Suffer from Anxiety & Depression, first baby comes in less than 2 months and I can't seem to get anything at all done!

[Shez122]

Feeling very lost and lazy. I feel no matter how hard I try I cannot manage to get anything done! Cannot time manage, cannot follow a simple or short list of to do's and can barely work out what it even is I should be doing. I need to collect more baby things and organise babies room and a long list of other things that I just don't get done!!! I do everything other than the things that need to be done! Most the time I waste every day doing next to nothing. I have tried so hard and many strategies to get myself to do things but it's like I'm a stubborn child who just refuses to do as their told. With baby being so close I need to get organised and I'm lost as to how to make myself do and achieve things! I read and read and read about goal setting/lists/how to get things done but have had no success still in getting these things done. I feel like a faulty human who can't do stuff. How do I make myself do stuff!!!??? What has REALLY worked for those of you who REALLY wouldn't do any of the things you needed to get done. It's like I'll do anything to avoid doing the important things. It is overwhelming for me and even identifying what needs to be done is very hard. Thank you for reading.

[quirkywords]

Welcome to thr forum Shez.

Thanks for reaching out. This is a safe,supportive, nonjudgmental and caring place.

Being pregnant can be exhausting and overwhelming.I remember getting so much different advice. Do you have anyone ho can help you?

Is it possible to make a list of the things you need to do , limit yourself to one item per day. When you have done that you will get confidence to do more. I know it can be overwhelming but if you can just do one try to do one thing a day it may seem more manageable.

Let us know how you go . Take care.

Quirky

[Sad_Mushroom]

Hi Shez,

Welcome.

With my first few kids I was super organised but with my last two, I had nothing ready. We actually drove to the shops and bought everything in one swoop the day the baby and I left the hospital.

Please don't bash yourself up over this. Being pregnant can be tiring, confusing and frustrating. You only have 2 months to go which means your body might have decided to start slowing down to prepare itself for the birth. Ask for help if you can and if not just try small stuff. One way or another you will get there.

SM

[geoff]

hello Shez, excuse me I'm obviously a male but I knew the differences in how my wife was with baby 1 to baby 2, with our first baby she was full of beans and wanted everything done before he came, and with our second she was the complete opposite, didn't want to do everything at all.
She was depressed and maybe suffering from PND before he was born, as we have 2 sons, plus when he was ready to be born, I remember his little head was 'popping out' in the delivery room which was cold, but the staff walked out, because their shift had finished, so I was the only person in the delivery room with my wife, and this didn't help one bit.
Please don't feel as though you're 'faulty', a major change is about to happen, so ask someone who is excited about your new arrival in 2 months to come and help you, but you have to do everything your way, not how they want it, otherwise you won't be able to get happy.
I tried to do what I could do to try and raise happiness but she needed something more, fortunately her mother was staying with us and looked after our first son.
I wanted her to go and see a doctor, but she refused, didn't want to take any medication nor did she want to see a psychologist or a psychiatrist, and because of this it was a struggle, so please think about whether or not you want to see any of these people, I hope you do, then this a start. Geoff. x

[Shez122]

Thank you so much for your words.