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Worsening procrastination and functioning at uni and work

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For most of this year, I’ve been struggling a lot with studying and general motivation. I’ve always procrastinated, but deadlines used to be enough to push me into action. Lately that hasn’t been working, which is starting to worry me. I avoid uni wo... View more

For most of this year, I’ve been struggling a lot with studying and general motivation. I’ve always procrastinated, but deadlines used to be enough to push me into action. Lately that hasn’t been working, which is starting to worry me. I avoid uni work most of the time, even when I’m stressed about falling behind. I end up procrastinating, distracting myself by doom scrolling for hours, and then feeling worse afterwards. I’ve already dropped one course and I’m struggling to keep up with the rest. It’s not just studying either, everyday tasks like cleaning my room and staying organised feel difficult too, and it’s starting to affect my job as well. I still care and want to do well, but when I try to start things I tend to shut down or avoid them instead of acting on it - and then tell myself I don’t care to feel better. This has been happening alongside low mood/self-esteem, anxiety, and some unhealthy coping habits. My thoughts overwhelm me most of the time. I reached out to the university counselling service but didn’t follow up because I wasn’t sure whether this is something counselling could help with, or whether I should be approaching it differently. I still enjoy parts of my life like sport, and hanging out with friends. I guess I’m trying to understand what’s going on and what kind of support would be appropriate?

I feel like my life is just going to shit

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it feels like ive been a degenerate since the pandemic. i picked up a caffeine addiction in my early years of high school and its only gotten worse. im in year 12 now and i am starting to regret my lazy decisions and i want to get my life together, b... View more

it feels like ive been a degenerate since the pandemic. i picked up a caffeine addiction in my early years of high school and its only gotten worse. im in year 12 now and i am starting to regret my lazy decisions and i want to get my life together, but my addictions have only gotten worse. the amount of assignments and bad habits over the years have caught up to me and recently as i turn 18 and now have access to alcohol and vapes, i feel like i am already falling into this hole. i already dropped a subject and am concidering another one because i cant keep up, but i dont know if even dropping another subject would help me catch up with my other ones or not. i used to consider suicide, but with help from the people that i love ive realised my passions and goals in life. now i just want to start over before covid because i feel tired all the time and i miss my childhood. im not ready to grow up yet.

nothing seems to get better

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nothing seems to get better no matter how hard i try to make it, it just never stops and i dont know how to keep going if its always like this

Friend who’s worrying me

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I have a friend. He’s the same age as me down to the day, but we couldn’t be more different. He’s worrying me lately. Just tonight, he may have gotten drunk, but he’s definitely stolen his parent’s car, not had the L plates on and he’s gone down to t... View more

I have a friend. He’s the same age as me down to the day, but we couldn’t be more different. He’s worrying me lately. Just tonight, he may have gotten drunk, but he’s definitely stolen his parent’s car, not had the L plates on and he’s gone down to the Gold Coast by himself for the night. I have a life360 with him, but I’m still worried. We only met a few years ago and only gotten close this year, and mutual friends are saying he’s pretty confident at driving but I’m still worried. How do I tell him I’m worried about him, and do I tell an adult?

Dropping out

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Hi, My name is Ida. My father is telling me of dropping out, im not sure what to do if i drop out. So i want some advice for if i do drop out. I didnt want to be tutored for year 11 today since ive been really tired. So i want to find a job near me. ... View more

Hi, My name is Ida. My father is telling me of dropping out, im not sure what to do if i drop out. So i want some advice for if i do drop out. I didnt want to be tutored for year 11 today since ive been really tired. So i want to find a job near me. I dont know what to do.

Going through highschool with mild autism

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Hi everyone,I am 13 and have started highschool earlier this year. I have found it really hard to cope and fidgets don't help. I'm not able to leave the room during class and running is something that helps me regulate. WHY DID MY AUTOCORRECT SAY REN... View more

Hi everyone,I am 13 and have started highschool earlier this year. I have found it really hard to cope and fidgets don't help. I'm not able to leave the room during class and running is something that helps me regulate. WHY DID MY AUTOCORRECT SAY RENGOKU I LIVE FOR HIMAny ways could you leave coping strategies below-Sky

High school drop out - Options?

