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Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies

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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Needing advice on relationship

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Its a tricky one and its starting to make me feel crazy. I have been dating my bf for a year and a half and he has had this prob From the beginning when i talk to him about something he looks away or speaks pver the top of me about something totally different or when i bring up something i find interesting he walks away into the kitchen. Last night i talked about a book im reading and something in the book I found interesting, i was trying to talk and he just walked away into the laundry and said “can you help me”…. So i just said why cant you engage and listen and then we can get to this, you make me feel like you dont care and you are not even listening. So he shut down, put a wall up and didnt speak to me the rest of the night. I finally built the balls tp say hey can we talk, and he said “when i grew up my mum always picked things about my dad and i hated it, i dont want you telling me things you dont like” and i responded with this is basic communication and this is how we fix things and basically turned the whole thing on me how he feel not good enough and i ended up crying and apologising, now he went to work today, hasnt talked to me. Makes me feel crazy and thinking omg is it my fault?

idk a little vent ig

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hi. im 14 and for the last few months my mental health hasn't been the best. i've been struggling for a while, when i was 11 i struggled with body image and since then continued to struggle with food. i've become so overwhelmed and it can keep me down for a while. it's hard for me to keep a happy outlook, especially when there's lots of people around, sometimes i just shut down and sit there. the smallest things can ruin my day, and even if i set off happy and feeling well i come back tired - im always so tired - and go to bed feeling like shit. i started today off happy but burnt out by 12; we have a group of 7, me and two other girls were at our lockers waiting for the other four but they didn't come, so we went to the bathroom and eventually figured out where they were, but that was my last straw so i had a go at them, i feel bad. then everyone started playing tag ig bc they could. i didn't play. i had already hit my limit, but normally i'm fine, i looked around to try and find another friend so i wasn't being a buzzkill but couldn't see anyone. so i just stood there in the middle of the oval trying to stop myself from crying, there was so much going on. thank god for my bsf, i tried to be fine but i wasn't. sometimes i'm fine but others i feel so low. i think i need help, but idk if i'm being silly.

Emetophobia ruining my life

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Hi guys, I am new here. I am from New Zealand but I have family over here and visit often. We sadly do not have a “beyond blue” in NZ. I am in Aus right now, wishing I could enjoy my holiday instead of being anxious. Wanting to know if anyone here suffers from specific phobia anxiety, in particular, emetophobia? This is a fear of vomiting. I’ve been trapped with this phobia since the day I can remember. I have been in proper help for 6 years, I’m on very good medication, but it still disables me very much. A lot of people I open up to about this say “nobody likes vomiting”. But it’s not that simple. I am terrified of food, of eating, drinking, touching surfaces, taking medication where nausea is a side effect, travelling- I have very avoidant behaviours. I can not touch other people. I do all I can to avoid the possibility of catching an illness or getting poisoned. I think my own Mum is trying to poison me. I am always on the brink of a panic attack and just waiting for the trigger. This phobia gets better and worse over time, but right now it is very much “worse”. I am severely underweight and although I am an adult I look like a 12 year old. I am constantly obsessing over food and hygiene. I spend hours reading food labels. I can’t eat at restaurants/takeaways. I cannot travel with other people. I take unnecessary anti-nausea medication and go through a lot of hand sanitiser. This phobia is absolutely crippling, moreso because it’s unavoidable. You cannot avoid eating, or your own body. I am wanting to know if anyone else out there understands what it is like? or anyone with a phobia, anxiety or OCD in general. Thank you for reading, I’m sorry it’s so long. Hope to hear from people soon, I am still figuring out how this website works. Thank you- Newtonb18

Having General Anxiety and Depression but never declaring it at my work!

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Hey everyone,I really felt the need to connect to the Beyond Blue community as I would love some ideas.I work in alternative education and many of the students and one of my main colleagues are neuro-diverse.This is woven into their identities and they are proud of the unique way they see the world I enjoy working with them and hearing their insights.However, I have always had G.A.D and at 42 years of age have just always tried to cope. I have never disclosed in any of my workplaces that I deal with my anxiety every day and going to work is manageable, yet exhausting as I have to navigate all my interactions 'pretending' that I am not an anxious person.At this point I do not plan to tell people that I have G.A.D as I don't feel comfortable in doing so.In my work, the main colleague I work with is autistic and has O.C.D.We started out the year great but I have noticed they are a workaholic and work on weekends. I have no intention of doing this but lately, I have missed a few bits and pieces in my duties (nothing critical) due to my colleague's intensity, they call me out bluntly about missing these bits and pieces.When they do this I find their bluntness upsetting and when we go off to do our separate duties, I find myself having to do lots of wellness (breathing and gratitude work) just to get myself in a headspace to do my set tasks - hence why I am behind.I am the first one to sat that I have missed something and will rectify it but due to my colleague's bluntness I am finding myself paranoid that they think less of me and have changed their opinion of me as I forget to do some things in my job.Any advice is much appreciated as this is causing much anxiety - especially as I write this on a Sunday as Monday we go into meetings ( a place where my colleague calls me out).

