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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Cjt121 Relationship vs family - confused and overthinking
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My anxiety is being triggered again by overthinking I think it is leading to worry. First of all I’m in a relationship of 6 months and my father isn’t very supportive of it at all. He has laid some ground rules that he doesn’t want to meet my boyfrie... View more

My anxiety is being triggered again by overthinking I think it is leading to worry. First of all I’m in a relationship of 6 months and my father isn’t very supportive of it at all. He has laid some ground rules that he doesn’t want to meet my boyfriend unless we have been dating for two years (I think this is way too far and it’s slowly killing me). He has this thing where he doesn’t think it will last and this worries me. I catch myself thinking “maybe he’s right” and it won’t last and I may as well break up with him now to save myself hurt. But I love him, I love him so much that it makes me cry. And I’m terrified of being left by him or alone. Secondly, we are moving out together next year in January but not just us two, with other people. Like a share house. My father has doubt about this and doesn’t think it’s a good idea, and my nan doesn’t either. But they both haven’t met him. My nan is more old school though and doesn’t entirely understand. I’m scared, confused and worried about the situation when I know I should be excited. I don’t like having these doubts clouding my head, I wanna do this and be happy. Why do I feel like this.

Maui757 I'm terrified to go an overseas holiday!??
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Hey guys, So this might seem odd to some, I really don't know. But my boyfriend and I have booked a trip to Iceland and Europe in December this year. It's a celebratory trip because I finish uni in a couple of weeks, and we've both wanted to go overs... View more

Hey guys, So this might seem odd to some, I really don't know. But my boyfriend and I have booked a trip to Iceland and Europe in December this year. It's a celebratory trip because I finish uni in a couple of weeks, and we've both wanted to go overseas for ages, and it's our first real holiday together. We've been together for over 4 years now btw. My problem is, I've never been overseas! The longest plane ride I've ever been on was just under 4 hours, and I'm anxious about the 14hrs+ I will be stuck on a plane. I'm usually ok once we're in the air, but as I've said, I've never been on a trip so long before. Luckily my boyfriend has been overseas, so he's got no problems and will support me, but I'm still scared! The other big issue for me and travelling that scares me, is I suffer from IBS (a stomach condition for those of you who don't know) and due to the amount of stress I've been under this year, it's been pretty bad. So I'm so, SO worried about getting sick on our holiday! I have this crazy fear of getting sick, like I absolutely can't stand being sick in the stomach. I know no one enjoys being sick, but it absolutely terrifies me when I get sick, so naturally I get very anxious when there's a possibility I could get sick.. Like when travelling! Does anyone have any experiences? Any tips to put my mind at ease? What happens if I get sick on the plane? What if I eat something that my stomach doesn't agree with and I still have another 7 hours of flight - I've never used a plane toilet, and I'm terrified to do so in general, let alone having to do so with an upset stomach!! (Sorry for the details - gross I know). And our trip is made up of 2 tours, both of which include a bit of driving on a bus - Again, what if my stomach gets upset then?? I'm so scared, and I really don't want to be. This is meant to be a relaxing, enjoyable experience, and something to look forward to. Instead, my anxiety is making it something I'm starting to dread, and that is really depressing. FYI I do see a doctor about my stomach issues, and I take a thousand and one things daily to try and keep it working as normally as possible, but sometimes it just does what it wants. A lot of the time actually.. I have a VERY strict diet, which is yet another issue overseas - What the hell do I eat!? Anyway, I have had many doc consults and it is IBS as far as we know so far (more tests ongoing). Please help! I want to enjoy this Maui

Gumiho Both my depression and my anxiety are both completely out of control.
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I am currently suffering from both anxiety and depression. They are both completley out of control and it is seriously affecting my ability to function. my psychiatrist recently changed my medication. However this has led me to my mental health to se... View more

I am currently suffering from both anxiety and depression. They are both completley out of control and it is seriously affecting my ability to function. my psychiatrist recently changed my medication. However this has led me to my mental health to seriously degenerate beyond my control. Whats worse is that i cant get into see them for another month. My psychologist is the most useless individual that i have i ever met. He never listens and repeats the same use line everytime i see him. I am seriously out of control here and i dont know what to do.

