My 21st

[startingnew]

Hi everyone
so mums just come home yesterday and she said what do you want to do on saturday? i said im not sure but will have a think about it.
she said do i want to have a big get together with all the family and i can invite friends (got none of those) but i really dont see my family that much and when i do they only want to see my pop.

ive arranged a hotel for a night on the sunday afterwards but mum wants to celebrate on my actual 21st which is this saturday

im torn as i know shes trying to help but i really dont want a major thing despite it suppose to be a big deal

any ideas?

[RandR]

Hi Startingnew,

Just out of any curiosity is there any reason you can't do both?

Any particular reason you don't want anything too major?

Perhaps if you don't want a major thing just tell her that an that you appreciate her making the effort for you 🙂

Good luck!

[startingnew]

I dont have any friends to celebrate with. If i did i mightve done both but i dont.

I spoke to her just now and she said shes organised something but shes not telling me so.... i guess ill have to wait and see what saturday brings

[CMF]

Hi SN,

I totally understand not wanting to do anything for your bday when you haven't been feeling so great. It is thoughtful of your mum wanting to organise something so I hope, whatever it is, it's nice and not too much for you.

Best wishes

cmf x

[startingnew]

hi CMF

im trying to just run with it. she doesnt take into acount into anything just does what she wants to do. i havet got a clue whats in store, considering i dont have any friends i doubt itll be anything too big.

i apprecitate that she wants so celebrate though, im really just not up for it atm.

its on this saturday so will jsut have to wait and see i guess...

[Cesca1557]

hey sn,

thats lovely that your mum does want to do something nice for you, even if its not exactly what you want at the moment.

but your 21st is an big celebration, so even if you do have a nice dinner with the family, its nice to do something 🙂 and if it is just a dinner and drinks, then hopefully its not too big and it doenst take up too much of your energy especially when youre not really up to it at the moment

[startingnew]

I found out the plans. She told me that we are just going out for lunch with my uncle who lives a fair few hrs away as well as us.

[CMF]

Hi SN,

Do you feel ok with that? It sounds it will be more low key than you expected which i think is your preference?

Did you book the night at the hotel for yourself?

cmf

[startingnew]

Im ok with that CMF. Its something easy going so thats ok. Not really up for big events

Yeah i booked 2 nights in a hotel so sunday and monday ill be at a hotel

[startingnew]

its not going to be small 😞

im 'overhearing' mum so far its 20! it was suppose to be a quiet day.