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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Saddo_in_Stilettos_22 Mean Girls
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Hey everyone, I really need some honest, logical advice here. I just joined this site and I to be understood. My dad has an influential position in my country, and he is always away! Sometimes he goes internatially, and I really always miss him. Thou... View more

Hey everyone, I really need some honest, logical advice here. I just joined this site and I to be understood. My dad has an influential position in my country, and he is always away! Sometimes he goes internatially, and I really always miss him. Though I feel bad, because sometimes I forget about him when we are eating dinner or something like that I have really good friends that make me feel happy, but I dont really feel comftable telling them how I feel, when I'm lonely. I want somebody to talk to, when I really can open up. I feel so lonely and sad sometimes, and stay up crying a lot. My mum hears me sometimes and comes into my bed to give me a cuddle (yes, I'm a teenager and she still does that) and asks what's wrong, but I don't want to tell her. She doesn't seem like the right person. Nobody in my life does. I'm constantly pressured about how I look, because I have a lot of zits and they just won't go away even if I put cream on. The popular girls at my school gossip a lot and sometimes I think about me. Girls can me names I've heard, but they are too much of cowards to say to my face. I've started to cry so much that I feel queasy. I don't like life anymore, with the stress, loneliness and sadness. I just want to feel happy and good about myself again, the bubbly and loud girl that isn't afraid to have fun and be weird. I would never commit suicide, that would be too selfish. No matter how much I am not enjoying life, people in my life love me, and I can't stamp on their hearts like that. It would make their lives harder, and making my life end would be awful. It would hurt a lot too. So I'm definitely not doing that. What can I do to get my life, body and mind mentally healthy and happy? I don't want to hear sappy sentimental stuff, just some advice and support. Have you all got my back? What do you think I should do? Saddo_in_Stilettos_22

Stevedonk Anxiety confused
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Hey my names Steve I’m 23 year old male it’s a long story but last year I ended a 5 year relationship towards the end of it I was feeling amazing all my self and felt like I had to go out and attack the world! So I were single for 4 -5 months after e... View more

Hey my names Steve I’m 23 year old male it’s a long story but last year I ended a 5 year relationship towards the end of it I was feeling amazing all my self and felt like I had to go out and attack the world! So I were single for 4 -5 months after ending it and was doing single stuff with mates but noticed that I was slowly loosing interest in everything I once loved like everything!! The main thing I noticed is that I have lost interest in females and have no sexual attraction to them (always have loved them and still do) if I find a attractive female in town I don’t even think twice to look and feel no emotion to them? As the year has gone on my head has been a big mess it’s making me go crazy and really depressed, last couple of weeks I have been freaking out thay I am gay? Nothing wrong with being gay but from what I was to all this confusion I’m freaking out! Like I used to have such a big ego and so much energy but now I feel like I am in a big deep dark hole with a cloud over me constanly thinking and thinking the worst I know I’m not gay but does this relate to depression and anxiety? Thank you

Miranda55 Ex Bf with depression do I help or move on?
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I had been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and we had a perfect relationship. Until two months ago he grandma died, he was in a job he hated and other things happend then he got depression. Eventually on one of his downs he broke up with me say... View more

I had been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and we had a perfect relationship. Until two months ago he grandma died, he was in a job he hated and other things happend then he got depression. Eventually on one of his downs he broke up with me saying he doesn't want to drag me into it and he needs to work on himself (which I totally understand) But he contacts me everyday texting and calling. He then had said a couple times he didn't actually brake up with me. And he also calls me Bub again when he's in a good mood and puts x's on messages. When I don't message him back or call him. He messages me heaps and call heaps and gets hysterical. I thought we were all good again. But then I said about going to see him and he had another depression down and basically broke up with me again. It's so confusing he's so dependent on talking to me. Ive told him not to contact me anymore as I need to move on with my life. And It's hurting being his friend. Im not sure what I should do. He won't get help. he's cut his friends out and his parents aren't helping. I'm the only one he talks to and he bawls his eyes out when I say I can't talk to him anymore. what should I do?

Imagine_That Anxiety, Depression & Weight issues
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Hi. This is the first time I've opened up to anyone (other than family) about my personal battle with my Weight, General, Social & Panic Anxiety as well as Depression. I suffer from all of the above which is apparently largely because of my weight (d... View more