Fudge---GB Never seem to be happy
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Hello, sorry for the long post but here goes. Im 23, live at home and suffer from depression/ anxiety for long time not necessarily realising it. Ever since I was born I've always had problems with my weight which has always lead me to be a fairly an... View more

Hello, sorry for the long post but here goes. Im 23, live at home and suffer from depression/ anxiety for long time not necessarily realising it. Ever since I was born I've always had problems with my weight which has always lead me to be a fairly anti-social individual whereby I would think to myself "if I was at a healthy weight I would be more encouraged to go out and enjoy myself." Though I thought like this I'm an extremely bubbley and fun person to be around, well so my friends say. During this time I did surprising well at school , I got a job in a large retail store and went to university studying in a design field, where naturally people, tutors and lecturers are always critical of your work to encourage you to push yourself and think outside the box. I enjoyed it and was fairly good at it because naturally I'm a good drawer, but I always struggled with the workload given (always second-guessing my designs) which made me difficult to motivate myself whereby I would fall behind my peers. I passed my first 2 years (it was a struggle but I completed it) but I was never happy with myself always thinking it wasn't good enough. By the third year I struggled once again with the workload with my peers always being ahead of me and I deferred. I went to see a psychiatrist and thought there would be something I could do or give me that would keep me focused on what I was doing believing the negative thoughts I was feeling (I've had these thoughts for along time even during my school years) was natural and just apart of life. By the time I was 20 I began smoking weed on a regular basis where in the first time in my life I genuinely started to look after myself. I went on a diet and began exercising regularly (something I never would of done beforehand) and ended up losing approximately 35-40kgs, in a about 3-4 months but I still wasn't happy with myself. Since I lost my weight, co-workers and my friends all become sceptical of me and began treating differently, gossiping about me and it got to a point where I had to quit my job and lost contact with my friends (though I never really was in contact with them on a regular basis anyway). Fast forward to now Im 23, unemployed, can't be bothered doing anything, quit smoking weed and gained a lot of my weight back and I feel as though whatever I do or try to do will never make me happy, so I don't see the point. Seen a counsellor but didn't really do much, and now all I do is sleep and question my existence.Thanks

BlueBerries Relationship breakdown because of my Depression and Anxiety
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Hi all, This is my first attempt at using an online forum. I'm here because I am in a precious relationship that is breaking down because of my incapacity to perceive any worth in myself. I am a very insecure and very lonely person in spite of my car... View more

Hi all, This is my first attempt at using an online forum. I'm here because I am in a precious relationship that is breaking down because of my incapacity to perceive any worth in myself. I am a very insecure and very lonely person in spite of my caring and wonderful boyfriend. He is not always the best at making decisions or understanding my mental position, but I suppose the point is that he tries his hardest. But over time I am becoming increasingly stressful to be with, because I have grown a toxic insecurity because of my self-perceived worthlessness and ugliness. I have never felt beautiful, or wanted, and I project this onto my boyfriend by blaming him for not making me feel this way in our relationship. I have caused him to be nervous around any attractive woman, and I have been developing a shameful habit of needing to check browser history and messages. I refused to meet his manager just because she was female and I'm afraid that he will realise how much better basically any other woman is than me. I feel loneliness and ugliness entrenched into my very soul. I cry all the time, and have episodes of chronic suffering and anger. I have been going through a year of therapy and I am on anti-depressants, but those days that put me under always pull me to the very bottom. I know you can't really gather too much from what I have described but I am desperate for someone who understands to please reassure me that this torture isn't permanent and that there's a possibility that my beautiful relationship survives this. I would love to hear from someone who has experienced this but survived and had their relationship recover. I'd appreciate any advice to get past this insecurity and learn to trust again. Thank you so very much.

j-a-p Happiness making me sad
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My dad passed away from cancer in 2012, being a dad to five and my dad it has been super hard. My mum obviously had to deal with this with little support but after 5 years of being alone she’s moved on, coincidentally i have only just started to real... View more

My dad passed away from cancer in 2012, being a dad to five and my dad it has been super hard. My mum obviously had to deal with this with little support but after 5 years of being alone she’s moved on, coincidentally i have only just started to realise the loss, i can’t remember his face anymore. My mums happiness is important to me but somehow this all makes me so upset and i’ve only ever had an anxiety attack once but i think it’s happening again, obviously i want to be happy and also want my mum to be happy. I should also add that my mums relationships have already pushed 2 kids to leave, one is only 10 and i’m not sure if she’s going to come back. I don’t want to leave but i think that’s the only thing that is going to make me happy again but i also don’t want to because i’m only 15 and i don’t know how to deal with anything on my own. Has anyone else felt upset because of someone else happiness before? I feel like a shitty person but i feel shitty.

