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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Jflower20 Never heard
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I am early pregnant with two kids already, been with the same guy for 6yrs but it seems everytime he starts to meet new people he puts me to the back and won't listen to anything I'm going through or anything I try to get support from him with even i... View more

I am early pregnant with two kids already, been with the same guy for 6yrs but it seems everytime he starts to meet new people he puts me to the back and won't listen to anything I'm going through or anything I try to get support from him with even if I try to sit and talk and not get angry, I repeat myself for at least 3wks and then finally burst and then I'm the one to blame I'm just being crazy, today we ended up in an argument because he kept guilt tripping me because we were invited to a party but even though I tried we couldn't find a baby sitter and then automatically he expects I stay with the kids and he goes he also already uninvited me to go for a drive because of one of his so called friends then uninvited me to the party as well, I came to him calmly and said well we ain't really suppose to spend any money this weekend because we have a concert to go to next weekend (tht he knew about 2mths ago), so why don't we just stay home watch whatever movie you want and I'll make whatever you want for dinner and just chill out, he then says I'm going to ditch my friend for you...i instantly got upset but also angry because I'm sick of coming last whenever someone new comes along I have been by his side for 6yrs nothing should change because of someone he has only known literally for 3wks, I also tried to express to him for the past view days I don't want to be alone as he hasn't really been here for about 3days he has been with one of his friends, I told him I'm done I'm sick of feeling this one and actually said it was over but I don't know how I feel about it I thought I would be really upset if I ever said that but I am just sorta angry and confused. If anyone can help please do. Thank you

elle_woods1 Work Anxiety
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Hi I'm new to this - and I'm looking for some guidance. I recently started a new job (about 4 months ago), its my third job with low-pressure, a great staff, understanding bosses and a great work environment. However, since starting I have been plagu... View more

Hi I'm new to this - and I'm looking for some guidance. I recently started a new job (about 4 months ago), its my third job with low-pressure, a great staff, understanding bosses and a great work environment. However, since starting I have been plagued with stress and worry about everything I do. Have I damaged something? Did I do it right? So much so that I begin to fill-in-the-blanks in my mind and convince myself that I have done something wrong. Every time I have a shift i feel panicked, nauseous and frazzled. Then when I'm there I'm constantly double checking everything I do and worrying about what I will do next. Then finally when the shift is over, my real panic sets in as I sit at home and start to replay every thing I did that day and what I did wrong or begin to imagine that I have damaged something. I have an upset stomach, I pace around and find it hard to sleep. I know it's not normal to worry so much, to the point of physical sickness about a casual job, but I don't know how to stop myself. I have been considering leaving the position, however I know in my heart that it is a great job, it is in my dream field and its a great stepping stone that could lead me to bigger and better things. I know it would make sense just to leave it - but i don't want to feel like I'm letting my irrational thoughts and worries beat me. But then I worry, if I can't even cope with this - how can I cope in the real world? This isn't the first time I have experienced such worry and overthinking. I have done it since I was young. In the past couple of years since receiving my licence I began to be so anxious about driving and worrying I'll make a mistake and hurt someone, that I have just stopped driving. In a lot of ways I feel my worrying has stopped be just being a normal care-free 21 year old who is just enjoying their life. Instead I'm a bundle of nerves, who just stays at home. I have tried to confide in my Mum, but when you know yourself your thoughts are irrational and overdramatic it's hard to tell anyone. I don't have any friends and I'm just feeling lost, lonely and sometimes I just don't even feel like myself anymore. I know I need help but I'm scared. I'm scared that it won't work. I'm scared that this is something I will always be stuck with. and I'm scared that if I admit it then I've lost. But at the same time, I just feel that this feeling of stress and anxiety and panic is just taking over my life and I don't want it to. What should I do?

zcj I'm new! Hello!
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Hey everyone It's so nice to meet you all! My name is zcj, but you can call me Z. I'm a 21 year old nerd girl who loves birds, Lord of the Rings and death metal. I've FINALLY decided to become a member on this site after 10 whole years of struggling ... View more

