think we are all blessed and grateful they did help you at those very dark times.

I am probably being very harsh and critical, it is just that I am so tired of feeling this way and at present I am not sure what to do

Take care

[Neil_1]

Hi iamsotired  

No, you’re not being harsh and critical … you’re simply stating how you’re feeling and as we all know, we’re able to do that here.  I’m glad that you have because it is really an excellent site where I think that there are no lies and for the most part, no holding back of feelings.   

I totally understand your feelings of being so tired of feeling this way – and just what the hell can we do about these feelings?   Who to call?  Where to seek appropriate advice/assistance?  

Bit of a quick sidetrack here:  it’s amazing isn’t it;  it’s Friday and for me they used to be the most awesome of days.  One being the end of the working week and two, well, it was the pretty much the start of the weekend – but for now even my weekends kind of just roll around and aren’t nearly as brilliant as they used to be.  

 I guess where that sidetrack was heading was aiming to seek out a short quick fix for you iamsotired.  As in, yes it is Friday and so yes Saturday and Sunday are soon to be upon us. 

My question to you was do you have anything at all planned for either day – something that might occupy you for a while – some kind of interest/hobby, etc?  It’s just a thought.  

I say this, because the question you raise is a question I cannot answer for myself.  So I look to try and ‘side track’ myself with trying to find little things to occupy myself.  I guess knowing full well that the dog is still just sitting outside his kennel, with slobber falling down his jowls as he grins at me.  

I don’t know if any of that made sense, but if it did, I’m glad.  

Kind regards  

Neil

[Mares73]

Hi it's Mares-I'm sorry I think I've jumped in & out of your story but.... I do feel for you & know how difficult it can be to get appropriate help when you need it. I also appreciate that it's an exhausting ongoing struggle at times & you are worn out. All I can offer today is my support & hope that things improve. How do you relate to GP, pyschiatrist or Pyschologist-have you seen someone recommended by Beyond Blue? If you haven't-that's probably the first thing I'd suggest. Take care, Mares xxx

[iamsotired]

Hi Neil

yes you do make sense and I will be busy with a number of activities that should make me feel excited and good, but at the moment I I feel just tired and flat.

But I will keep an open mind and you never know I might I hope feel a spark or two.

Thank you so much for your words

take care