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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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emmy moving out as a teen
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hi, i want to move interstate alone when i turn 18, and im currently 16 going on 17. any tips (how much to save, best way to move interstate, etc.)

hi, i want to move interstate alone when i turn 18, and im currently 16 going on 17. any tips (how much to save, best way to move interstate, etc.)

eva i feel like giving into pressure from teachers has ruined my chances of uni
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hi my name is eva and im currently in year 12. currently all i can feel is stress regret and anxiety when it comes to school. im doing all atar classes mainly because all ive ever been told is that i have to go to uni nothing else has ever been an op... View more

hi my name is eva and im currently in year 12. currently all i can feel is stress regret and anxiety when it comes to school. im doing all atar classes mainly because all ive ever been told is that i have to go to uni nothing else has ever been an option for me, but currently im scard i wont get in and its not due to not passing but instead because in year 11 i was pushed to do headstart courses being told they were easy and a good way to get started but they werent. everyone told me i should do it so i did but by the end of it the stress of regular school work made it hard and i failed my course i have only recently been told that a girl the year before me failed to get into uni not because of her atar but instead because failing her course lowered her university GPA and im terrified ive done the same to myself. im hoping that maybe i can apply to a different uni than the one i did my course through and it might not have an effect but im not sure. all i know is i feel like my life is over. i wasnt given enough information about it and now im so stressed the thought make me want to cry. can someone please give me any kind of idea as to waht to do im terrified.

Bea where do you start ?
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I have never been cool or fun - I struggled through school even though my friends were schol captians popular cool people - I am the odd one out now after finishing school i am at uni but have seemed to still carry the expectations. In the last month... View more

I have never been cool or fun - I struggled through school even though my friends were schol captians popular cool people - I am the odd one out now after finishing school i am at uni but have seemed to still carry the expectations. In the last months of year 12 i found myself been criticised for not having a job, for not having a social life for been dumb and stupid. Basically I was branded the friend who always said no. Now I have 2 jobs, uni. But im failing at both. there are somedays where i sit on the bus in tears. I recently went to get a ADHD diagnoses and am midway through (the cost is just astronomical) i was put on a stimulate but they haven't really helped - i got headaches , but even when i'm not taking the medication i now seem to be experiencing headaches. Recently i get irritable, the only reason why i seem to get up is for work. it has now become my life. i don't read anymore, i don't even want to go outside to my pets. I cant do uni work i just sit there. I don't know what to do i feel so stuck . Financially Emotionally. I forget to do basic tasks - forget where i put things. I know i have to change but where does one start - every time i do something there's like this pattern of destruction i begin something, goes really well then it starts to break down. It's like i am asking for help but i'm asking for the wrong help.

Tara_ Dating
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Hi there, I was dating someone for the last few months, things didn’t end very well. I guess I made mistakes pushing him away. I have felt guilty ever since then.I know he has already moved on with someone else which is a horrible feeling. I’m findin... View more

Hi there, I was dating someone for the last few months, things didn’t end very well. I guess I made mistakes pushing him away. I have felt guilty ever since then.I know he has already moved on with someone else which is a horrible feeling. I’m finding it all overwhelming at the moment. It’s really hard moving on even though it was only at the dating stage.The whole relationship thing all seemed new to me. Any dating advise/ moving on tips/feeling less guilty about it all would be appreciated.

Guest_07564765 Out of place
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Life outta school sucks. My troubles are nothing compared to some people, and people would say I have no troubles. But I honestly am just so lost. Why did no one tell me one day I’d have all these amazing friends to the next all I have it my partner.... View more

Life outta school sucks. My troubles are nothing compared to some people, and people would say I have no troubles. But I honestly am just so lost. Why did no one tell me one day I’d have all these amazing friends to the next all I have it my partner. I love him but I feel like I have no one. Sometimes I feel useless. I wonder why I spent years making friends and sharing secrets to not even saying hello to them for over a year. What’s the point in trying if life has no meaning. I have no motivation. I hate myself. I’ve gained weight and I’m ugly. And the safest part is I can recognise that I truly can’t stand myself and need to change, yet I can’t be bothered. I’m lazy. I will amount to nothing. And one day everyone will forget me and what was the point. I’m just lost. I guess I just needed to write this down, knowing at least someone will see it.

