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2 weeks ago
I started university and I have met so many people but I just am struggling to connect with anybody on a deeper level. I'm not actually friends with any of these people. I know these people but I don't KNOW them. AT THE SAME TIME, I'm realising I made NO highschool friends, but it seems i'm gradually drifting from all of those too. How the hell is this possible? I get FOMO so bad now. I don't get invited to group stuff anymore. What even happened in my life to screw up so bad that nobody wants to be friends with me. The issue isn't that I'm not meeting people because I'm meeting people. God, I feel so fucking lonely. I feel so lonely and I don't think anybody cares how I feel. And recently, it feels like my best friend has stood me up twice even though it's probably just miscommunication but I'm just upset. I'm upset because I'm already alone but now I can't even rely on my best friend. I can't rely on anybody and I am by myself and alone and I am alone. I went out the other day, great stuff, and I came home and I just don't even feel happy. I don't even feel happy when I go out. I run so I can forget about stuff. The only time I feel good is when I'm dancing to really loud music in my room or when I'm drunk. Thank god I live with my parents because otherwise I would be drinking and going out for runs at night. Bless my parents. I just don't understand why it feels like nobody cares about me and if anybody would stop to check in on me and see how I was doing I would really appreciate it. I didn't even have that many friends in highschool either. I went out w/a guy and that has made it even worse because i'll think about him whenever my life is shit and then i'll get even more sad. the worst part is if my social life sucks, my work and grades should be good right? no. somehow all aspects of my life are going shit right now. I'm grateful for everything I have (my parents, a roof over my head, my sister, food) but god. GOD. I literally cannot do this anymore. I just gotta get used to having no friends because this is some real world shit but HOW is my friend making ten times the amount of friends I am. HOW am i losing all my friends. I am alone and I want to cry but I can't even cry so it's just a hollow pit in my stomach. And don't give me no optimistic bs because i've already heard it. I don't care. Worse bc my problems are small compared to other shit. no, i dont have rent, bills. I gotta suck it up and stfu.
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2 weeks ago
Hi cantdothis,
Thank you for your post. We are so sorry to hear how challenging things have been lately and can hear the impact it is having on your wellbeing.
It is completely valid to be feeling upset by this - Friendships can deeply impact how we feel about ourselves. We can be really good at minimizing our own challenges by thinking “well, others probably have it worse…” but this does not mean that our concerns are trivial or less worthy. How you're feeling truly matters!
In the past little while, have you been able to talk with any of your current friends about how you feel? It is a lot easier said than done sometimes, but opening up and being honest with what you are feeling and what you are going through can be a powerful thing to do.
The transition from school to university can be a tricky one and we hope that you can treat yourself with kindness as you navigate it. You are not alone in feeling like it is harder to make and keep friends, even if it can feel that way sometimes. We hope that being a part of this community can reassure you that you are not alone in this.
If you ever wanted to talk some more, there is our lovely Support Service team, on 1300 22 4636 or online, or Headspace on 1800 650 890.
Feel free to jump back in here whenever you like to provide us with any updates and let us know how you’re travelling. We are here sitting with you.
Kind regards
Sophie M
Thank you for your post. We are so sorry to hear how challenging things have been lately and can hear the impact it is having on your wellbeing.
It is completely valid to be feeling upset by this - Friendships can deeply impact how we feel about ourselves. We can be really good at minimizing our own challenges by thinking “well, others probably have it worse…” but this does not mean that our concerns are trivial or less worthy. How you're feeling truly matters!
In the past little while, have you been able to talk with any of your current friends about how you feel? It is a lot easier said than done sometimes, but opening up and being honest with what you are feeling and what you are going through can be a powerful thing to do.
The transition from school to university can be a tricky one and we hope that you can treat yourself with kindness as you navigate it. You are not alone in feeling like it is harder to make and keep friends, even if it can feel that way sometimes. We hope that being a part of this community can reassure you that you are not alone in this.
If you ever wanted to talk some more, there is our lovely Support Service team, on 1300 22 4636 or online, or Headspace on 1800 650 890.
Feel free to jump back in here whenever you like to provide us with any updates and let us know how you’re travelling. We are here sitting with you.
Kind regards
Sophie M
