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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

Sophie_M NEW TO THIS FORUM? Please read this first
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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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sbella02 How to get a better sleep schedule (as a uni student)?
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Hey all, I'm genuinely curious, as somebody who has long struggled with sleep deprivation. For uni students who go to bed early specifically, what is your secret? Is there a foolproof way to consistently go to bed early AND manage to fit all other co... View more

Hey all, I'm genuinely curious, as somebody who has long struggled with sleep deprivation. For uni students who go to bed early specifically, what is your secret? Is there a foolproof way to consistently go to bed early AND manage to fit all other commitments/activities/study into your day? I just cannot seem to get to sleep before 12 these days, and it affects me in more ways than one. I struggle to wake up early, I'm constantly tired, and it may or may not be affecting my mood, but that's difficult to assess really. I'm in awe of people who have a consistent 9pm, 10pm, 11pm bedtime. How? It seems so unachievable to me. Are there any amazing methods that people use that seem to work every time? Is it meditation, setting alarms, having others remind you? Keen to hear people's experiences. People who aren't uni students, you're definitely welcome to reply as well, I'm just specifically interested to hear the perspectives of people with whom I share similar schedules/study commitments. SB

Marie08 New in Sydney and struggling to make friends
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Hi! Am a stay at home mum of teenagers and I don't really have friends to hang around or even chat with since I'm new in Sydney (3yrs). I hope I can find nice people here who would like to chat and create a new friendship.

Hi! Am a stay at home mum of teenagers and I don't really have friends to hang around or even chat with since I'm new in Sydney (3yrs). I hope I can find nice people here who would like to chat and create a new friendship.

AreUSatisfied idk what to do?
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ok so i have a crush on this girl in my class im not friends with her even though i would like to be. Any one have tips to talk to her? (im also female btw)

ok so i have a crush on this girl in my class im not friends with her even though i would like to be. Any one have tips to talk to her? (im also female btw)

Paulagain1234 I'm there again.
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I'm not sure Ill come back here. Iv done it again. I'm sad and everything is grey. I keep coming back and seeing people struggling. I never post. It seems like there are only so many different ways for people to say they are done, but at the same tim... View more

I'm not sure Ill come back here. Iv done it again. I'm sad and everything is grey. I keep coming back and seeing people struggling. I never post. It seems like there are only so many different ways for people to say they are done, but at the same time, nothing seems to fit how I'm feeling. I feel like Ive failed just by being here. I want to relapse. I want to pull away from everyone. I want to keep distracting myself so I don't have to even think about the mistakes I keep making. Which are mostly on purpose. I hope this passes, but everytime I get here I just feel like Iv BSed myself out of being depressed, and it seems to hit me harder everytime it catches me. Like a constant race to out run the sadness. One I seem to never be fast enough to keep at bay for long. Does it ever stop? Is there ever going to be a time when I just outrun the darkness? When does it end? And how do I know it's ended? I might just be the same as everyone else, but not feel strong enough to cope with the average day to day. Long question short... When is enough? When can I just either be ok? Why is the dredge of day to day suffering something we are supposed to power through? And if it isn't, when do I say this is fine?

Tenshi HOW DO I GET A SERVICE DOG?
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Hi there, I'm new here but I decided to join BeyondBlue as they talked about helping to find solutions to Anxiety and Depression. I am diagnosed with Anxiety and although not properly diagnosed, do sometimes feel depressed. I turn 14 in December, so ... View more

Hi there, I'm new here but I decided to join BeyondBlue as they talked about helping to find solutions to Anxiety and Depression. I am diagnosed with Anxiety and although not properly diagnosed, do sometimes feel depressed. I turn 14 in December, so I'm still quite young therefore really don't want to take repetitive medication. So for the past year I have been researching other Solutions and for the past 4 months or so, through personal research, I have concluded that the best option for me would be a service dog. I'm young, energetic and love animals. I already have a dog and a cat who often help calm me down if I'm having a panic attack but my dog is nowhere near qualified to be a service dog! An anxiety I get is that I'm afraid people won't see me as "mentally ill enough" or that I don't "qualify" for a service dog that I know would help. I think something that gives me this anxiety may be my mum. And trust me I have a great relationship with my mum but this is one of the few things we seriously fight about. Its that I prefer to have a label on my issues. That is a personal preference I wish my mum could respect. I would prefer to be able to say I have anxiety or I have tourettes or I have depression (not diagnosed with all of those btw-examples) than to have to avoid the question or have to struggle to explain whats going on with me. While my mum doesn't like me having labels on my issues, I can respect it as she is my mum and she probably doesn't like to hear he own daughter define herself as someone with anxiety. She just can't see it from my perspective. Anyways to the question of this forum: I live in Sydney and would really like to soon go to my GP privately and talk to her about service dogs (If thats who I even talk to!) But I really want to know the following. Does anyone have a service dog and want to share some info? Where I have to go or what I have to do to qualify for a service dog? How involved must parents me in the process? Is my GP the right person to talk to? What should I say to her? Do I need to try and "convince" her that a service dog is what I need? Should I bring all my personal research with me? Can a service dog live with a non-service dog? There are so many questions I have so I'm going to sum it up by saying if you have ANY info on getting a service dog please say below Thanks so so much in advance for any help and please feel free to say something if you're having the same issue x Tenshi -xoxo-