Hi. This is the first time I've opened up to anyone (other than family) about my personal battle with my Weight, General, Social & Panic Anxiety as well as Depression. I suffer from all of the above which is apparently largely because of my weight (doctors statement) I agree with that to an extent. So I'm currently on medication to help with the weight loss, but losing weight doesn't seem to be doing anything with my anxiety or depression. I've lost 12kgs in a year! (Im 180kg+) it's been an huge up hill climb for me. I'm good for a few months then one day I'll wake up with self doubt & hating myself and go straight to comfort eating. My panic attacks are so bad that even while on medication I'll still have minor attacks, but I don't have one attack and that's it. No I have a panic attacks for minimum 2 hours, light headedness, heart palpitations & sweats. My first panic attack was so scary I called an ambo as I thought I was having a heart attack, when the ambo arrived they hooked me up to the heart machine. My heart was 134bpm. I was diagnosed with everything 1 year ago, it was actually the mental health doctor in the emergency room that said it. My social anxiety is what causes most of the attacks. Just the thought of being in a heavly populated area, people judging me, if I was to trip over in public and the list goes on. My depression is well.. depression. I lost my uncle 4 months ago, it was a long week in ICU and it was basically icing on the cake with everything else terrible going on. It's damaged me to the point that I've blocked all emotions and am so emotionally vonrable that anything could break me and I'm afford of it. I'm not a huge talker/sharer I rather listen and try to help other people so I apologise if any of what I typed it short or weird but yeah... I would just like to know if there is anyone else like me or if anyone has tips for anything I've typed. I'd appreciate help/inputs.

sad-artist Bad reaction to breakup.
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I'm a 20 year old female who recently broke up with a live in boyfriend. We had been together for 5 years. I'm struggling. I can't eat, I can't get motivated to do anything. I'm constantly anxious and get nauseous. My stomach has a heart beat and my ... View more

I'm a 20 year old female who recently broke up with a live in boyfriend. We had been together for 5 years. I'm struggling. I can't eat, I can't get motivated to do anything. I'm constantly anxious and get nauseous. My stomach has a heart beat and my chest is tight and heart beats fast. I know it's for the best. I'm glad it happened. But I'm reacting badly. I don't know who I am , I don't know what to do now. And I don't like being in the flat on my own. I spend no time there I'm always with my mum. I don't want to feel like this, I don't like constantly crying , I don't like not feeling like myself. But I don't know what to do to fix it. The break up was mutual we were to different he just wanted to hang out with friends constantly, never texted me never came home never wanted to spend time with me and would never make sacrifices, and I'd be angry and horrible because of it. I feel like I'm going to explode physically. And emotionally. It's frustrating because I know it's for the best. I don't know why I'm feeling this way. I guess I've never been alone, and don't have my own life. And now I'm on my own I don't know how to handle myself. I'm scared and can't get myself up to get into a new routine. I need help. I'm missing work, I can't function normally.

Cjt121 Relationship vs family - confused and overthinking
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My anxiety is being triggered again by overthinking I think it is leading to worry. First of all I’m in a relationship of 6 months and my father isn’t very supportive of it at all. He has laid some ground rules that he doesn’t want to meet my boyfrie... View more

My anxiety is being triggered again by overthinking I think it is leading to worry. First of all I’m in a relationship of 6 months and my father isn’t very supportive of it at all. He has laid some ground rules that he doesn’t want to meet my boyfriend unless we have been dating for two years (I think this is way too far and it’s slowly killing me). He has this thing where he doesn’t think it will last and this worries me. I catch myself thinking “maybe he’s right” and it won’t last and I may as well break up with him now to save myself hurt. But I love him, I love him so much that it makes me cry. And I’m terrified of being left by him or alone. Secondly, we are moving out together next year in January but not just us two, with other people. Like a share house. My father has doubt about this and doesn’t think it’s a good idea, and my nan doesn’t either. But they both haven’t met him. My nan is more old school though and doesn’t entirely understand. I’m scared, confused and worried about the situation when I know I should be excited. I don’t like having these doubts clouding my head, I wanna do this and be happy. Why do I feel like this.

Maui757 I'm terrified to go an overseas holiday!??
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Hey guys, So this might seem odd to some, I really don't know. But my boyfriend and I have booked a trip to Iceland and Europe in December this year. It's a celebratory trip because I finish uni in a couple of weeks, and we've both wanted to go overs... View more

Hey guys, So this might seem odd to some, I really don't know. But my boyfriend and I have booked a trip to Iceland and Europe in December this year. It's a celebratory trip because I finish uni in a couple of weeks, and we've both wanted to go overseas for ages, and it's our first real holiday together. We've been together for over 4 years now btw. My problem is, I've never been overseas! The longest plane ride I've ever been on was just under 4 hours, and I'm anxious about the 14hrs+ I will be stuck on a plane. I'm usually ok once we're in the air, but as I've said, I've never been on a trip so long before. Luckily my boyfriend has been overseas, so he's got no problems and will support me, but I'm still scared! The other big issue for me and travelling that scares me, is I suffer from IBS (a stomach condition for those of you who don't know) and due to the amount of stress I've been under this year, it's been pretty bad. So I'm so, SO worried about getting sick on our holiday! I have this crazy fear of getting sick, like I absolutely can't stand being sick in the stomach. I know no one enjoys being sick, but it absolutely terrifies me when I get sick, so naturally I get very anxious when there's a possibility I could get sick.. Like when travelling! Does anyone have any experiences? Any tips to put my mind at ease? What happens if I get sick on the plane? What if I eat something that my stomach doesn't agree with and I still have another 7 hours of flight - I've never used a plane toilet, and I'm terrified to do so in general, let alone having to do so with an upset stomach!! (Sorry for the details - gross I know). And our trip is made up of 2 tours, both of which include a bit of driving on a bus - Again, what if my stomach gets upset then?? I'm so scared, and I really don't want to be. This is meant to be a relaxing, enjoyable experience, and something to look forward to. Instead, my anxiety is making it something I'm starting to dread, and that is really depressing. FYI I do see a doctor about my stomach issues, and I take a thousand and one things daily to try and keep it working as normally as possible, but sometimes it just does what it wants. A lot of the time actually.. I have a VERY strict diet, which is yet another issue overseas - What the hell do I eat!? Anyway, I have had many doc consults and it is IBS as far as we know so far (more tests ongoing). Please help! I want to enjoy this Maui

