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Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies

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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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Mental health in year 12 VCE

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Hey everyone, I am currently in year 12 completing VCE. Recently I have been diagnosed with generalised anxiety disorder and panic disorder. I have always been anxious as a kid but it has gotten so much worse this year. In the beginning of term 1, I was having panic attacks on the way to school, feeling like I couldn't breathe and feeling sick, of course I couldn't make it to class. I never thought year 12 would really affect my mental health as I want this last year of school for me to be fun and enjoyable with my friends. I got prescribed an SSRI and it made me sick alongside with other side effects (I think I started too high on a dosage), I haven't gone back to any other medications since apart from a short term medication to relieve anxiety. I do speak to a psychologist and school counsellor but I am still feeling like this, especially on Mondays. Thank you

Its so hard

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Does any one else feel like, its so hard to be happy? Like everyday is such an effort to get up and ready and put on a smile and do the day. It seems so easy for everyone around me. I'm so exhausted from being sad, and anxious all the time

Step mum trouble

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I use to be close with my dad but he never pays attention to me because my step mum doesn't let him and she is very controlling of him and she always has to get me in trouble it's like she gets hot from it as I don't know what to do I feel so angry View more

can't cope with des

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centrelink have said they will no longer accept med certs, yet my daughter is mentally incapable of seeing dsps I'm not sure what we're supposed to do. She'll be homeless at this rate

Year 12 has been a miserable experience.

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The title is honestly an understatement. I've been struggling with mental health issues for a long time (nothing to the point of a disorder, but nonetheless) and year 12 has been such a horrible period so far. First of all, I just wanna point out that I've always hated school, especially mine. I've hated the people here for so long, I hate the culture in the students and the teachers (particularly the more powerful teachers). My experience in school over the past 6-8 years has been one of a 'burned out gifted kid', which in a nutshell is just a kid who was academically successful but fell off as they got older, and becoming unmotivated, irresponsible and depressed as a result. I thought at least this year would be different and I'd have a fresh start and new perspective. What came out of it in the end? I barely study. I wanted to study daily for at least a few hours, but I don't even study every day. My school is a shitty public school too, so there's no way in hell I'm gonna do well in this rate. My SAC scores aren't good. I'm barely passing my Maths and Chemistry SACs, the subjects I wanted to well in the most, and I've lagged behind others so much, which is bad considering I'm doing VCE. There goes my rankings, I guess. I don't know how I can ever go on like this. There's such high expectations set for me mainly because of my past, and mainly from myself and my family. I always feel like I'm never good enough. I always feel like I'm screwing up everything. I always feel like I'm letting people down. My goal was to get at least an ATAR of 82 for my course, but I've been such a disaster that it seems impossible. My future prospects seem pointless now. I don't even feel the same ambition I've felt in the past. I don't know what I want anymore. All I'm ever doing is watching myself fall apart and it's killing me. Nothing has improved. Aside from my "academics," my life outside of schoolwork is nothing short of pathetic. In school, I barely have any meaningful friendships, I feel like a burden to others all of the fucking time and I socialise like I've never spoken to people in my life. I come across as a loser to others and it's becoming more obvious to me that they see me in the same light as time passes. It's been , and been so for who knows how long. I don't have a job. I don't have any other things going on for me. I don't really know what else to say. I have so many thoughts that I can't put into words in relation to this. I just want things to change.

I feel lonlier everyday and I don't know what to do

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Hello, I'm in year 12 and have been realy struggling lately trying to find people that care about me. I feel as if I am just there for convenience and I truly believe no one loves me like I love everyone. I always listen to peoples problems, I always stick by peoples side even if they don't deserve it and yet I feel I am ignored. I just want unconditional love and support. I feel I am too demanding of a person and maybe everyones just tired of me. Because of this, most days I struggle with getting out of bed. I've stopped talking to people and I've noticed my grades starting to drop. I'm just waiting for the day I find my people, but I really hope that day comes quick. ❤

How do I get my life together after being sheltered and spoiled?

