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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Dyno7 I'm just a kid
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Hi, I'm a 16 year old high schooler right now going through a lot. My mum has depression and she's been in a severe depressive period for about a year now. The worst time of my life was about a few months ago, she was forced out of a public mental he... View more

Hi, I'm a 16 year old high schooler right now going through a lot. My mum has depression and she's been in a severe depressive period for about a year now. The worst time of my life was about a few months ago, she was forced out of a public mental health hospital and she felt so hopeless that she threatened to kill herself in front of me and my dad, so we had to lock all the doors in the house, hide objects, and give her strong medication to calm down. We had tried calling the ambulance before, and she's been to a lot of mental health hospitals, public and private, but the public hospitals were all so bad and right now she's in a private mental health hospital. She's better than before, but still not great, she's still on addictive PRN medication. I'm just worried about her, I just want her to get better already. It's been a year, I feel like I've suffered enough from worry. My dad is also working nonstop everyday, and its driving me insane since he won't rest, he's always working or taking care of some stuff that has to do with mum. I'm so worried about him as well. He also always shouts at me and I feel terrible when he does, but I can't even blame him, he's going through so much right now. I'm only 16 years old, why do I have to go through this now? I'm in grade 11, and very soon to be in grade 12, and I'm so nervous about it. What do I do? I can't do anything about it. It feels so helpless. I'm so worried about my future, my parents. I'm so nervous, angry and worried all the time. On top of all of this, I genuinely don't have any real friends. The one friend I did talk to didn't even care. I knew that friend for almost 6 years, and when I needed help coping with my mum being suicidal, his only responses were "oh snap", "I'm so sorry", and after 1 week he never mentioned it again. Like, are you serious? I'm just so disappointed and mad at him. This is getting really long but I still have so much on my mind. What I've written is the main things. I just don't know what to do. I want to stop coping and just be able to feel happy again. I feel so terrible everyday, I'm skipping school today just to write this because I feel so stuck. I hate my life. Writing all this out didn't even make me feel better.

Emilia15 Constant state of panic
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Hi all, I’m 22 and I still can’t function like a normal adult. I’m on my fourth year of University and I’m in a constant state of panic, I wake up every morning with a suffocating feeling. Complete dread is what I feel, and this results in the feelin... View more

Hi all, I’m 22 and I still can’t function like a normal adult. I’m on my fourth year of University and I’m in a constant state of panic, I wake up every morning with a suffocating feeling. Complete dread is what I feel, and this results in the feeling of unease for the rest of the day. People and University stress me out to the point, where I can’t move. I feel so trapped, my degree which was suppose to take me two years to complete, is taking me longer. I just feel like I can’t do anything right. I’ve always been a quiet kid in my childhood and teenage years, but now I’m afraid of human interaction. I just feel so disconnected, I feel like I’m running my life.

Triskaidekaphobia stressed, stuck and unmotivated
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Hi, I'm currently in year 12 and the end of the year is fast approaching. On one hand, that's great, I can't wait to leave school, but on the other hand it's too much to handle. This week specifically I have felt exhausted and hopeless, I can barely ... View more

Hi, I'm currently in year 12 and the end of the year is fast approaching. On one hand, that's great, I can't wait to leave school, but on the other hand it's too much to handle. This week specifically I have felt exhausted and hopeless, I can barely find the energy to do my homework as everything is just too much. Now I have wrecked my chances of getting a good mark on a literature SAC that is this week as I haven't even been able to finish one practice piece. I haven't talked to my parents or teacher about this because I'm ashamed and embarrassed. I don't want to let my parents down and I don't want to confront my Lit teacher at all. I've just been waiting. I've been waiting for the fun outside of school events I have coming up, waiting for it all to be over, and now I'm stuck. I feel like giving up but I've come so far. It just all feels so un worth it when I don't even think I want to go to uni next year. I would rather get my first job as due to covid I haven't had the time to get one. I think I have undiagnosed things but I feel too embarrassed to suggest something and get it wrong even though I know it would make things just the slightest bit easier. I just don't know where to start.

