hey guys, I am new here but would like to talk about a couple of things. Personally I don't really want to talk to my family about anything because they will probably be all pitiful and send me to a therapist or smth. Anyway, I have noticed that after a personal failure I am always really distracted and down. For example; after I lose a tennis match at school (tennis is my favourite hobby), I cannot focus on studying later. Or if I get a bad mark, I feel worthless for a day or so after and get sucked into a hole of feeling inadequate and comparing myself to others. Is this normal? How can I help it because it can be really distracting, especially when I need to study or something and I just cannot focus because I feel so down. Secondly, I have a pretty good friend group at school. They are all super nice people but most of them seem a lot closer to each other than to me, and I just feel like they are drifting away. I want to have deeper relationships with them so that I can discuss things like this but I feel like my relationships with my friends at school is kinda just stuck at the stage where we are joking around and nothing really further than that. How can I get to that next stage? I don't want all of my relationships to be so shallow that when I leave school they all just ditch me and then I'll have no friends