Littlebluefish I'm scared to work
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I've had anxiety since I was twelve years old, and after years of trying I finally got a job. I was so happy and excited at first, and although I was terrified at first, I was also so excited. It's only been a month, and suddenly I feel like I can't ... View more

I've had anxiety since I was twelve years old, and after years of trying I finally got a job. I was so happy and excited at first, and although I was terrified at first, I was also so excited. It's only been a month, and suddenly I feel like I can't go into work, I can't even leave the house. I'm stuck between not being able to go in because I'm scared I'm not good enough, but not being able to call in sick because I'm letting everyone down... I don't know what I can do at this point, I'm worried I'll have to quit just to stop this constant feeling. Has anyone else experienced this? What did you do to overcome it? I'm starting to run out of options...

redmanna Whats wrong with me?
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Hi everyone, first of a bit about me. I'm an 18 year old guy who is about to finish Year 12. I am usually a happy sporty, fit guy who enjoys being with friends, family and playing sports. But for the past 2 weeks I haven't been myself, I don't have a... View more

Hi everyone, first of a bit about me. I'm an 18 year old guy who is about to finish Year 12. I am usually a happy sporty, fit guy who enjoys being with friends, family and playing sports. But for the past 2 weeks I haven't been myself, I don't have any energy or motivation even though i have final exams next week. I don't see the point in anything. I have to force myself to eat which was never a problem. I just want to lie in bed and never leave. I need my alone time to recharge but i feel lonely and disconnected in a way I don't know. I don't think I am depressed as I am emotionless yet sad at the same time which at first I thought would pass but its been like this for 2 weeks. I love music and films but recently I've been watching a lot more maybe so that I could feel what the characters are feeling where its happiness, love or sadness. I don't know whats wrong with me, I feel sad yet emotionless. This isn't normal... All advice would be very appreciated.

Thestral24 Scared about the possibility of failure and what it will mean for my future.
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I am 24 years old about to be 25, I work as waitress and I am considering in going to University to help get myself a better paying job and future. But out of all the courses they have, there's only one I am interested in.Simply because it was someth... View more

I am 24 years old about to be 25, I work as waitress and I am considering in going to University to help get myself a better paying job and future. But out of all the courses they have, there's only one I am interested in.Simply because it was something I would like to learn more about, and the degree is said to have good job prospects. But I am worried, I have never study before and I am not confident in myself at all, and I don't have much to look back on to give myself hope that I can do this. Which has resulted this bomb going off in my head, this never ending fear and anxiety about what if I can't do this course or can't get decent job afterwards? That I wasted the rest of my twenties doing this degree. Or can't find something else that I can do, that can help get me out of my low paying job. How will I cope being waitress in my 30s, not making enough to move into my own place. I don't know how to deal with this constant stress and anxiety over the future. I haven't been able to sleep for the past two weeks, or relax at all it has relentless. The doctor started giving me medication for depression but I am not sure it's going to help. Can anyone give me advice who has been through something similar?

Chicken1 Parents and Anxiety....
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My parents and I have a great relationship, no doubt, however we don’t always see eye to eye, especially me and my mum. My mum and I have a very close relationship however she is often short tempered with the smallest of mistakes, which I understand.... View more

My parents and I have a great relationship, no doubt, however we don’t always see eye to eye, especially me and my mum. My mum and I have a very close relationship however she is often short tempered with the smallest of mistakes, which I understand. When she gets angry however she brings up all the mistakes I’ve made in the past and prods at my confidence and ability. I guess this has been her way of motivating me for years, asking me to prove her wrong . Until now. Her shouts causes me to panic. I can’t control this anxiety caused by her voice her words every time she raises her voice at me when she’s angry I just curl into fetal position unable to move. I just block my ears and cry. What makes it worse is she tells me to stop acting or being dramatic and well my anxiety just gets worse and for some reason makes her more angry. I’m writing about it now because it’s happened on several occasions just in the past month and I don’t think it’s a normal reaction to have a panic attack when your mum shouts. I’ve tried telling my dad and he says it’s just part of being a teenager. But I don’t know anymore. What should I do?

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