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Hi all,I'm a 16 year old turning 17 and need advice on what the next steps I should take. For context I dropped out of school half way through year 11 (2025) and wanted to pursue a trade like my older brother who is successful. I had no real plan and... View more

Hi all,I'm a 16 year old turning 17 and need advice on what the next steps I should take. For context I dropped out of school half way through year 11 (2025) and wanted to pursue a trade like my older brother who is successful. I had no real plan and just kind of winged it hoping that id get an apprenticeship reasonably easy but I had no luck for about a couple months and just worked retail with a good company, but my family had warned me to not get comfortable with them or else it wont go anywhere. So with that in mind I kept looking for a apprenticeship and was able to get a plumbing one and started doing that for a couple months, however it just wasn't what I wanted to do long term the guys on site were condescending and all around ignorant (typical tradie things). The guys that weren't rude and actually nice to me were telling me that you shouldn't do the trade, they explained that it was mentally and physically demanding and that a young kid like you shouldn't be here especially when there's a lot more opportunities out there. It also didn't help that the hours were long and rough by the time id get home just to fall asleep and wake up the next morning and head off to work, there wasn't a lot of time for me to have my own personal time and it just started to stress me out and felt like shit had no social life and was just working with these guys that hate everything. I didn't want to live the life that they were living. So after a couple months at it i just couldn't handle it and quit just to head back to retail working and I've been given a few choices on what i should do. One was to go back to school and finish off y12 however since i didn't complete y11 i would have to restart it essentially making me a year behind all my mates or I could continue looking of an apprenticeship with a a bigger company hoping that they'd treat me a little better. My parents have encouraged to make a choice and stick with it and Im just not sure what i want to do as a career although i would love to be a content creator though its quite not in the cards for me. I have been stressing and having major anxiety over this. I know that my life just starting but i already feel like I'm being thrown into the deep end not really knowing what to do and it sucks because my parents have always been supportive of me and i just feel like Im wasting there time and that they should've had a better since I don't deserve itIf anyone has advice id really appreciate it(apologies for bad e

I'm fat, I know it, and I hate it.

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I'm 13 years old, going on 14 this year, and I'm overweight. and I'm not just saying this because i want people to say that i'm not, because i actually am. my parents try not to point it out and make it obvious but you can tell. my mum will always sa... View more

I'm 13 years old, going on 14 this year, and I'm overweight. and I'm not just saying this because i want people to say that i'm not, because i actually am. my parents try not to point it out and make it obvious but you can tell. my mum will always say "stop eating so much, you'll turn into an oompa-loompa" and i know it's just a joke but it hurts. i try eating as healthy and as little as possible to lose weight but every time i try to do this my mum will question everything and get up all in my business. i try to exercises as much as possible (like walking to and from school each day, doing loads of quiet exercises in my room) but i'm still obese. it makes my self-esteem even lower when i see girls from my school post photos of themselves half-naked, and i spend hours on end comparing and wishing i had their perfect bodies. i'm classified as the funny one in my friend group so i don't talk about any of my home life or my feelings, but every time i do try to give hints on how i'm feeling they dont seem to care anyway. i dont tell my parents either because then they talk to me frequently about it and it makes me feel uncomfortable (they're those parents that snoop and try to know everything about me so i dont really trust them at all either). i am so scared about people making fun of me about my weight that i constantly (i mean ALWAYS) wear a zipped up jacket. i wear it so often that i think its unhealthy because it's very hot where i live and it restricts me from doing a lot of activities because i sweat a lot (also i have something called rosacea and it make your skin really red so you can tell if i've been doing any physical activity by just looking at my face) and whenever i forget my jacket on the way to school, my parents wont let me go back and get it and i end up being really insecure for the whole day or i'll go up to the office and try to borrow one (on a very rare occasion when its very, very cold though because the office lady thinks i dont need one and doesnt let me have it). overall, i just can't stand being this weight. it kills me because i'll never have enough confidence to get a personal trainer or nutritionist and i feel like i'll be this way forever and no one will ever love me because i'm fat and ugly. this was a lot to write because i've never told anyone this and i felt like i should say it all but sorry for bothering you with all this writing.

im so tired

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Hi, im 13 and really suffering from anxiety and (i think) depression. im so anxious every morning and i can't go to school due to constant panic attacks and feeling so overwhelmed. im really tired of this. i feel so bad all the time and i want to jus... View more

Hi, im 13 and really suffering from anxiety and (i think) depression. im so anxious every morning and i can't go to school due to constant panic attacks and feeling so overwhelmed. im really tired of this. i feel so bad all the time and i want to just enjoy my life. if anyone has any tips on how to cope, i would really appreciate it.

Hi

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Hi there.I'm so stressed out abt my test results.53% in my FIRST test of English.The teacher didn't even bother to teach us properly but I cant blame her.People fool around and I can't do my work .This isn't like me.My grades in other subjects are am... View more

Hi there.I'm so stressed out abt my test results.53% in my FIRST test of English.The teacher didn't even bother to teach us properly but I cant blame her.People fool around and I can't do my work .This isn't like me.My grades in other subjects are amazing but THIS . this is badI try so hard to do it but i can't dude. My parents work so hard for this ? I know this test was 8 percent but hearing about others results...I am so STRESSED LIKE I SAID BEFORE. I have more tests and assessments in this class, but idk manPlease don't tell me about how grades are nothing. That won't help at all.I just somehow want someone to relate and give tips . Maybe abt studying ? I have no phone or online status whatsoever.Like this is a school one but yh. Thanks smm for reading this . luv yall xoxo

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