cm-mum Teenager that is lying constantly
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I am hoping to please be given some guidance on how to deal with my 14 year old son who is constantly lying. I can’t believe anything he says anymore as he lies about even the most trivial thing. His lies make me feel like I’m going crazy and he turn... View more

I am hoping to please be given some guidance on how to deal with my 14 year old son who is constantly lying. I can’t believe anything he says anymore as he lies about even the most trivial thing. His lies make me feel like I’m going crazy and he turns things back onto me. I feel it could be a personality disorder but have no idea where to go or what to do first. Other times I’ve tried to get help for him with councillors He was put on a list and I’ve never heard back. I really need some help. Thank you

slugsaredelicious alcohol abuse
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For the past few years I've been struggling with my mental health and recently I started drinking to stop myself from thinking about what's been going on and so I could be happy but now I can't stop myself. I'm losing friends over this and I hate it ... View more

For the past few years I've been struggling with my mental health and recently I started drinking to stop myself from thinking about what's been going on and so I could be happy but now I can't stop myself. I'm losing friends over this and I hate it - like what's wrong with me for turning to alcohol instead of dealing with like everyone else. Even now it feels wrong to reach out because this is my own fault.

Spl spl I don't want a job or jobseeker
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I've been trying to force myself to want a job, but I just don't want one. Jobseeker is basically a job, so I don't want that either. Its just not worth going through all that that for such a tiny amount of money. Its not even worth it. I know money ... View more

I've been trying to force myself to want a job, but I just don't want one. Jobseeker is basically a job, so I don't want that either. Its just not worth going through all that that for such a tiny amount of money. Its not even worth it. I know money is important, but honestly being homeless, broke, starving, destitute, sick, dead etc as a consequence isn't scary enough. There's things that will happen to me that are 100x scarier then that. Like climate change. I genuinely from the bottom of my heart dont see a point in working for money. It just doesn't make any logical sense. Money isn't even rewarding, it just means you get to live a bit longer. To work longer. Why would I just waste my time pretending like I will live until retirement age? That's just not realistic. I just want to spend time with my family and walk in the park while I can, before bad things happen. I don't want to waste any moment because this time of my life will probably be the happiest. I have severe ADHD and I can tell that if I went the jobseeker route that I would get so many demerits and stress and appointments for years... its just not worth it. I don't want a job, its not even important. I know people do things even though they don't like it. But I struggle to do things that I like too. I struggle a lot to do very basic activities of daily living. Absolute necessities. I think to do something and my body doesn't respond. It doesn't matter what it is or how severe it is. I had an allergic reaction to food earlier today and my airway was closing up fast. I should have been rushing to the doctor, but my body just wanted to sit, I struggled to care about it even though it was getting harder to breathe. It all happened passively. I'm fine now, but yeah idk that experince just left thoughts in my head. I don't understand how people just do things whenever they want to. I literally have never been able to do what I want or what I need. I can move but I'm not doing what I want/need. Its like being paralysed in a moving body. You could say typing here is 'moving' but if I could choose I would not post this info here as its too personal. Also, I want and need to be doing other more important things.. But its not like I have much control over what my body chooses to do, so. Anyway if you have thoughts, please share. I'm just lost here. Things don't really feel real and I've been acting super out of character (like really mean) recently. Don't really understand why I'm like this.

tmas Centrelink youth allowance - mental health
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I am currently moving out of home for the first time and am trying to fill out a Centrelink claim as I am a full time student and unable to have full-time or reliable part time work. I am a casual in two jobs due to the unreliability but do not make ... View more

I am currently moving out of home for the first time and am trying to fill out a Centrelink claim as I am a full time student and unable to have full-time or reliable part time work. I am a casual in two jobs due to the unreliability but do not make enough money to cover all rent, medical, and living expenses. I am going to be financially independent. My problem is that I am under 22 and unsure if Centrelink will consider me an independent or suitable candidate for youth allowance. I am moving for my mental health, but I don't meet the criteria for unsafe home necessitating a move. Applying online, I am being asked for the reason for my move and the option "home conditions make it difficult to study" is listed as including chronic illness made worse by living at home. This genuinely is the reason I am moving, but I'm unsure if Centrelink will take chronic mental illness as a chronic illness, or if unideal living conditions with family contact but without physical abuse or addiction etc. would suffice in the claim that the household exacerbates my symptoms. Basically I am wondering how being classified dependent or independent will affect my claim, I assume being classified dependent will dismiss it. Why are you considered dependent until 22 without extreme circumstances? Is my claim to chronic (mental) illness (which prevented me from working entirely until 2021) valid or enough to have me classified as independent?

