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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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MacJS I hate school, I'm writing this because I feel like I can't talk to anyone anymore
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I never thought I would want to drop out of school, and I'm only 14. School is getting harder and harder and I'm not talking about the work, I'm naturally smart and I'm a really good student. I'm just so sick of school, it makes me wanna die everyday... View more

I never thought I would want to drop out of school, and I'm only 14. School is getting harder and harder and I'm not talking about the work, I'm naturally smart and I'm a really good student. I'm just so sick of school, it makes me wanna die everyday. I feel like I'm wasting my youth by going to school until I turn 18, I hate my teachers and I hate everybody. I used to LOVE school, I use to be excited to go to school everyday until last year, I don't really know why I think and act like this now. I guess I've lost movtivation and don't know what I'm doing anymore, I also think I'm not really allowed to think like this since I'm only 14. I don't know what I wanna do with my life either or what direction I wanna go. I want to do certain things but my insecurity makes me feel like I won't be good enough. I feel like my friends hate me and I think I got a real problem going on and I'm not 100% sure on what to do about it. I'm starting to become real rude to my teachers and authorities and not paying attention in class anymore, I feel like if I continue doing this I'm ultimately gonna turn out to be a lazy person with no life or job when I'm older. I always feel tired and agitated, I'm unorganised and I just want to disappear, not die but disappear. Thanks for reading, I would love to hear other people's opinions and tips on what to do

Avocadooo Substance abuse.
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Whenever I go out I feel like I need to under the influence off a substance to have fun.. Alcohol or drugs.. I'm disappointed in myself that I feel the need for it because I really wish I was as confident & felt like things were as fun without the su... View more

Whenever I go out I feel like I need to under the influence off a substance to have fun.. Alcohol or drugs.. I'm disappointed in myself that I feel the need for it because I really wish I was as confident & felt like things were as fun without the substances...

Guest_68860762 Struggling to get through life
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hi im 16 and im in year 11 this year and I hate it, I hate my school so much. It’s so draining. The students and teaches are all just so draining. The student hate each other but all pretend to be friends, there’s so much drama and fights and people ... View more

hi im 16 and im in year 11 this year and I hate it, I hate my school so much. It’s so draining. The students and teaches are all just so draining. The student hate each other but all pretend to be friends, there’s so much drama and fights and people just like to start stuff for no reason. A lot of the good teachers in my school have left and the teachers we have now don’t even know how to teach or just don’t bother, ie my math teacher hadn’t taught us all the content so when we went into our first assessment task most of us didn’t understand or know how to answer the questions (mind you he’s not even a proper math teacher, he’s a science teacher). It’s just gotten to the point where I just don’t like coming to school anymore, I don’t bother to do the work sometimes because I just mentally can’t I don’t even learn anything anymore (I walks out of lessons not knowing anything) and I just hate it so much where I would rather consider online learning. Some days I can’t even get up out of bed and I would just wish I would just die. But as coming from an immigrant family my mum won’t accept that, I’ve only came this far just for her. I’m not even here for my dreams I’m here for hers. I’m so stressed and overwhelmed where I don’t even want to finish high school and go to uni or complete my hsc, they put all of this stress and pressure on me to figure out what I want to do in life, that I’ve just given up. I just want to disappear, start a new name, new identity and a new life away from everything and everyone. No more school I just can’t anymore

Obe I'm confident i just failed my mathematics test.
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Now I'm normally an average Joe in marks, the highest I've gotten was a 42/45 (:D) But today, I just had to sit 45 minutes of my not recognising anything, and I'm pretty confident I got 14%, and even that's generous. Currently, my feelings are out of... View more

Now I'm normally an average Joe in marks, the highest I've gotten was a 42/45 (:D) But today, I just had to sit 45 minutes of my not recognising anything, and I'm pretty confident I got 14%, and even that's generous. Currently, my feelings are out of the scenario (kinda feel like crying but I'm not allowing myself to) and I'm kinda just beating myself up about it. But I just want to know if I can recover from this or not. If I'm aware, this is the worst I've failed. I really don't want to watch this slow train crash happen, and I'm so desperate to find someone that doesn't just chalk it up to me not working hard enough, or they just assume that it'll be better next time. (this is my first post, so idk if im breaking any rules, sorry T^T)