MatthewAdl How to make new friends/integrate myself into friend groups/circles?
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I've been really struggling to make friends for a while now. Its made me feel extremely lonely and I struggle to motivate myself to do basic things like shopping for clothes by myself without feeling sad. I also struggle with social anxiety so I find... View more

I've been really struggling to make friends for a while now. Its made me feel extremely lonely and I struggle to motivate myself to do basic things like shopping for clothes by myself without feeling sad. I also struggle with social anxiety so I find it almost impossible to go up to people and start a conversation with them. Everyone I study with is much older than me so we have completely different lifestyles so I haven't been able to make any friends while studying. I'm thinking of joining a badminton club but im worried I wont be able to join in with a random group of people - even if I do im pretty amateur at badminton so im worried I wouldn't be good enough to play alongside them. If I do start to make connections with people, how can I ensure that I can befriend them? for example, how can I ensure that they wont just be someone I see once and never again but someone I could chat with and hangout with outside of the club. I'm just really lost and starting to get really lonely and I just really need help.

MacJS I hate school, I'm writing this because I feel like I can't talk to anyone anymore
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I never thought I would want to drop out of school, and I'm only 14. School is getting harder and harder and I'm not talking about the work, I'm naturally smart and I'm a really good student. I'm just so sick of school, it makes me wanna die everyday... View more

I never thought I would want to drop out of school, and I'm only 14. School is getting harder and harder and I'm not talking about the work, I'm naturally smart and I'm a really good student. I'm just so sick of school, it makes me wanna die everyday. I feel like I'm wasting my youth by going to school until I turn 18, I hate my teachers and I hate everybody. I used to LOVE school, I use to be excited to go to school everyday until last year, I don't really know why I think and act like this now. I guess I've lost movtivation and don't know what I'm doing anymore, I also think I'm not really allowed to think like this since I'm only 14. I don't know what I wanna do with my life either or what direction I wanna go. I want to do certain things but my insecurity makes me feel like I won't be good enough. I feel like my friends hate me and I think I got a real problem going on and I'm not 100% sure on what to do about it. I'm starting to become real rude to my teachers and authorities and not paying attention in class anymore, I feel like if I continue doing this I'm ultimately gonna turn out to be a lazy person with no life or job when I'm older. I always feel tired and agitated, I'm unorganised and I just want to disappear, not die but disappear. Thanks for reading, I would love to hear other people's opinions and tips on what to do

Avocadooo Substance abuse.
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Whenever I go out I feel like I need to under the influence off a substance to have fun.. Alcohol or drugs.. I'm disappointed in myself that I feel the need for it because I really wish I was as confident & felt like things were as fun without the su... View more

Whenever I go out I feel like I need to under the influence off a substance to have fun.. Alcohol or drugs.. I'm disappointed in myself that I feel the need for it because I really wish I was as confident & felt like things were as fun without the substances...

Guest_68860762 Struggling to get through life
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hi im 16 and im in year 11 this year and I hate it, I hate my school so much. It’s so draining. The students and teaches are all just so draining. The student hate each other but all pretend to be friends, there’s so much drama and fights and people ... View more

hi im 16 and im in year 11 this year and I hate it, I hate my school so much. It’s so draining. The students and teaches are all just so draining. The student hate each other but all pretend to be friends, there’s so much drama and fights and people just like to start stuff for no reason. A lot of the good teachers in my school have left and the teachers we have now don’t even know how to teach or just don’t bother, ie my math teacher hadn’t taught us all the content so when we went into our first assessment task most of us didn’t understand or know how to answer the questions (mind you he’s not even a proper math teacher, he’s a science teacher). It’s just gotten to the point where I just don’t like coming to school anymore, I don’t bother to do the work sometimes because I just mentally can’t I don’t even learn anything anymore (I walks out of lessons not knowing anything) and I just hate it so much where I would rather consider online learning. Some days I can’t even get up out of bed and I would just wish I would just die. But as coming from an immigrant family my mum won’t accept that, I’ve only came this far just for her. I’m not even here for my dreams I’m here for hers. I’m so stressed and overwhelmed where I don’t even want to finish high school and go to uni or complete my hsc, they put all of this stress and pressure on me to figure out what I want to do in life, that I’ve just given up. I just want to disappear, start a new name, new identity and a new life away from everything and everyone. No more school I just can’t anymore

Obe I'm confident i just failed my mathematics test.
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Now I'm normally an average Joe in marks, the highest I've gotten was a 42/45 (:D) But today, I just had to sit 45 minutes of my not recognising anything, and I'm pretty confident I got 14%, and even that's generous. Currently, my feelings are out of... View more

Now I'm normally an average Joe in marks, the highest I've gotten was a 42/45 (:D) But today, I just had to sit 45 minutes of my not recognising anything, and I'm pretty confident I got 14%, and even that's generous. Currently, my feelings are out of the scenario (kinda feel like crying but I'm not allowing myself to) and I'm kinda just beating myself up about it. But I just want to know if I can recover from this or not. If I'm aware, this is the worst I've failed. I really don't want to watch this slow train crash happen, and I'm so desperate to find someone that doesn't just chalk it up to me not working hard enough, or they just assume that it'll be better next time. (this is my first post, so idk if im breaking any rules, sorry T^T)