freddofrog just need to rant
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just feeling really bored lately. like the kind of bored where all your mind csn think of is offing urself kinda thing. i have no close friends and absolutely no one to talk too. im not working atm but my mum says i need to get a job to pay rent, whi... View more

just feeling really bored lately. like the kind of bored where all your mind csn think of is offing urself kinda thing. i have no close friends and absolutely no one to talk too. im not working atm but my mum says i need to get a job to pay rent, whihc is fine but i remember how drained i was witha job and dont wanna feel like that again... anyways lately my hobbies include scrolling through tiktok ans sleeping when im not at school.. anyone else relate i also have this big ugly scar so am DREADING summer (if i even make it to then) jks, lol. anyways my emotions are weird and unpredictable so i hate being alone and i hate myself and have no friends yuckkkkbyeeeeeee

Eoeon I am so tired
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Hi! I’m 18 years old, fresh out of high school last year. I must say, I do not live a quiet life, and I have a lot of plans for the future. I’m a first year university student (luckily in an ‘easy’ humanities subject), I’m a beginner member of my uni... View more

Hi! I’m 18 years old, fresh out of high school last year. I must say, I do not live a quiet life, and I have a lot of plans for the future. I’m a first year university student (luckily in an ‘easy’ humanities subject), I’m a beginner member of my university’s kendo club (where I’ve met some lovely supporting friends this year), and I work 5 days a week at the airport, where I assist elderly or disabled passengers in making their way from check in the the gate. I also try to keep a social life.After my bachelors degree, I would love to travel the world as a flight attendant while I do my masters and hopefully doctorate, and then settle into either airline management, or full time research at the university. I love all of these things with my whole heart, but I am so so so so tired. I don’t feel like there is any room for any ‘me time’ and no matter how much sleep I get, I am extremely tired at all times.my record so far for ‘busiest day’ went like this: 3am: wake up5-12: work1-5pm: university and study6-8pm: kendo 8-11: social life12:30am: homeof course not every day is like this, and some days I might only have one thing to do. Most people would just say to ‘work less’ or ‘quit kendo’ (my mum has told me this many times). But I don’t think either of these things are plausible. my job is part time, and I have no flexibility about how much I work and when. (Pretty much all companies at the airport are like this. As they say ‘we can’t change when planes take off.’) and I love my job, it’s honestly great and I meet some amazing people, and gain experience that will help me fulfil my dream. kendo is where all my friends are. It’s also a sport that is extremely expensive at the start. Stopping now would mean giving away both thousands of dollars, and some really great friends. I don’t feel like I could give away my social life either. That would just be sad. might also be good to mention that I do have ADHD, and at the end of a day where I only do one thing, I am under stimulated to the point where I will annoy everyone around me. Maybe its better I tire myself out, lol does anyone have any advice on getting over how absolutely destroyed tired I am?

rubes3 Hi all, I have a question.
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My name is Ruby,I've never really done anything like this before so I thought I'd give it a go. I have been suffering with BPD, Depression and Anxiety since I was around 12 years old, I'm now 18. I've been in and out of the public and private system,... View more

My name is Ruby,I've never really done anything like this before so I thought I'd give it a go. I have been suffering with BPD, Depression and Anxiety since I was around 12 years old, I'm now 18. I've been in and out of the public and private system, I've been to different hospitals, countless psychologists and doctors. So at this point I'm very lost at what to do. So I thought I'd come here and see if it helps. I was doing ok for a while but over the last month things have increasingly become worse. Anyway so my question is: Do you know of any face-to-face support groups for mental health in either the Melbourne CBD or Inner Western Suburbs? I would really just like to attend a meeting with other people going through similar things to me and hear their stories and hopefully share mine, and see if anything good comes out of it. Thanks