Hey everyone It's so nice to meet you all! My name is zcj, but you can call me Z. I'm a 21 year old nerd girl who loves birds, Lord of the Rings and death metal. I've FINALLY decided to become a member on this site after 10 whole years of struggling with my mental health. I have PTSD, severe depression and anxiety disorder. I'm looking forward to getting know people who know what this internal struggle is like, which is actually very difficult to come by in this day and age. I'm going through a bit of a rough patch, can't really pin it on a single detail. Could be because I'm off my meds, or because I'm watching my family fall to pieces due to drugs, alcohol and violence, or maybe it's just purely a rough patch. Either way, I can't wait to speak to all of you and I hope you are all well! Love Z

ruby2343 Mum
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i found out today my mum is depressed and on antidepressants i feel like I'm selfish for crying and being really sad i knew she had gotten postnatal depression but i didn't know it was still happening it makes me feel bad about any fight we have and ... View more

i found out today my mum is depressed and on antidepressants i feel like I'm selfish for crying and being really sad i knew she had gotten postnatal depression but i didn't know it was still happening it makes me feel bad about any fight we have and the tough time she would have had as a single mum who hadn't worked in ages because of my controlling dad and I'm scared for the future, if she suddenly gets worse and commits suicide, I'm so so so close with her she's like my best friend and i dont think ill ever be ready to lose her i love her so much. I'm really worried and anxious because we will be spared as she is going to kenya and I'm going to the sunshine coast and I'm not sure why but I'm really stressed about it. i know this isn't bout me but i want to know thoughts

Rut91 Self sabotage
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Hi, I posted here once before but I have a different issue that has been on my mind lately. I feel like I'm sabotaging my own success at work and at uni. No matter what I do I am always late to work. It got to a point where I was arriving almost an h... View more

Hi, I posted here once before but I have a different issue that has been on my mind lately. I feel like I'm sabotaging my own success at work and at uni. No matter what I do I am always late to work. It got to a point where I was arriving almost an hour late every day with no real excuse except 'feeling sick and nauseous' every morning (which is true and relates to my fear of unexpected things happening on the way to work). I ended up having a meeting with my manager and receiving a formal warning about my lateness. The issue is I know it's a bad thing to do and I know all I have to do is get up a bit earlier and leave but there just seems to be too much preventing me from doing it. At uni I fail every class at least two times, sometimes three times, before I pass and I've been spoken to by my senior lecturer. Every time I get in trouble I cry and carry on making everything worse and now I'm seen as unstable and I feel like uni and work are rejecting me. I just hate that I can't get myself organised. I keep multiple diaries and note books, I schedule my days by the hour and I plan days in advance for public transport. I even make contingency plans if something goes wrong. I think what's the point any more of doing anything because I'm just going to mess it up. I don't know if anyone will have any solutions for me but any advice would be helpful. Hopefully someone can empathise with me, even though I think I'm the worst human being to ever exist. Thanks, Tracey

daisyb Studying film with social anxiety and depression
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Hello all ! I was hoping I could some advice here, please. I've always wanted to study film but I let my social anxiety run my life and prevent me from studying what I want to do because of fear of rejection, criticism and embarrassment. My anxiety h... View more

Hello all ! I was hoping I could some advice here, please. I've always wanted to study film but I let my social anxiety run my life and prevent me from studying what I want to do because of fear of rejection, criticism and embarrassment. My anxiety has slowly improved over the last year now that I am on meds for it as well as depression. I still REALLY want to study film but I just can't push myself to do it, I don't know how to push past my fears and I hate myself for it and I know one day I will regret it if I don't follow my dreams. I haven't really been out in the real world much since I finished year 12 in 2014. I have been studying online (not film, because I HAD to do something) and I have been looking for work for a while now. I am afraid to go back to school because year 11 and 12 were horrible for me. I moved towns at the beginning of year 11 and I knew no body. This is when I developed social anxiety and I was too afraid to raise my hand in class, make friends or share my ideas. I even missed my graduation. I remember working in groups in drama and I never spoke and it annoyed my teachers and other group members. I'm afraid this will happen again. In year 12 my younger sister attempted suicide many times and my few friends left me because they didn't like my sister. My dad was harassing my mother, sister and I for money all the time and my sister and him were doing ICE. This affected me while I was trying to finish school and doing exams and my anxiety got worse to the point where I stopped going to school and when I did go to school I would spend all my breaks reading in the toilets because I had no friends any more. My work was also not the best quality because I constantly procrastinated and didn't feel motivated. It was one of the worst periods in my life. I know that my current situation isn't as bad now that I FINALLY just got into a more stable environment but I'm afraid that if I go back to school it will be too stressful for me and I will let everyone down again. I also live 30 mins out of the nearest city and I don't have my license so this is also a barrier. Does anyone have any stories they can share or any ideas/advice on how to deal with studying while you have social anxiety? Especially in a collaborative environment... Most people tell me it's stupid to even consider studying something as interactive as film when I have anxiety. Thank you for reading and thank you for any responses and advice !!!

