Overly Restrictive Parents

Pseedo
Community Member
So herein lyes my problem: The other day, I was in ebgames specifically with the intention of buying fallout 4 : GOTY edition, which was half price on special, and I had discussed with my mum before leaving, and as I showed her the cover, she for some reason immediately had a lot of convenient phone calls to make. So, after a few calls, I ask her to confirm to the cashier that she was in fact my mother and 15 or over, and she says no, not now, I will talk to dad about it later. This has been the case many times previously, and in all of them, I never ended up getting the item(s). Does anybody know a solution to this?
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white knight
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi pseedo, welcome

Its hard to make judgement on such situations in one paragraph.

You are old enough to get a part time job. At 15 my daughter got a job 3 nights a week at a pizza shop. She paid board (20%) and saved heaps for her own hobbies.

Have you considered working?. At 17 and 4 days old I joined the Air Force. Think about seeking your own income. It dissolves frustration

Tony WK

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni
hi Pseedo, what your mum is doing is passing the buck over to your dad, where a decision maybe made or nothing will be decided, but what it is doing is keeping you in limbo, not being able to get any decision, which is what you're looking for.
What you can do is get in contact with Headspace they will help you with an identity card, plus google 'How to get your own Medicare card at 15 years old' or 'Australia Post Keypass identity card' this will cost you I think $55. Geoff.

Croix
Community Champion
Community Champion

Dear Pseedo~

I can think of three reasons why your mum behaved as she did (apart from lumping the decision on your dad) , and one way you might be able to solve what seems to be an ongoing problem.

  • First of course our parents might simply be short of cash, and don't think a game - no matter how important to you, fits inside their budget. I don't know your family circumstances. It this is the case then Tony's answer - getting some money by doing jobs - could be the way to go. Talk it over with your parents.
  • Second you mum may have seen the MA15+ sticker on the picture of that Game Of The Year edition and thought you were too young. Reading your post I'm not sure if you were asking your mum to say if it was her or you over 15. Younger people are flooded with MA+ material from all sorts of places nowadays, it's almost part of daily life and most think nothing of it. See my next point for a solution to this.
  • Third a lot of parents think their offspring spend too much times on games, and should be doing other things. As games are a world in themselves and fun most offspring disagree. In order to get around this hurdle, and also possibly convince try your parents you are mature enough to handle 15+ why not try to do a deal?

You might find if you offered to do a number of jobs around the house - not exciting ones I'm afraid, just washing up, laundry, ironing, babysitting .... well you get the picture. A win-win situation, your parents get some of the load lifted off them with the chores and are impressed with a reliable willing offspring, you get a game or two.

So what do you think?

Croix