Should I screw my school and go to a. New one?

[six]

Hey, basically I’ve been struggling with severe anxiety surrounding school for the past year for ages I couldn’t even stay for first period never mind a day it started when we had to do a presentation and I knew there was no way I could it the teacher was rude the class was new and I felt sick thinking about it then I spiraled skipping that class and getting picked up early to then missing days of school then I got sick really sick for a month throughout that month no one reached out to me when I came back no one asked why I was gone or if I was okay and my friend group just continued to deteriorate bringing me to now halfway through year eight and I don’t have any friends sure there’s people at school who we are “friends” but not really that’s a whole other story though anyways the work is so easy for me now but I can’t be moved up in any of my classes because I missed so much of school I’m back now i can do a full day easy but the problem is it’s just bearable and I hate that I feel like I’m wasting my teenage years. So I’m looking into new schools I do volleyball and figure skating but they are both very small sports where I live so my hope for a scholarship is pretty low. Due to me struggling with social anxiety moving to a new school could be the best thing for me or make my situation worse making me feel stuck. opinions?

[white knight]

Hi,welcome 

I see clearly your situation. I hope I can help.

I joined a car club once and had issues with members so I joined a new club and found i had issues there also. It finally dawned on me that I had the issues overall not them. Yes I had anxiety but I also had expectations. 

I noticed after some time away from school when you returned no one asked how you were. I would guess it's because you expected friends to ask you. Having expectations isnt ideal. The better approach is to - EXPECT NOTHING BUT IF SOMEONE ASKS THEN THATS A BONUS.

Even these people you call friends might not be close friends as you think. People with illness like anxiety and depression usually have far less friends because we are more effort, we need their attention and some of us dont get enough.

For example. While you were absent from school one of your friends could have also had several days off school being really sick. Did you ask all your friends if they were OK while you were away? Of course not. Its the same reason they didn't ask you. 

In our school age years we usually don't get too involved with lifestyles, illness etc away from school.

So I'm sad to say, changing schools won't change anything. What you can do is pick out your best friend, the kindest one to try to get closer. 

We only need one good friend to be close to us. To fill that gap.

Finally, when you have a fallout with a teacher the best thing you can do is approach the teacher alone and explain your issues and tell them you want to try hard but that you're sensitive. Being sensitive is in your makeup.  Discussing issues is the first step to adulthood. By writing in here you've shown some maturity, some courage and that's commendable. 

Growing up is hard. If you try your best then that should always be enough. Praise yourself, pat yourself on the back and like yourself.

I hope I"ve helped. 

TonyWK 

[six]

Hello

thank you this gave a different outlook on the situation when I get a glimpse of something I tend to jump the gun and get my hopes and expectations to high too quick so I will try to go in to theses situations with less expectations and work towards improving my self and what I can control rather then the others around me so thank you

[white knight]

That's a truly remarkable attitude to my suggestions. That takes courage.

Changing our thinking processes takes time so be gentle on yourself and the timeframe. Eventually you'll get there then one day you'll give advice to someone else. Helping other people is rewarding.

Good luck

TonyWK