MonastiikKuyp Recently Immigrated
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Kia Ora, I am a 16-year-old boy from New Zealand and just immigrated to Perth as of 23rd of December. I am going to rant, so thank you for reading this if you do :] My sister, parents and I immigrated to Aussie for the "better life-style." Better lif... View more

Kia Ora, I am a 16-year-old boy from New Zealand and just immigrated to Perth as of 23rd of December. I am going to rant, so thank you for reading this if you do :] My sister, parents and I immigrated to Aussie for the "better life-style." Better life-style my ass. The only thing I enjoy is the beach, and I can't go down there without my mum and dad worrying about sharks. Anyway, I come from the country-side and find myself thinking about the long wavy grass in our paddock, and the fresh cold air that would clear my nose as I stood outside in the mornings. I miss it. I eventually moved to a small town in NZ where my old high school was situated and it was lovely. I could walk down the street to my mates' houses. I could get chicken and chips with them! I can't anymore. Here I am. In this foreign place. Everything is so distant from me, despite being in a suburb close to the city. I was extremely confident (not in a cocky way) and was never insecure. That changed as soon as I got into this new school. Everyone has great hair and beautiful faces. I find myself worrying about my looks. Not only that, but I fear people don't like me. I have that fear, despite making new friends. They are lovely. I don't have to worry about a single thing with them. When we split to do our things, I get quite lonely. I made friends before these kinder ones. Though, one caught feelings for me, but never dated me. We aren't fond of each other. She had a tendency to insult me or made me feel stink about myself. She is mean enough to say "Ew," whenever she sees me. She tends to whisper to people whilst DIRECTLY look at me in the eyes, and sometimes she will even point. I am getting EXTREMELY anxious when walking around. This is because people stare and rarely approach me. I sit by myself in the middle of my classes (apart from two which my friends are in, which is nice). In these classes, I find myself getting bored or worrying about completely different things. The only one which I hyper focus on is Economics, and it is pretty fun and simple. Unfortunately, there is no Accounting in my school, which is what I did in my old one. I chose History due to the absence of Accounting (ps. History is interesting but it isn't fun for me). Idk, lol. I would love to explore more of Perth; though, I am trapped in our rental house, so instead I am at a table 24/7 indulging in some lovely ADHD (I feel that I have it, not diagnosed, got autism tho lol) burnout thingmabob because of the insane workload. My dad is usually on swing. My mum is reluctant to go places and I love her too much to get mad. Also as stated before, the school workload, hence why I am trapped. Perhaps this immigration will be my "growth" journey or something, lol. I was definitely happier in NZ. I apologise if this is hard to read along as I tend to write with no specific order, by that I mean I will write random things as they come to mind. I have a bit more, though I don't know the word count lol. I also should sleep... school :[ I know my situation no where near amounts up to someone else's problems, but I just wanted to share because I feel it would alleviate some anxiety and stress or perhaps make me see the light of it. Nga mihi nui, thanks for reading this :]

mickeyzee I'm so tired of life and I'm scared
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Hey, I'm a 16 yr old girl in yr 11. I'm not very open about myself and this is really hard for me but I need some advice. I've been struggling with my mental health lately (since last year) and have been feeling extremely down over the years. I've br... View more

