social anxiety story

bec126 · ‎11-01-2018

I wrote this story about my story using a different name and I hope that it can help someone

When you walk into a room full of people you are most likely calm and don’t want to leave immediately. I am not calm and I want to get out of there as quick as I can. Hi, I’m Chloe and I have social anxiety disorder (also known as S.A.D). Well, I haven’t been professionally diagnosed but I suffer from all the social anxiety disorder symptoms. No one knows about my condition, not even my parents. I’m too scared to talk about it to anyone. If can’t talk to people normally, what makes it ok for me to show my weaknesses. If I can’t tell the one person I trust most, how do I tell someone else I stay at home, in bed whenever I can.

I wish I wasn’t like this. I wish I could just go to parties and go out without overthinking for hours on end what I’m going to wear and how I’m going to look and what makes me blend into the background the most. I wish I could just go out without thinking about my every move carefully. Without feeling like every eye in the room is watching me, waiting for me to embarrass myself. I wish I could be an outgoing person that could talk to anyone.

The reality is that I can never be outgoing so I might as well just embrace my social anxiety. If more people come together that have this same condition, we might not feel so alone. Also, remember that you aren’t alone and that 1 in 7 people in Australia suffer from an anxiety disorder

demonblaster · ‎11-01-2018

Hi Bec

That would be so hard I feel for you & people feeling that way

Do you see a psych or counsellor that maybe able to help with coping strategies. I was very self conscous when younger for a while horrid feeling easily embarrassed low self esteem didnt like myself & I'm more an extrovert so have some understanding

Because atm you feel this way doesnt mean it will be all the time, im still getting there but wayyy better than I was then. Situations can change & most comes from our mindset & wanting change helps with persistence & not giving up. Im not saying overnight but small steps make progress this is where professional help can be useful

Personally as much as yes its hard Im not a beliiever in holding stress & pain in I think it creates other issues. How do you feel about putting the problems you face as youve articulated well here & give to a trusted person, supports mammoth with MH issues & understanding means the world to spmeone in pain. Your call ☺

I walk hills for exercise which is great stress release, theres a lot of stuff can be done from home dont know if that interests you, or dancing to few faves can be good too

Anyway darl hope you feel youd like to talk more.

Thx for posting

bec126 · ‎13-01-2018

No, I don't see a psych or a counseller, I used to when my parents divorced 4 years ago when I was 9 but I don't remember much from it apart from my "happy place". I always dance as I have done ballet for 7 years thanx for responding, however, I didn't quite understand what you meant by

demonblaster said:
How do you feel about putting the problems you face as youve articulated well here & give to a trusted person, supports mammoth with MH issues & understanding means the world to spmeone in pain.

demonblaster · ‎13-01-2018

Hey Bec ☺ was talking about how you said you cant tell the person you trust how you feel, in writing it can be easier.

Do you think itd be worth a try seei g psychologist they're trained & understand these jssues people have & maybe able to help. This is a lot to take on alone hun

This is up to you but I encourage you to talk to your parents it can help having people know what we're going through

There's a mindfulness thread here if your interested in checking it out could be of help too

Thx for coming back darl

Tc

bec126 · ‎23-01-2018

hi there

I think it would be beneficial to see a psychologist but my mum wouldn't be able to afford it

thx for the advice

demonblaster · ‎23-01-2018

Hey ☺

Hun if you talk to GP they can give a MH care plan which enables up to 10 free professional visits a yr.

Also here they have

Call 1300 22 4636
24 hours / 7 days a week

and chat online & email as well. If you scroll to bottom on L) side in Red.

You can always talk here too ☺

Daisy129 · ‎27-01-2018

Hi Bec, I can really relate to your struggles. I have social anxiety and many social situations that others deal with easily I really struggle with. I found it really helpful to see a psychologist and to work with him to develop some strategies to deal with the situations which were hardest for me. It can really help talking to someone who specialises in Social Anxiety and the more you learn, the easier things become. Some social things I thought I would never be able to do, I have actually learned to relax and enjoy. It is not an easy problem to live with but things can get easier/better if you can be strong enough to get help from the right people. I wish you good luck and hope you are able to find a good counsellor to help you. Also, reading self help books has been helpful for me.