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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

Sophie_M NEW TO THIS FORUM? Please read this first
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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Kotaro Isolated and upset
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I am a 20 year old guy who has been trying to move to Brisbane for 2 years now, but always found saving a bit hard.I have recently had to extend my moving date to 8 months from now when it was originally January 2025 and I’m so just tired and sad at ... View more

I am a 20 year old guy who has been trying to move to Brisbane for 2 years now, but always found saving a bit hard.I have recently had to extend my moving date to 8 months from now when it was originally January 2025 and I’m so just tired and sad at this point. Quite frankly I don’t think it’ll end up being just 8 months either considering my money situation. I am so sick of remote Queensland, it’s an utterly miserable nothing place. Anyone my age has already moved away but I’m still stuck here 2 years later. I want nothing more than to be in the city where things actually happen and evolve. I have no resources to help with my mental health which is steadily declining. I can’t date, can’t study, can’t just have friends even out here because there isn’t anyone like me out here. It’s just upsetting to see people out in more populated areas who are starting their careers, their relationships and their lives while I’m still stuck in this boring ditch. I’m done waiting and being lonely, I just wanna BE SOMEWHERE. just don’t really know what I can do at this point, all I really CAN do is wait, and that is disappointing.

Guest_81506509 Graduating Year 12
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Hey everyone, I’m currently in year 12 and have been struggling with diagnosed PTSD, anxiety, and depression for several years now and it has only gotten worse as I’ve started college. Year 11 started off great but 6 months in, a lot of horrible thin... View more

Hey everyone, I’m currently in year 12 and have been struggling with diagnosed PTSD, anxiety, and depression for several years now and it has only gotten worse as I’ve started college. Year 11 started off great but 6 months in, a lot of horrible things happened and my mental health started to decline again. I stopped going to school and started abusing things to distract myself from everything to the point I barely have any recollection of that year because I was never sober. I didn’t care about any consequences at the time because I wasn’t planning on even being here for any longer. A year has passed and I’m very glad I’m still here but all of the consequences are catching up to me. My student advisor has recently told me that I won’t be able to graduate year 12 because I’m 2 points short. Does anyone know any way I can get a medical certificate or letter from a psychologist to help me graduate? I understand that what’s done has been done but ever since I’ve started to feel better, I’ve put in so much effort to try and make up for everything and I really don’t want to give up. Any help or advice would be appreciated. Thank you

Macttenba Emotional abuse
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Who and how do I talk about being the safe one/teacher/more than an uncle a FARTHER(his words) to my nefu because his mother is mentally not there there for extreme emotional abuse and neglect makes me........ it's to much who do I involve without da... View more

Who and how do I talk about being the safe one/teacher/more than an uncle a FARTHER(his words) to my nefu because his mother is mentally not there there for extreme emotional abuse and neglect makes me........ it's to much who do I involve without damaging him even though he his clearly traumatised. He is not aloud to be with me the only person he has we are best friends and he is now in hospital, I know it's the stress he's going through but my sister is obviously narrsaasitic and enjoying the attention, last week she was in hospital.....

yuki Overwhelmed & Lost with everything.
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My emotions are really mixed and my mind is all over the place as of writing this. 14 and approaching year 10 next year with no clue what to do for the future, I'm good at only two things which I barely enjoy anymore and I'm completely burnout. Throu... View more

My emotions are really mixed and my mind is all over the place as of writing this. 14 and approaching year 10 next year with no clue what to do for the future, I'm good at only two things which I barely enjoy anymore and I'm completely burnout. Through 2 whole weeks I've been so in and out lately with constant spiralling to absolute rock bottom and barely being able to do simple tasks without stressing out over it. I have no actual hobbies or passions, all I want to do now is just lay in bed and rot in there. Everyday I feel like I'm taking more and more things to heart and letting it affect me for the next 2-3 days or so. I don't know how to even begin to explain to my mom or anyone I know that I'm feeling this way, my chest tightens and I find myself unable to say what I want to actually say without bursting into tears and hyperventilating. I feel like everyone is out to get me and belittle me at everything I'm even slightly good at, I'm lost mentally and physically and I feel like I'm not fully present in everything I 'do'. I feel so trapped in a loop of just school to bed then school to bed again and again, nothing feels real anymore and I know my mom loves me but I can't begin to explain what I've felt since I was little. I don't want her to be unable to sleep at night wondering what she went wrong with parenting for me. I'm constantly under pressure to be a better daughter than my brother in the family and I'm just getting more and more exhausted. I don't know what to do or say that won't make me look like an attention freak or a weirdo towards everyone I meet. I can barely keep up with anything since it feels like an absolute chore to even think or breathe, I want to stay home all day and cry. My grades are horrid and I don't want to go to tutor since all it does help with is just put in my mindset I'm stupid. I can barely focus on anything, I can't sit still or be like my other classmates and understand what their doing. Asking for any type of help feels so nauseating I can't even bother anymore, I feel so out of place and distant from everything. I know I'll probably sound like a broken record but I can't feel anything but just everything at once. I'm lost in life, I don't know what to do in the future, I'm overwhelmed, My entire body feels like it just exploded in a away. I don't know where else to turn to other than this place, I know I need help but I have no idea how to even approach the topic of getting help without breaking down completely.