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hello my name is sienna im 12 i have adhd and anxiety im currently in year 7 of highschool i love cats art music dance and reading books i have alot of books and i have a cat and dog thats about it

I don't know how to push through

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Hey guys, I'm a 17 year old who just kinda needs some support. I do have a support group in my family but no one really understands why I feel the way I do, so maybe someone here relates? Got diagnosed a bit ago with having GAD and Social Anxiety with depressive symptoms, I also have Agoraphobia I think. I just have had a really hard time with school recently, I was coming top of my class and then I started taking Lexapro and my whole life started feeling like it was crashing down around me (turns out I'm allergic to it whoops, it made me 100x worse) Since then everything is soo crappy. I can't even go to school without breaking down, and I genuinely just can't put myself in any situations that scare me or else I freak. Everyone just tells me that I need to push through and separate my feelings from reality, but I don't know how. My HSC performances are coming up and I can't even be at school, I feel like I'm ruining my own life. I don't know how to push though, everything's so out of control and it's all my fault. It's like a switch went off, I was handling everything so well and now I can't handle anything. I don't know what to do.

i have a 2 exams and 3 assignments due in 2 weeks and haven't studied or dont them

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i'm really stressed cause i'm in year 7(12 yrs old) and i have 2 exams and 3 assignments due in 2 weeks and ive only done one assignment . the only one i have done is my pdhp one that is a group dance . i have my theory , Georaphy and music assignment and have the other part of my theory as an exam and a english exam . I have ADHD and anxiety and i struggle to keep plans for my work and keep on task and leave it to the last minuet , i dont know how to like make time for me to study and do my assignments because i keep procrastinating and not doing them i dont know what to do because i want to get it done but i dont know how . next week is my last week to get them done because the are due the week after (week 7) . if anyone who knows what this is like and has things i can do for it id be very glad to take any advice i can

Young People

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Hi Is it only my parents but when I want to tell them my depression is bad or my anxiety is bad they like those things don't even exist and it hurts me very much I cry myself to sleep and I have trusted teachers to tell about friends but I get bullie... View more

Feeling ashamed to be a White Male

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I'm a male myself and I have NEVER EVER been sexist or disrespectful or racist to anyone ever. Not now, not EVER!!!! But I feel like what ever I come across in media, it feels like all I hear is "White Males Are Bad". When I watch shows like Charmed and I come across certain scenes where Males are regarded as bad people, it makes me feel uncomfortable. You got shows like the Neighbourhood sitcom that I came across where they cover racism where a black guy gets put in a jail cell for being black which is so NOT fair whatsoever. And the main lead says the police system is working the right way for white guys but not black people or any other culture. And white people will never understand whatsoever the pain other people go through. And they whole policeman beating up a black guy which leads to the black lives matter movement. I feel like I'm ashamed of all these bad things happening even though I have done NOTHING to do with anything of that bad stuff. But because of the long history I hear of white males doing bad stuff, I feel like I have to be responsible for that or feel as though it's my fault. It may sound silly but I feel like all I hear is White Males are bad and cause problems. I feel like if I see someone in pain or needs help, I want to be able to help or show support no matter what their colour or background is. We are all still human beings after all and all this dumb bad stuff like racism and sexism shouldn't be around any more. Nor should it have existed in the first place. I hate the fact that bad stuff like this still happens and I feel helpless to see it pop up in media or fiction. I felt ashamed to be a white male so many times and my friend says I shouldn't, all that stuff isn't my fault and I shouldn't take on the responsibility of other people's actions that I don't even know. Focus on my own actions and what I can change. But because all that stuff happens, I feel like I get stuffed into a category where I'm a white male and are automatically the enemy. And no matter how hard I try to help and try to show that not all white males are bad, I feel like I can't make a positive difference. Like I'm powerless to make a positive change so people can see not all white males are bad people, or even white people in general. I want to be able to try and understand what others are going through as well as try to stop bad things from happening.

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