Civilised_Biscuit No one likes me...
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Hi, I feel like at school, i'm a joke. I have no real friends, no people I feel I can actually confide in. The only people I ever enjoyed spending time turned on me, and I became the target of all their 'jokes'. Jokes is in quotation marks because wh... View more

Hi, I feel like at school, i'm a joke. I have no real friends, no people I feel I can actually confide in. The only people I ever enjoyed spending time turned on me, and I became the target of all their 'jokes'. Jokes is in quotation marks because what they claimed to be jokes were just racist, homophobic attacks on me and my family members. Anyway, I had to break away from them, and now I have no one. No one I talk to shares the same interests as me, no one takes me seriously. I wish I didn't care so much about what people think, but I really do. I just want one person who I can talk to, one person I can spend time with who doesn't judge me or talk about me behind my back or insult me whenever they can. At lunch time I don't really know where to go either... There are some people who I sit with in class, but whenever I go to hang out with them, they seem disinterested and take any opportunity to get away, leaving me alone again to wander around looking like a complete loser. I feel like just going to the bathroom and sitting alone, out of the view of everyone, so at least no one can see how lonely I am. I never get invited out of the house, never get invited to parties. I'm just sad. Thanks

Jayyyyy Don't know what I'm doing with my life
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I'm 21 years old and currently studying hospitality and tourism management at TAFE. I don't even know why I chose this course. I didn't know what else to do, but wanted to do something with my life... I only have a semester left of studying, and stil... View more

I'm 21 years old and currently studying hospitality and tourism management at TAFE. I don't even know why I chose this course. I didn't know what else to do, but wanted to do something with my life... I only have a semester left of studying, and still have no idea what I'm going to do. I am an introverted person which I feel is holding me back a great deal. I haven't had a proper job yet. I've applied for numerous jobs but have never heard back from any. I have no more energy or motivation left in me to continue...

RuneCat17464 Can’t get over failed friendship
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So there was this upperclassmen and I was kind of obsessed with her or overly anxious about becoming friends and I did a bunch of stupid stuff like involving her in my at the time emotional turmoil state even though I didn’t even know her that well a... View more

So there was this upperclassmen and I was kind of obsessed with her or overly anxious about becoming friends and I did a bunch of stupid stuff like involving her in my at the time emotional turmoil state even though I didn’t even know her that well and she graduated a couple of months ago but it’s still on and off haunting me and I just feel quite I’m not even sure if our relationship was that bad as my friends say it’s fine and last time I saw her we were on speaking terms and sheseemedto understand that I was just going through an awkward phase but yeah just feel kinda dead on the inside rn

justwanttobehappy123 depression anxiety and my boyfriend
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i have depression and anxiety and have been seeing a psychologist for around a month now. my boyfriend and i have been dating for around 11 months. i told my boyfriend i thought i had depression around 2 months ago and i confessed that i had a consta... View more

i have depression and anxiety and have been seeing a psychologist for around a month now. my boyfriend and i have been dating for around 11 months. i told my boyfriend i thought i had depression around 2 months ago and i confessed that i had a constant fear of being ‘too emotional’ for him to handle and it’s why i wasn’t always honest with him about my feelings. at that time he admitted to me that at points i was too emotional for him to handle and that he had thought about breaking up with me on two seperate occasions because of it. this completely blindsided me and broke my heart. i struggled with the decision of what to do: break up or keep dating him knowing i may not be happy. well i love him too much and couldn’t possibly live without him so i decided i would need to just work through it to trust him again. since uni ended we have spent nearly every day together and i have been much happier, not just in the relationship but my depression was alieviating too. but i realised that spending so much time together wasn’t healthy and i needed to be able to have my own life too. i have 2 friends and see them but find myself wanting to be with my boyfriend when i’m with them. my psychologist said i need to release him so i can be free myself so i tried being away from him for a few days. problem is that when i am alone i let my negative thoughts it and i think this is the reason i had been so happy lately (because i had my bf there to distract me from the negative thoughts). and now i am having anxiety and feeling like i’m always going to be “too emotional” for him and a constant fear he is going to break up with me and completely blindside me (like last time). i told him this because i want to be more open and he said that at times “it’s [my emotions] still hard but i’m trying” and i know i should focus on the last part but i can’t get over the first part. i’m still “too emotional”. now i have told him everything is weird between us and i’m very confused. i keep thinking about breaking up even though that’s the last thing i want to do and it makes me anxious because i don’t know why i keep having thoughts about breaking up when i don’t want to. i’m very confused and upset and i just want all these thoughts in my head to stop swirling around and disappear and i just want to be happy. please help me i just need some advice on what to do or for someone to know what i’m going through sincerly, too emotional

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