Richardb3 How to move forward in life when I am hideously ugly?
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Just wondering what I should do if I am ugly. I don’t really know what the point of life is, or how I can enjoy life, if I am too ugly to find a girlfriend. Any tips would be appreciated

Just wondering what I should do if I am ugly. I don’t really know what the point of life is, or how I can enjoy life, if I am too ugly to find a girlfriend. Any tips would be appreciated

Guest_0784 I feel stuck being discriminated for my disability
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I’m at a state where I’ll just have to post this, even if my display name hasn’t changed. I’ve been dealing with Autism, and other mental health concerns including PTSD for a long time. But recently, I’ve been having random dizzy and cardiac spells w... View more

I’m at a state where I’ll just have to post this, even if my display name hasn’t changed. I’ve been dealing with Autism, and other mental health concerns including PTSD for a long time. But recently, I’ve been having random dizzy and cardiac spells which have made me struggle to talk, walk, or stand at home, and in public. In the end, I was diagnosed with a FND (Functional Neurological Disorder) called drop attacks. But this hasn’t ended discrimination I’ve been facing in the public. Public Transport, especially Trains have been a favourite for all my life. If something was wrong, the trains were a safe haven. But not anymore… I’ve been constantly harassed, humiliated, and discriminated. They think I’m on drugs, drunk, or sometimes a terrorist! I’m constantly getting customers trying to push me off the platform, staff thinking I’m faking my disability, staff and customers mocking my voice, and when I try to speak up about it, it gets shut down constantly! These examples, and additional research has shown that Public Transport services in Australia, have a significant lack of culture, with staff thinking that they’re transport trains, not people. With the rest of my family having to deal with they’re own concerns, I’m stuck in an abusive system in school, home, “work”, and out in public. I can’t say too much at the moment because I’m still shaken from incidents 6 years ago, to some from last night! Posting this will put me at risk for my safety in public, and will risk my future career, and will cause consequences within my circle. But I need to do this, it’s not only me who’s been through this. And I will continue this until a change is made.

_goldfish_:o It comes and goes in waves
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Hey, I am a fairly new poster here but have been living with mental illness for a few years. One thing that I find hard is that a lot of my symptoms seem to come and go quite drastically. One week I'll be on top of the world and the next I'll be figh... View more

Hey, I am a fairly new poster here but have been living with mental illness for a few years. One thing that I find hard is that a lot of my symptoms seem to come and go quite drastically. One week I'll be on top of the world and the next I'll be fighting off thoughts of SH. The 'hard periods' as I call them can last anywhere from a day to three months and don't happen at regular intervals either. I can also never identify anything that might trigger this when it happens. Does anyone else feel the same or have any advice? Or know why this happens? Or how to help/prevent it? I'm grateful for any help and/or suggestions (and I apologise if I've written anything wrong in this post)

HoneyMilk123 Exam Stress
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Hey! So, I feel like I can't talk to anyone about this because when I do they tell me that I'm being dramatic, or that it will be fine so I've come here as a last resort. Even writing this I feel like I am wasting some poor person's time and that the... View more

Hey! So, I feel like I can't talk to anyone about this because when I do they tell me that I'm being dramatic, or that it will be fine so I've come here as a last resort. Even writing this I feel like I am wasting some poor person's time and that they could be doing other interesting things than hearing me whine and if that's you just wanted to apologise - ill try and be quick here. Anyway, that's me! Continuing on, I have exams next week, four essays on two different classes and a really tough math one, all of which are separately under two hours long. I don't know why I'm worried so much, it doesn't matter in the big scheme of things but nevertheless, I find myself here at this very moment with tears falling from my eyes and a racing heartbeat trying to calm myself down. I don't know how to though, I keep telling myself OVER AND OVER again that it doesn't matter but I can stop worrying. I worry that I'm going to try my absolute hardest and get terrible results, or that I haven't studied enough or that even I'm going to fail all my classes and won't be able to graduate in year 11. I know what you're most likely thinking is - well if you study hard enough then you'll be fine but that's just the thing, for the past couple of days that's all I've been doing, so then why doesn't it feel enough? Why am I sitting here in tears feeling like the world is going to end? That may be a little over dramatic but this is honestly what it feels like to be inside my own head. I feel like I'm in this alone. no one understands what it's like to be me. God, I'm so over dramatic, I'm sorry for wasting your time, I do hope whoever reads this has a lovely day and doesn't end up stressed out of their mind like me. Seriously, I hope your day is well, genuinely. Thank you, from a lonely teenager.

Richardb3 How does someone find a career path ?
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Hello, I am really struggling to figure out what job I want in the future. I am in university at the moment but hate it. I really cannot envision myself being a successful person in any field, because there aren't any jobs that appeal to me/ or have ... View more

Hello, I am really struggling to figure out what job I want in the future. I am in university at the moment but hate it. I really cannot envision myself being a successful person in any field, because there aren't any jobs that appeal to me/ or have major drawbacks. Does anyone who was in a similar situation have any advice? Might help me and others feeling the same way thanks