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I'm 20 and I've been reflecting on my life until now. I grew up in a broken home which impacted me emotionally when I was a child. Likely out of misguided intent, my parents spoiled and were more easy on my shortcomings, especially compared to my older brother. As a result, I grew up introverted, obese, emotionally immature, self-loathing, terrible money spending skills, and I never bothered to find work or work experience during high school. After graduating, I took a so-called gap year, I say so-called because it was because I did nothing but hang out with my friends. The year afterwards, I tried to study IT and web-development at TAFE, but I ended up disliking a lot of the aspects of the coursework, which included a lot of roleplaying and filming. I understand that it's to help with soft skills, but I honestly felt like I was doing less programming and felt like I was doing more sales rep work. I got tired of TAFE to the point I became a dole bludger and rarely showed up to classes, which I'm still ashamed of today. Of course, I eventually ended up with a $3K debt to Centrelink due to my lack of work and attendance. If I wasn't self-aware now, I'd blame it on TAFE, but I know that my actions are my fault, and I'm grateful that I have the privilege of having a mother who's willing to help me pay it off. But the worst part now is that I've forgotten most of the skills I've learnt during TAFE due to lazing around. I know dwelling on the past all the time isn't good, but I can't help but feel all of my bad decisions are catching up to me, I tried finding work at McDonald's, but I rarely got any shifts and eventually quit on my second day when I started finally getting them due to the crew trainer getting frustrated that I didn't know everything. Later, I applied to a university for a Diploma of IT which will start in June, but I honestly have no idea what I truly want to do with my life and only chose the diploma because I believe I'll get a decent job and salary. But the problem is that because of Centrelink, I'm also scared of having a debt just for studying, especially since the diploma will cost $35K and because of that, I've also considered getting into a trade like plumbing as well, but my lack of skills, anxiety and possible health issues in the future if I do a trade long-term always make me reconsider my options. When it comes to relationships, my relationship with my dad is strained right now, although I care about him a lot, he remarried to a trophy wife who I dislike and had two new kids. Due to my current circumstances, I feel like I'm a terrible son and a disgrace to not only my dad, but my mum as well, who I'm still close to and helps take care of me. Even though I can blame my dad for how I ended up like this, like having to deal with his gambling addiction in my childhood and how he used to be overly harsh on me, I've realised that part of it is also my fault for not putting enough effort. On the bright side, I've started exercising around this year and have been improving physically. I've originally started at 100kg before going to the gym and now I'm around 87 kg in three months, which really helped me feel more confident with my body and I have no intention of stopping. Moreover, I recently talked to my older brother about everything, and he was very supportive and was willing to give advice, which helped me since I'm usually very emotionally vulnerable when I speak about these topics. Moreover, I did apply to Kinokuniya to help do stocktake for a day on a casual rate and managed to get the job thanks to referencing my side hustle as a eBay seller during the phone interview. I hope that it'll be a good stepping stone for me to be more likely accepted into jobs once studying or whatever happens in the future comes around. I know that was a mouthful, but I feel like I have to truly be honest when I need to find help. I want to ask for advice from others as well, how can I fix my life? I may be improving physically, but I can tell I'm not doing anything to improve my life career-wise and mentally, because I don't even know where to start at all, but I don't want to stay being a NEET and continue doomscrolling Twitter, Reddit and YouTube forever.

Premenstrual dysphoric disorder

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Hi guys, im new here, I don’t have anyone I feel like I can talk to atm, but my PMDD really effects me, I get really irritable and sad and suicidal sometimes, I’m on medication for dysthymia and also on the pill, but when it’s my time of the month I still get the PMDD symptoms, has anyone ever had this before? I am seeing my dr soon but wondering if anyone has the same issue as me?

Yr 11 Coping Skills with Depression

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Hi....I'm Hayley, Im in year 11 and considering dropping out. School is making me depressed to the point that I'm neglecting my health and have no energy or motivation to be happy

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im autistic, depressed 16 n stuff. i have no friends because i can never find ppl who i relate to or match my energy ykwim. so if u r lonely or want to adopt a silly introvert i am here!!! i like rock, cats, video games. yurr

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