I_am_a_Failure People dislike me and I literally have zero friends..
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Hey! I am fairly shy and embarrassed to post this but you know, so anyways. I can't really socialise as much anymore because people seem to have zero interest in me, and I get sad lonely and have no self esteem to even try to bother getting friends a... View more

Hey! I am fairly shy and embarrassed to post this but you know, so anyways. I can't really socialise as much anymore because people seem to have zero interest in me, and I get sad lonely and have no self esteem to even try to bother getting friends as people find me awkward or just really odd. I feel like I have depression which I won't go much into. But the thing is I don't get why people do though, what have I done wrong to be treated like a ghost or whatever. I have however attempt to find new friends and they ignore me or think I am not "good". I honestly get upset cause I am lonely yet people tell me things get better or go outside, honestly when I am told that I feel like they don't understand me until I go into depth on why and etc. I only have 1 friend but they pretty much ghosting me so I have none, i always am told you do have some. The fact that peoples lives are better and most of ours which makes me sad and people judge me because of how I talk and pronounce words when I have difficulty in speaking, typing or understanding it sometimes, I barely have friends to tell this to so I decided to attempt it here and see what advice I get. I really want to know but I will be posting another one probably later sometime next two weeks. Hopefully people would understand and that.

Err I am scared that I won't be able to deal with life much longer
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I'm in year 9 and just started my first job at McDonald's. It is an intensely stressful job that I'm scared I'll screw up in or won't be smart enough or resilient enough to keep working there. But recently that got me wondering if I'll ever be able t... View more

I'm in year 9 and just started my first job at McDonald's. It is an intensely stressful job that I'm scared I'll screw up in or won't be smart enough or resilient enough to keep working there. But recently that got me wondering if I'll ever be able to cope with having a new job at all. I've always had very severe anxiety though recently it has been getting worse. No future careers or jobs appeal to me so I have no idea what I want to do after school. I'm so lost and scared and I recently lost all of my friends. I can't deal with any of it.

Guest_53949320 ADHD and Losing Things
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I'm mid 40s and have been diagnosed ADHD, though still sceptical. However one symptom is I constantly lose things. The other day my expensive earbuds, and today realising that I can't find my laptop, which has a lot of info on the hard drive that I h... View more

I'm mid 40s and have been diagnosed ADHD, though still sceptical. However one symptom is I constantly lose things. The other day my expensive earbuds, and today realising that I can't find my laptop, which has a lot of info on the hard drive that I haven't backed up. I forget things on a daily basis but I'm really starting to get concerned that something else is going on. Medication just isn't helping. My life is very disorganised and I take ages to complete tasks if at all.

Aubergine It’s becoming so much and I find myself not feeling real
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I don’t have a support system or yk any of that, no one to talk to I mean if I have my friends but I don’t wanna burden them with stuff. This always happens I just don’t know how to deal with stress and I end up breaking down in classes due to misund... View more

I don’t have a support system or yk any of that, no one to talk to I mean if I have my friends but I don’t wanna burden them with stuff. This always happens I just don’t know how to deal with stress and I end up breaking down in classes due to misunderstanding and feeling dumb. All of my friends are smarter and doing stuff but I can’t I just have this mental block I can’t do I it I just can’t. I’ve been thinking about ending it all but I’m I wouldn’t be able to do that I just think about it. I look in the mirror and don’t see myself but see this creepy imitation of what’s supposed to be me. I’m so scared for the future, I’m scared of failure. I just can’t do it anymore.

Guest_42570635 Just wanna chat
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Find that I'm lonely and wanting someone to chat to

Find that I'm lonely and wanting someone to chat to

meeeeeeee sick, tired, overwhelmed and cant stop crying
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omg im so stressed!! and im tired cause last night i was up till 10pm dancing non stop from 12pm and ive got so much school work due tomorrow and i just cant stop crying, help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

omg im so stressed!! and im tired cause last night i was up till 10pm dancing non stop from 12pm and ive got so much school work due tomorrow and i just cant stop crying, help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!