Hey, I'm a 16 yr old girl in yr 11. I'm not very open about myself and this is really hard for me but I need some advice. I've been struggling with my mental health lately (since last year) and have been feeling extremely down over the years. I've broken down so many times in the past month when I never used to. My biggest struggle is my body image. My waistline is 82cm and I've been feeling really bad about it, especially as all my classmates and friends are always complaining about how 'fat' they are and the calories they consume. I'm scared to eat and I've become extremely conscious about my calorie intact and how many I burn however I am also a huge emotional eater and food is part of my culture and my only happy place at the moment which drags me into a vicious cycle. I do exercise daily and am active, eating healthy (except when I feel horrible, then I eat which has been a lot lately) but my stomach makes me want to lose weight desperately. Due to my classmates and friends negativity (not just about their weight btw) I am hating being at school and dread every day but have to attend most days as it is so hard to miss days during SACE years without falling behind. Due to the extremely high expectations of my grades I put a lot of pressure on myself to do well and feel really stressed to achieve well. I am also struggling with sorting out my emotions over the guy I like and recently found out that one of my closest friends like me and knowing this is hard. He doesn't know I know but he is acting more distant lately since I revealed I still like another guy but I really don't want to lose my friend. All these emotions and pressure is getting to much for me and I'm starting to scare myself. I've often found myself sitting and wanting to hurt myself so badly but being to scared of pain to. I don't want to open up to my parents because they are going through a lot with dad travelling so much for work and my friends are going through their own battles. I don't know what to do and could really use some advice. If you read all this thank you so much for listening to me ramble on :]

Aimz_03 Siblings in jail
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Hi, I’ve been going through a rough patch lately since both my siblings got locked up and I sometimes feel like didn’t Do enough as an older sibling and I really miss them, we call time to time but it doesn’t feel like home anymore it feels like a em... View more

Hi, I’ve been going through a rough patch lately since both my siblings got locked up and I sometimes feel like didn’t Do enough as an older sibling and I really miss them, we call time to time but it doesn’t feel like home anymore it feels like a empty house with memories. This is my families first time to have someone in jail

mango-ice_ i dont feel like i fit in
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im in year 10 and i started a new school at the start of this year. i know its only been 8 or so weeks but i still dont feel like i fit in anywhere. everyone already have their designated friend groups. at lunch and recess i float around and dont rea... View more

im in year 10 and i started a new school at the start of this year. i know its only been 8 or so weeks but i still dont feel like i fit in anywhere. everyone already have their designated friend groups. at lunch and recess i float around and dont really have a "group" to always be around. i know its still early but i feel so unwanted. another thing, on the bus a peer took a photo of me and made fun of me in a groupchat with their friends. it wasnt a big deal but in the moment i got pretty upset. i told one of my new friends my side of what happened then they asked the person what happened and they made me look like im making a big deal out of nothing. i have issues with cameras and i always get so anxious when theres one infront of me but thats a story for another day. i feel like if i was in my old school then everyone would be abit more understanding. what can i do

cm-mum Teenager that is lying constantly
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I am hoping to please be given some guidance on how to deal with my 14 year old son who is constantly lying. I can’t believe anything he says anymore as he lies about even the most trivial thing. His lies make me feel like I’m going crazy and he turn... View more

I am hoping to please be given some guidance on how to deal with my 14 year old son who is constantly lying. I can’t believe anything he says anymore as he lies about even the most trivial thing. His lies make me feel like I’m going crazy and he turns things back onto me. I feel it could be a personality disorder but have no idea where to go or what to do first. Other times I’ve tried to get help for him with councillors He was put on a list and I’ve never heard back. I really need some help. Thank you

teddyy2008 School and social life
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Hi! I'm a 16 year old girl in year 11. Ever since I've started highschool, school was a major problem for me. It doesn't feel the same as primary. I've recently moved to a new school and it's killing me. No one wants to talk to me and I've been spend... View more

Hi! I'm a 16 year old girl in year 11. Ever since I've started highschool, school was a major problem for me. It doesn't feel the same as primary. I've recently moved to a new school and it's killing me. No one wants to talk to me and I've been spending school alone. My mental health has been deteriorating and I don't think I can do school anymore. I was thinking about online school but I'm scared about my social life. I wanna be able to make friends, go out, study with people and talk. I've also been wondering about Tafe but i'm not capable as I'm not 17. I don't know what to do and It's been killing me everyday. I wanna be able to make friends and socialise since these are slowly my last years as a teenager, please give me advice.