Gumiho Both my depression and my anxiety are both completely out of control.
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I am currently suffering from both anxiety and depression. They are both completley out of control and it is seriously affecting my ability to function. my psychiatrist recently changed my medication. However this has led me to my mental health to se... View more

I am currently suffering from both anxiety and depression. They are both completley out of control and it is seriously affecting my ability to function. my psychiatrist recently changed my medication. However this has led me to my mental health to seriously degenerate beyond my control. Whats worse is that i cant get into see them for another month. My psychologist is the most useless individual that i have i ever met. He never listens and repeats the same use line everytime i see him. I am seriously out of control here and i dont know what to do.

Fudge---GB Never seem to be happy
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Hello, sorry for the long post but here goes. Im 23, live at home and suffer from depression/ anxiety for long time not necessarily realising it. Ever since I was born I've always had problems with my weight which has always lead me to be a fairly an... View more

Hello, sorry for the long post but here goes. Im 23, live at home and suffer from depression/ anxiety for long time not necessarily realising it. Ever since I was born I've always had problems with my weight which has always lead me to be a fairly anti-social individual whereby I would think to myself "if I was at a healthy weight I would be more encouraged to go out and enjoy myself." Though I thought like this I'm an extremely bubbley and fun person to be around, well so my friends say. During this time I did surprising well at school , I got a job in a large retail store and went to university studying in a design field, where naturally people, tutors and lecturers are always critical of your work to encourage you to push yourself and think outside the box. I enjoyed it and was fairly good at it because naturally I'm a good drawer, but I always struggled with the workload given (always second-guessing my designs) which made me difficult to motivate myself whereby I would fall behind my peers. I passed my first 2 years (it was a struggle but I completed it) but I was never happy with myself always thinking it wasn't good enough. By the third year I struggled once again with the workload with my peers always being ahead of me and I deferred. I went to see a psychiatrist and thought there would be something I could do or give me that would keep me focused on what I was doing believing the negative thoughts I was feeling (I've had these thoughts for along time even during my school years) was natural and just apart of life. By the time I was 20 I began smoking weed on a regular basis where in the first time in my life I genuinely started to look after myself. I went on a diet and began exercising regularly (something I never would of done beforehand) and ended up losing approximately 35-40kgs, in a about 3-4 months but I still wasn't happy with myself. Since I lost my weight, co-workers and my friends all become sceptical of me and began treating differently, gossiping about me and it got to a point where I had to quit my job and lost contact with my friends (though I never really was in contact with them on a regular basis anyway). Fast forward to now Im 23, unemployed, can't be bothered doing anything, quit smoking weed and gained a lot of my weight back and I feel as though whatever I do or try to do will never make me happy, so I don't see the point. Seen a counsellor but didn't really do much, and now all I do is sleep and question my existence.Thanks

BlueBerries Relationship breakdown because of my Depression and Anxiety
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Hi all, This is my first attempt at using an online forum. I'm here because I am in a precious relationship that is breaking down because of my incapacity to perceive any worth in myself. I am a very insecure and very lonely person in spite of my car... View more

Hi all, This is my first attempt at using an online forum. I'm here because I am in a precious relationship that is breaking down because of my incapacity to perceive any worth in myself. I am a very insecure and very lonely person in spite of my caring and wonderful boyfriend. He is not always the best at making decisions or understanding my mental position, but I suppose the point is that he tries his hardest. But over time I am becoming increasingly stressful to be with, because I have grown a toxic insecurity because of my self-perceived worthlessness and ugliness. I have never felt beautiful, or wanted, and I project this onto my boyfriend by blaming him for not making me feel this way in our relationship. I have caused him to be nervous around any attractive woman, and I have been developing a shameful habit of needing to check browser history and messages. I refused to meet his manager just because she was female and I'm afraid that he will realise how much better basically any other woman is than me. I feel loneliness and ugliness entrenched into my very soul. I cry all the time, and have episodes of chronic suffering and anger. I have been going through a year of therapy and I am on anti-depressants, but those days that put me under always pull me to the very bottom. I know you can't really gather too much from what I have described but I am desperate for someone who understands to please reassure me that this torture isn't permanent and that there's a possibility that my beautiful relationship survives this. I would love to hear from someone who has experienced this but survived and had their relationship recover. I'd appreciate any advice to get past this insecurity and learn to trust again. Thank you so very much.

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